Page 12 | She bought the same coat as me.

imgonnadowild · 2024-09-12T19:46:01+00:00

I treated myself to a new coat and I finally wore it today as it actually felt like the right weather. Met a friend for dinner and she said how nice it was where did I get it. She then got out her phone and bought it. I feel a bit annoyed. It’s a coat so an item of clothing that you wear a lot, I wouldn’t be bothered if it was say a top or jeans - but I won’t want to turn up when I meet her both wearing the same thing. Aibu?

TheBossOfMe · 12/09/2024 22:00

Moonlightdust · 12/09/2024 21:59

Maybe I’m ND but I’ve never liked people copying me. I would never dream of secretly copying someone else let alone getting my phone out then and there and purchasing something my friend had. I like being unique and having my own style and actually get put off items/clothing if I see the same thing everywhere!

How you put your clothes together makes you unique. If you think ownership makes you unique, unless you’re buying or making custom clothes you’re absolutely not unique at all.

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imgonnadowild · 12/09/2024 22:00

EmeraldRoulette · 12/09/2024 21:55

@imgonnadowild I'd be annoyed too if you see each other often

but I am curious about the lipstick now 😂

It was a Nyx one and they discontinued it 🙈

it was a really cool toned mauve(ish) one.

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PyongyangKipperbang · 12/09/2024 22:00

imgonnadowild · 12/09/2024 21:57

I’m never going to post the coat because I don’t want opinions on it. You know there are people on here that are so bitter and nasty that I could post a coat of their dreams and they’d still rip it to pieces and how horrendous it looks and how ugly I’ll look wearing it.

My confidence is low, I don’t need it getting kicked another six feet under.

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Well if there is one thing I think you need to rethink, its your confidence. You clearly have good taste if she wants to copy you, no matter how "not ok" it is for her to do it.

I suspect the problem here is that you look far better than you think you do and your friend is jealous, plain and simple.

Moonlightdust · 12/09/2024 21:59

Maybe I’m ND but I’ve never liked people copying me. I would never dream of secretly copying someone else let alone getting my phone out then and there and purchasing something my friend had. I like being unique and having my own style and actually get put off items/clothing if I see the same thing everywhere!

TheBossOfMe · 12/09/2024 21:58

@imgonnadowild Isn’t the whole point that because it’s a big purchase for some people they might only want to get their one shot right and buy what they’ve already seen on somebody else?

Unless you’re couture levels of spending, there will always be someone with the same thing as you. it’s not a big deal.

Swanbeauty · 12/09/2024 21:58

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imgonnadowild · 12/09/2024 21:57

TheTigerWhoCameToEatMyArsehole · 12/09/2024 21:54

Can we see the coat yet ? I need a coat.

I’m never going to post the coat because I don’t want opinions on it. You know there are people on here that are so bitter and nasty that I could post a coat of their dreams and they’d still rip it to pieces and how horrendous it looks and how ugly I’ll look wearing it.

My confidence is low, I don’t need it getting kicked another six feet under.

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Mil3nnial · 12/09/2024 21:57

I think that's rude of her OP

I would be annoyed too

More weird she couldn't wait until she got home!

Calliopespa · 12/09/2024 21:57

imgonnadowild · 12/09/2024 21:55

No, I’d say we’re pretty much the same size and height too - she’s maybe an inch shorter than me. I’m also not fatphobic and automatically assume because someone’s bigger they couldn’t look good which is clearly what you’re implying.

But tbh it’s not really a thought that crosses my mind because I don’t think I look nice ever, so a friend wearing a bin bag I’ll think looks nicer than me.

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I think we are all agreed you obviously looked pretty decent in it oP .
ETA in fact more than decent ; positively aspirational it would seem!

Demonhunter · 12/09/2024 21:56

I ended up with the same colour coat as my sister a couple of years ago, very similar styles too. If we were together people would say "here comes the mustard sisters" 🤣🤣 Just roll with it OP, honestly there's bigger things to be miffed about.

If you showed her a new boyfriend and she went "ooh where did you get him?" and went looking for a lookalike, then I'd understand the annoyance.

EmeraldRoulette · 12/09/2024 21:55

@imgonnadowild I'd be annoyed too if you see each other often

but I am curious about the lipstick now 😂

dreamer24 · 12/09/2024 21:55

OP on a 7 figure salary you were being wildly unreasonable to not offer to buy the coat for your friend. If my millionaire mate watched me get out my phone to purchase my own copycat coat I'd be majorly fucked off 🤣

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imgonnadowild · 12/09/2024 21:55

DeCaray · 12/09/2024 21:49

Are you annoyed because she's bought a size or two smaller than you and will look better in it?

No, I’d say we’re pretty much the same size and height too - she’s maybe an inch shorter than me. I’m also not fatphobic and automatically assume because someone’s bigger they couldn’t look good which is clearly what you’re implying.

But tbh it’s not really a thought that crosses my mind because I don’t think I look nice ever, so a friend wearing a bin bag I’ll think looks nicer than me.

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Calliopespa · 12/09/2024 21:55

I had a friend who used to do this in our teens. The worst thing was when she copied my perfume. I couldn’t afford another as well so whenever we went anywhere we created a thick fug of this particular fragrance which got commented on more than once. It was most embarrassing. Thankfully one night a guy we knew got drunk and outspoken and asked her if she felt lame always copying and ran through a list of reasons why he thought she did it. She stopped. 🤣

TheTigerWhoCameToEatMyArsehole · 12/09/2024 21:54

Can we see the coat yet ? I need a coat.

shortfatfatty · 12/09/2024 21:54

I can't remotely relate to this. I find it really odd that so many people think like this, it would honestly never occur to me and I can't imagine my friends being like this either. I wouldn't think twice about two people wearing the same coat together if I saw them no idea why anyone would or why you wouldn't just say 'oh, God we'll look a right pair of twats together if you buy it too' if that's what you really think.

Sweetnessandbite · 12/09/2024 21:53

It would bother me too OP. Especially as she has form. I have a friend who used to do this but we were teens, she has since grown out of it.

armadillio · 12/09/2024 21:53

imverynosey · 12/09/2024 21:38

Sorry my last comment was harsh and I can't delete it now which is crap lol but chill it just shows you have good taste

Maybe chill and don’t call people pathetic.

Woodlandervibe · 12/09/2024 21:53

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Woodlandervibe · 12/09/2024 21:53

DeCaray · 12/09/2024 21:49

Are you annoyed because she's bought a size or two smaller than you and will look better in it?

Um…

Talkwhilstyouwalk · 12/09/2024 21:51

I don't think it's that bad really, I'd probably be quite flattered. But then I wouldn't care if my friend was wearing the same coat as me at the same time because I'm not really bothered what other people think 🤣

Chusername · 12/09/2024 21:51

My sil did this once and it did actually piss me off a bit too op 😂 it’ll pass.

Calliopespa · 12/09/2024 21:50

imgonnadowild · 12/09/2024 21:34

Just to point out throughout the years that yes other friends have copied me and me them. I bought a stunning lipstick after I saw a friend of a friend wear it, I would never have picked that colour on my own and the amount of compliments I get each time I wear it - never experienced that and my safe nude colours before 😂.

Because it’s a coat it’s a big purchase. You might buy a new top but you’re not wearing it every day, but a coat you wear most days. So yes I don’t like that she blatantly copied me with it. I’m trying really hard with my clothes and appearance after letting myself go really bad due to a breakup and being in a terrible job.

Yes I can see that’s frustrating if it was a real “ pick me up” purchase for you. She sounds as though she has form for copying and this can be flattery, but sometimes tbh i think it can be a way of not letting others have anything they don’t have. The most important thing is don’t introduce her to your next partner! 😬

AGoingConcern · 12/09/2024 21:50

OP, how distinctive is this coat? Is it an unusual color or pattern? Does it have some sort of stand-out feature?

Demonhunter · 12/09/2024 21:50

@kevinisnotacatname I object! Kevin is a very distinguished name for a cat.