To ask if another man has ever stepped in when you were being harassed?

what?

I'm.not sure if this fits in with the thread.
But, yes
My Dad.

Coincidentally, a few times, my dad was nearby when i was being harrased.

One time I was in the supermarket with my dad. We split up to grab different items, he was in one aisle and i was in another.
A man starred to harras me. Leering, making sexual comments, and kept following me.

My dad appeared. My dad is not a big man or a fighting man, but my god he has a voice that would stop a truck in its tracks.
He shouted "What are you doing to my daughter?"

I think the guy peed his pants. But he ran, I mean literally dropped his basket and legged it out of the shop.

Shame he uses his to be a rapey cunt.

TFL and London transport police are really hot on this kind of thing, so I've heard. if you tell them what train, carriage etc you were on, they may be able to track him down

The male friend I was with was not in a good place, mentally, and went off on one at me in the street. A male passer by stopped a little distance behind him, looked at me and pointed to his phone (basically asking me if I wanted him to phone the police). I managed to give him the signal that I didn't want him to.

It was great, because had he approached my friend it would have wound him up even more. I wasn't in any danger, and I knew how to calm him. But I was very pleased that someone recognised that I might need help, and responded subtly.

ODFOD

A group of posh middle aged men got onto my train, tipsy and drinking cans. Loud conversations about their children's private school. They suddenly started picking on this woman opposite who had tattoos. They would not leave her alone. "Yeah but seriously love they look bloody awful why would you do that" type stuff. She tried to tell them to stop it but they ignored her. Eventually a man who was about 6 ft 7 stood up and told them to shut up and they quietly stared into their cans with their tails between their legs.

I had already texted the transport police though so I do hope they got stopped when they got off!

When I was very young (11 the first time!) I was TWICE saved from gang rapes by friends of the ringleaders, so very much yes. Later in life, a guy came to offer support after my boyfriend had beaten me up - not an intervention, but still a compassionate act. I have asked random blokes in clubs to help me out when I was being persistently molested; only one refused.

I think I've intervened for other women more often than men have done it for me. More of them need to step up, because misogynist males pay more heed to men than to women.

I once lost my purse so had no other choice but to walk home, it had just started dropping dark and I felt like I was being followed, my heart was beating ten to dozen.

Bus driver pulled over (had passengers on) and asked if I was okay, I did mention my predicament and even though I had no money he had me get on the bus and as he was going my way let me ride on the bus for free. Even dropped me outside my house.

Didn't learn my lesson either, a few years later, ran out of money on a night out and a wonderful taxi driver let us take the ride even though we couldn't pay, me and my friend were totally upfront and promised to pay at the taxi rank the following day. We did and even turned up with some beer for him, he said he didn't expect to see us again! 😆

Male friends have, many times while we are out together, especially in bars, usually by pretending we are a couple which seems to be the most effective way of making them back off.
A stranger did at a swimming pool when a man stood too close and wouldn't stop making creepy comments and the stranger just came and sat on the end of my sun lounger with his big paper resort map and started pointing out different attractions in the nearby zoo as if we had plans to go together. The creepy guy just walked off.

Ugh, so he was assaulting you? Isn’t there a text service for the transport police? Does anyone know so op could use if it ever happens again. So sorry for your experience op. Take some time for self care tonight

I've stepped in to stop a boy being attacked by a gang of 17-20 year old boys/men. I'm a woman, though. Female friends have done similar.

My ex (male) as been assaulted three times when he stepped in to prevent men harrassing women and has ptsd as a result, so he no longer feels up to it, sadly.

I think the ads on the tube defining harassment and sexual assault and explaining safe alternatives to stepping in (e.g. numbers to report it to) are excellent. I've been reading going through them with DS 10 and explaining the context and discussing ethics and sexism and what we can do if we witness misogyny.

Sort of....when I was 18/19 me and a friend had an argument on a night out, having had a bit to drink I stupidly decided to walk home alone and some seriously drunk man who had been peeing into some bushes started waving his penis at me and following me up the road. An older man who was crossing the road saw what was happening and told the younger man to have some decency and to sod off and offered to walk with me the rest of the way up the road......only when we got to the top of the road and I was going in the opposite direction he was heading in, he started offering me to come back to his place for a drink to make sure I wasn't still being followed (which I clearly wasn't) he suggested it a few times until I insisted I was just going straight home at which he didn't seem so nice anymore. I dread to think what could of happened if I had agreed to go back to his place 'just for a drink'.

Changingname1988

Im so sorry l, and there was me thinking’nice to hear none of them expected anything in return’. I’m so so sorry xxxx

When I was a teenager my ex boyfriend followed me home from the pub so he could give me a bollocking for abandoning the girls I'd gone with and talking to another group of friends. I'd left because he was hanging about.
At one point he grabbed my shoulders and pushed me against a fence. There was a screech of brakes and a bloke leapt out of his car shouting for ex to get his hands off me.
Ex was furious but bloke stood firm while I assured him that ex wouldn't hurt me. Looked ex right in the eye while I said it. Bloke seemed reassured and we parted ways.
And I did get home safely.
Next day I apologised to the girls and they understood that I was just trying to get away from ex.

Never 👎

However having been in that situation a few times having onlookers completely ignore me, if I notice it happening I make a point of going over and loudly asking for directions etc. Or back when I wasn't hopelessly single, I'd shove the Ex in the direction of trouble 😂

Yes in a nightclub. He pretended to be my bf and the man got all apologetic. I ended up marrying my rescuer!

I was harassed by a drunk race goer who got on my train when I was around 19, travelling home from uni - he trapped me in the window seat, squeezing my knee and being suggestive/letcherous.

there was a youngish dad travelling with his toddler who kept making eye contact with me in a “you ok/need help?” Kind of way. The races man was steaming and gross but I didn’t feel in serious danger, it felt better to know someone else was monitoring things. I also understood the nice guy probably didn’t want to get in an argy bargy with the guy while responsible for a small child. I was still grateful he was there

Yes.
I once took a cab home from a party as a young woman. I agreed to share the cab with another of the party guests to split costs. He’d seemed perfectly nice, a guest of my friends.
On the way home we both sat in the back seat and he kept making suggestive comments and unwanted physical advances.
The cab driver calmly stopped the car, jumped out , opened the back door , pulled him out and drove off. He explained to me afterwards that he had daughters and didn’t accept men treating women that way in his taxi.

I once got on a tram and a guy clearly off his head got on and sat beside me in an almost empty carriage. He kept talking at me and leaning in and just a low level menace. The only other guy on the team then moved and sat opposite us. Headphones in, said nothing looked nowhere. Anyway a few stops later druggie got off and headphones guy stood up, said I didn't like him sitting beside you so I came over. And he moved away. I wish I'd known he was doing that- but I understand that the way this guy was he could have gone off at any time so I get why it was safer not to confront him.

The only other time was when an ex was being horrific and Basically dragging me down a street and he stopped us and asked if I was ok. I'm so grateful because between the ex and my own insecurity that man was the only evidence I had that I wasn't overreacting or making it up in my head or misremembering. The ex was dragging me down the street, it happened and it was bad because someone took it upon themselves to intervene.

Another occasion I had been at a late work meeting in London, last train home to the Kent coast. There was a large group of blokes further along the carriage, they were loud and drunk.

I was the only female on the train. The ticket bloke asked if they were bothering me. They weren't, I had my iPod on and was reading. However, he decided that he wasn't comfy me being alone so asked me to move to thw first class carriage where there were a few more people and more staff so if there was any trouble I would have back up. He said he was sure I'd be OK, but he would never forgive himself if something happened. He also said he would want someone to have stepped in to ensure his daughter was safe in the same position.

Several times, generally by pretending to be my boyfriend so the other guy would back off. One sticks in the mind. It was donkeys years ago in a dive of a club, a weird guy just wouldn’t leave me alone or take no for an answer and was following me around. My friends were all off dancing or talking with different men so I was a bit stuck. Another guy, a mate of someone my friend was seeing, stepped in and basically told the weirdo to leave me alone. I was so grateful.

Unfortunately the knight in shining armour tried to rape me in an alleyway at the end of the night so not quite the feel good story. It was like he felt entitled to it after being “the good guy”. I’ve never been so scared and still don’t know how I managed to get away from him. It took me a very long time to get over and I’ve never fully got rid of my fear of men I don’t know.

Yes, I was aged 15 working as a waitress. Drunk middle aged man had me cornered up against a wall. A waiter must of been about 18 or 19 saved me by intervening. I think of him quite often! I can't remember if I thanked him as I was quite shook up. I hope I did. I've always been grateful for him stepping in.

When I was much younger in a club, a drunk guy kept trying to dance and my friends boyfriend moved himself between us until the idiot walked away.
On the whole though, it’s been women who step in. A guy once tried to drag me out of a nightclub (sounds ridiculous) and no man, not even the security staff, stepped in. Cue my heroic bunch of female friends getting rid of him!!