So my daughter who just turned 9 last week and just gone into year 4 last week has been having problems with another girl since year 3. My daughter is very mature for her age and she just ignores this child and asks her to leave her alone or tells the teacher as this girl keeps coming up to my daughter in class or on the playground for no reason and says awful stuff to her. Last year I have been to speak to the teachers myself after the girl was randomly coming up to my daughter telling her " your baby sister is ugly " and other awful things about my daughters skin colour and body hair on her arms etc ( my daughter is half pakistani). My daughter told teachers countless times last year what was going on and was told it will be sorted, I went in myself after my daughter came home crying. She absolutely loves school and is clever so it's upsetting hearing her say she doesn't want to go in anymore. Year 4 has only just started and my daughter has already been to her new teacher twice this week because this girl will just not leave her alone, she tries ignoring her, telling her to leave her alone and she just keeps coming up to her in class or on the playground. Her new teacher told my daughter once again it will be dealt with, but today when I picked my daughter up after school as soon as we got out the school gates she started crying hysterically. I couldn't make out what she was saying at first because she was so upset. But this girl has come up to her today in the library whilst my daughter was talking to another child, came up to her and out of no where said to her " one night I'm going to come to your house and kill your baby sister whilst you are sleeping" . And walked away. My daughter was hysterical and scared something was going to happen to her baby sister ( she's 10 months old!!) I'm not sure why or for what reason this girl keeps using my 10 month old as a reason to hurt my older daughters feelings. I was so angry and upset and my daughter was so hysterical and I kept reassuring her her baby sister is fine and nothing will happen, that I emailed the head teacher and explained everything, that I had been in before about this girl and that my daughter keeps complaining to her teachers about this child and today comes home hysterical because this girl has threatened to kill her baby sister. I just think this is disturbing for an 8 year old girl to be saying this to another child and makes you think what is going on at home. In my email to the teacher I also mentioned I was concerned about this child because a child should not be talking like this ( or anyone for this matter) I know kids will be kids but surely this is completely out of order and not normal?
It's affecting my daughters mental health quite badly now and it took a while for me to calm her down and reasure her that her nothing will happen to her sister after this was said to her and she is now saying she doesn't want to attend school anymore. The headteacher emailed me back quite quickly saying he is not having this and it will be sorted tomorrow. I just don't know what to do as this has not seemed to be sorted in the past and I feel like this has got to stop now and this is concerning behaviour from the other child, I don't think anyone should be going around saying they are going to kill someone let alone an 8 year old.
I'm an over thinker and now I'm thinking did I over react and email the headteacher and should have took it to her teachers first? Aibu? I'm just so fed up and feeling this has got out of hand now.
Am I the only one who thinks it is extremely concerning another child is saying stuff like this ?