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To wear red to a wedding?

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WhosAfraidOfLittleOldMe · 12/09/2024 21:36

It’s my cousin’s wedding coming up and it has taken me forever to find a dress that actually fits and looks nice! It is red midi dress with an a-line skirt and sleeves (and POCKETS!!).

I have seen a post on Facebook this evening, one of those click bait things from Reddit, saying that it’s inappropriate to wear red to a wedding, because it is saying that you have had a relationship with the groom??

Cue major panic at my dress being inappropriate when I finally thought I’d sorted it out. After 15 minutes I have talked myself round, but only based on the fact that it is a lesbian wedding and so there is in fact no groom at all 😂

Is this an actual thing, not wearing red to a wedding?? I thought the only colours you had to stay away from were white/cream/ivory!!

YABU: of course you don’t wear red to wedding

YANBU: you can wear red to a wedding

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Marmalady75 · 15/11/2024 06:52

What a load of twaddle! I wore red to a wedding once and I wouldn’t touch the groom
with a ten foot pole. I wore red because it suits my colouring.

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Mermaidsarereal · 18/09/2024 14:33

I've never heard of that! Obviously not white but never heard of avoiding certain colours! I get married in November and will now be looking out for people wearing red, black or green 😆

jasminocereusbritannicus · 18/09/2024 12:52

God I’ve never heard that! I had a red fascinator, shoes and shawl at my daughter!s wedding!!!😮😮😮😮🫣🤣🤣🤣

biscuitandcake · 17/09/2024 21:06

It goes
Green - unlucky
White - wants to be bride
Pastel tones - wants to be bridesmaid
Red - slept with the groom
Yellow - slept with the bride
Orange - slept with the groom and the bride but they don't know
Purple - slept with the groom and bride and they both know
Black - wants to be the vicar
Stripy - wants to be a zebra
Blue - everyone knows what that means, but I don't want to say it directly

SpottySpotSpots · 17/09/2024 21:06

Just looked back at my wedding photos (15 years ago) - multiple guests in red dresses (incl some v. traditional relatives), several red pashminas and jackets. The registrar wore a red jacket. I didnt feel upstaged, the photos with them in are as beautiful as all the others. I think you're fine!

Onwardsandsidewaysyetagain · 17/09/2024 20:57

For certain ethnic groups, there is an etiquette for not wearing red, I think these have already been mentioned on this thread. Kim Kardashian wore a red dress to that very luxurious Indian wedding and was criticised for it.

Otherwise, what a stunning dress! I love to see people dressed in things they like and will wear again. A friend wore a red dress to my wedding a long time ago, never thought about it til it was discussed on Mumsnet.

Aligirlbear · 17/09/2024 20:51

Looks lovely - you had me saying yes it’s fine as soon as you mentioned pockets ! Seriously it will be fine

CandyCanes23 · 17/09/2024 20:40

My aunt would say not to wear a red hat… red hat, no knickers apparently! Similar idea I guess. I only found this out when my mum wore a red hat to my sister’s wedding, and us bridesmaids were in unlucky green (my favourite colour)

waitingforthebus · 17/09/2024 20:39

I was expecting to read the thread and hear something like the bride was wearing red/ they'd ask for specific colours and red wasn't one of them etc etc.... but no. Red is absolutely fine and the dress is gorgeous!

6ixThirty · 17/09/2024 20:34

WhosAfraidOfLittleOldMe · 12/09/2024 22:03

The dress:
https://joliemoi.co.uk/products/copy-of-gh-1818-green-1

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Can't be bothered to read the rest of the thread, sorry, but that is a gorgeous dress! I think you should wear it!

Notateacheranymore · 17/09/2024 20:30

If that red “thing” is true, then my late mum had an affair with my husband!! What bull!!!

goestheweasel · 17/09/2024 19:27

I wore red to my dad's second wedding so that's a bit awkward...

NeverDropYourMooncup · 17/09/2024 19:22

Theunamedcat · 12/09/2024 21:54

So as previously mentioned in years gone by

Red = slept with the groom
Green = bad luck
Black = objects
White = trying to be the bride

These days it's more of a free for all I would personally stear away from anything too attention grabbing in photos but there are ways around it a friend of mine made her photos black and white/sepia because someone wore such a bright dress every photo with them threw the balance off in the pictures 😂

don't forget

blue - trying to be the something blue
grey - trying to be the MoB
pink - wanted to be a bridesmaid/bright pink to overshadow the bride
yellow - too bright and attention seeking
orange - just no
brown - clashes with everything
beige - are you grandma?
purple - it's all about you isn't it?
mauve - are you his grandma?
silver - showoff
gold - trashy
bronze - you're not a statue

In short, whatever colour you choose, there is somebody somewhere who could take exception to it if they wanted to. So wear what you want.

dapsnotplimsolls · 17/09/2024 19:20

WhosAfraidOfLittleOldMe · 12/09/2024 21:57

It is definitely not silly, lacy, clingy or skimpy in any way. Only really showing a bit of ankle 😂

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Jezebel 😁

Kittyloulou · 17/09/2024 19:17

The dress is beautiful and very suitable for a wedding. Wear it!

almondflake · 17/09/2024 19:13

@WhosAfraidOfLittleOldMe that's a beautiful dress , you're going to look amazing in it .

GCAcademic · 17/09/2024 19:07

I wore a red dress to my own wedding

TeaHagTeaBag · 17/09/2024 18:58

I've been to two weddings where I'd slept with the groom. One was my own and wore a red dress. Can't remember what I wore to the other...

MamaBearCharlie · 17/09/2024 18:57

MamaBearCharlie · 17/09/2024 18:56

I just persuaded my bestie to not wear (an absolute stinker of) a red dress to her high school boyfriend’s wedding because of this.

STONKER. Not stinker. She looked amazing. 😂🥴

MamaBearCharlie · 17/09/2024 18:56

I just persuaded my bestie to not wear (an absolute stinker of) a red dress to her high school boyfriend’s wedding because of this.

beanii · 17/09/2024 18:55

What a load of nonsense 🤣

Jiski · 17/09/2024 18:54

Never heard of this. Indian brides wear red so you don’t wear red to those weddings though.

Abbyant · 17/09/2024 18:41

I wore a maroon coloured dress to a wedding last week and no one said a thing about, however the girl that turned up in a mini skirt and white corset got plenty said about her.

Bigminnie1 · 12/09/2024 23:06

Absolutely gorgeous dress and absolutely fine to wear!

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