She bought the same coat as me.

That’s the biggest form of a compliment. Do you socialise with your friend on a regular basis or just occasionally. If the latter, suck it up.

This wouldn’t bother me really but she should probably have asked if you minded. At the end of the day, there will be thousands walking around in the same coat so I couldn’t give this energy. Don’t wear it when you meet with her if it concerns you to that degree.

One of my friends and me have very similar styles. We one done an order online and showed each other the next day what we ordered, basically all the same stuff. A few weeks later we went out and met up with her mum, we were all wearing the same dress 🤣. I get a coat is outerwear so seen more but then how many other people also have the same coat?

I remember two mums at school had identical coats and always stood together. It was way weird and they looked like it was some sort of issued uniform!

Yikes that’s a little much.

WHERE IS THE COAT!!!!!?????

OP I think I love you. You seem very clever and funny to me. Hope you get over your difficult time, and enjoy your coat!

It's odd to buy exactly the same one while she's with you and if a friend was doing it regularly, it would put me off meeting them tbh. A while back I was struggling to find an affordable winter coat I liked and my friend suggested looking a shop I never would have thought to go to. She pointed out the coat that she recently bought and I liked it, but went with something slightly different, it wouldn't have crossed my mind to buy the exact same one!

If this were a reverse I have a sneaky feeling the replies would be much different.

So you all copy each other - be glad you have nice bunch of girls.

Can I have a link? Promise I won’t buy it.

You've learned that you never give the accurate information when asked where you got something that someone else likes - you now know to respond with "Oh this old thing - I found it in a bag at the back of my wardrobe. I must have bought it and forgotten about it until now" or "Oh, I can't remember" or "Oh, Primark - twenty pounds!!!!" or something similar.

If you don't want people showing up in the same thing as you're wearing, time to get creative with your responses.

Friend can tell herself OP was "fine with it" because OP was present when friend ordered and OP didn't say anything.

I like you @imgonnadowild

Your friend may have your coat but I bet she doesn’t have your sense of humour.

For those calling the OP childish, don't you think the friend's behaviour was hugely childish?

Seeing an item you want and not being able to wait til to you get home before ordering it? The friend's behaviour smacks of Veruca Salt "I want it, and I want it now!". Not being abe to cope with the fact your friend owns something that you would like for yourself.

YANBU OP and you aren't the childish one in this scenario

Are you 12? 😂. Honestly no it wouldn’t bother me in the slightest.

Ps I quite like twinning with my best friends,makes me smile when we turn up in similar outfits…but maybe I’m weird 😁

It’s the kind of thing that would have bothered me as a teenager - these days I’d have taken it as a compliment!

I wouldn't feel like a dick, and I have reached the age where I don't really care what people think.

I am a completely different build, colouring and height to all of my friends, so the same garment would look totally different on me to anyone else.

Also, none of my coats are very noticeable. My parka is just a black generic looking parka which is probably identical to what a lot of woman are wearing. And my black wool coat is also pretty similar or even the same as what you might see on other women in public

If it's a black coat then you're being unreasonable. If it's unusual e.g. red with a fur lined hood etc then she's out of order.

Maybe but I always think to myself if a person is constantly copying someone else (I mean repeatedly not just the odd occasion!) then they can’t have much imagination to think for themself.

Sometimes it stems from jealousy - I think back to when my kids were little and the tantrums if another sibling had something the other one didn’t. Even if it was something they didn’t even want, it was just the reaction of feeling ‘outdone’. I think some adults still act like this. I’ve seen it myself when you can actually physically see the envy on someone’s face if they think someone is better off than them.

I get it OP. I once worked with someone who really admired my clothes. She wanted to go shopping with me so we did, what she wanted as to go round and buy everything I'd already bought. I found it quite creepy tbh.

Proper lol at the people who don't realised you're being sarcastic about the 20 figure salary 😂

I can see why you're irked OP and unfortunately mumsnet js a place where people relish in competing to be the most non-plussed about everything (ironic given so many of the unbothered use terms like 'shocked'..) If it makes you feel any better though I know someone who wore a beautiful and fairly distinctive deep red dress for her wedding dress, 2 weeks later they went out for a family meal where her MIL turned up in exactly the same dress complete with identical accessories, all except the veil!

I do get it. It's just irksome when it's something you have bought that you have put effort into, and then a friend decides to get it, too.

I spent ages faffing about and trying on perfumes before I settled on a new one that I was thinking of making a sort of signature scent. And two friends were, 'oh, that's lovely; what are you wearing?' and then they were both wearing it the next time we met up.

It's not a long term annoyance but it's definitely a short term one.

I understand the point. But only as much as I know that's how people think I'm a way I don't get. I am terrible I would buy the coat and think it's fine, unless told not to buy it. If I saw 5 women all wearing the same coat that would mean nothing to me, but I try to understand everyone has different views so want to respect that but unless told I'm oblivious