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..To be mortified at the treatment of rape victims at the Edinburgh Rape Crisis Centre?

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TorghunKhan · 12/09/2024 16:22

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/clynyky7kj9o

No women only spaces for 16 months. Basically women, RAPED women - were told they could not definitely see a woman to help them with such an awful crime, they might have to see a man in a dress, and if they objected they were to be 're eductaed' by the man in charge - a man who himself applied for, and got!! a job which was supposed to be only filled by a woman.

It's shameful, disgusting, but whats worse is how many people put up with it!! Who thought this was ok?! why did nobody do anything, or say anything FOR YEARS

Woman with head in her arms sitting on a bed

Edinburgh rape crisis centre failed to protect women-only spaces

The centre unfairly dismissed a worker who believed victims should know the sex of staff who deal with their case.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/clynyky7kj9o

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WandsOut · 20/09/2024 14:13

Who has the power to trigger a public enquiry into this shitshow?

Ereshkigalangcleg · 20/09/2024 10:09

The 'reframe your traima' podcast was August 2021.

When supposedly ERCC was bombarded with transphobia and threats. Is she saying she wasn't aware of this? Interesting

NoBinturongsHereMate · 20/09/2024 08:42

Side point - does anyone know why Mridul goes by that name rather than the female version Mridula? It seems an odd choice for a transwoman, and in the circumstances a rather provocative one.

NoBinturongsHereMate · 20/09/2024 08:39

The 'reframe your traima' podcast was August 2021. Beira's Place was set up in December 2022. Police Scotland statted referring women to Beira's in June 2023. But it was October 2023 before Rape Crisis Scotland noticed anything?

Not buying it.

Carrotmccarrotface · 20/09/2024 06:02

nothingcomestonothing · 19/09/2024 21:58

Ms Brindley said she knew nothing of issues at the centre until October last year.

So does she want us to think she's a liar or incompetent? Or both? Oh no wait she doesn't give a shit what we think, she's one of The Righteous so she doesn't have to care about the opinions of the unenlightened plebs.

The thing that annoys me most about these people is they really do think we are thick enough to not notice when we are being lied to. Credit us with some brains Sandra love! We aren’t all as thick as you!

It’s so bloody patronising. The only avenue she has open to her is resign and remove herself from public life, but that would rely on her having skills that could be transferred into another job, and these skills seem to be lacking.

nothingcomestonothing · 19/09/2024 21:58

Ms Brindley said she knew nothing of issues at the centre until October last year.

So does she want us to think she's a liar or incompetent? Or both? Oh no wait she doesn't give a shit what we think, she's one of The Righteous so she doesn't have to care about the opinions of the unenlightened plebs.

nothingcomestonothing · 19/09/2024 21:34

NeedToChangeName · 19/09/2024 14:08

Edinburgh Rape Crisis Centre website still refers to females as "a woman who has always lived as a woman". https://www.ercc.scot/women-only-services/

Beira's Place refers to women and explains that [1] Equality Act (2010) Provision 212: General Interpretation (1) (d) “’woman’ means a female of any age” https://beirasplace.org.uk/contact/

If I needed help, I know where I'd want to go. Not so easy for people with learning difficulties, second language, haven't followed the story

'A woman who has always lived as a woman' is completely meaningless. It's like saying a fifflewap is something that's always been a fifflewap. Doesn't tell me what a fifflewap is, or isn't.

Plus no woman has always had lived as a woman, we all started as girls. And there's no way to 'live as a woman' other than to be a woman - do I live as a brown eyed person? Or a two legged person? It's weaselly and insulting

Ereshkigalangcleg · 19/09/2024 18:28

She really is a piece of work.

AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · 19/09/2024 18:23

I hope her boss "has full confidence in her", which as we know means that the cabinet member in question will be out within a week of a prime minister saying it.

RedToothBrush · 19/09/2024 18:12

I can only hope she has football manager levels of 'full support from the board'.

I'm not holding my breath though.

Anastomosisrex · 19/09/2024 18:10

We're going for the Boris Johnson brass balls and brazening it out. Any minute now: 'I made this complete and utter mess and therefore I am the person to fix it!'.

Those women were harmed because of her as much as the man in charge of the centre. And she was at the best, open minded about that happening to them.

Theeyeballsinthesky · 19/09/2024 17:37

brindley has the insane arrogance & confidence of ‘the righteous’ or as we would say the hide of a rhinoceros

she’s going to try and brazen this out because she can’t possibly imagine for one second that she’s wrong

RedToothBrush · 19/09/2024 17:35

BBC. Published about 20 mins ago

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cj310jvzpd8o

Acknowledging that Ms Wadhwa's appointment had been controversial, Ms Brindley said: "I was not involved in that appointment or that decision. But what I would say is that most rape crisis centres in Scotland provide support to men, women, trans people and non-binary people.

"There is no inherent reason within that, that you could have a trans person working within a rape crisis centre.

"I think what is crucial however, is that if you do have a rape crisis service, that is supporting all survivors is that there's dedicated women-only spaces within that."

Ms Brindley added she "absolutely recognised" that women-only spaces were a priority for many women using rape support services.

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The report also said there was "evidence that the actions of some ERCC staff had caused damage to some survivors", and that concerns had been raised that some women were "excluding themselves from approaching Rape Crisis Centres including ERCC" because of their aproach to gender identity.

Ms Ling also said she had been made aware that some professionals had heard that "some survivors did not feel safe using the centre".

After the report was published, Rape Crisis Scotland said it would pause referrals to ERCC - though people can still self-refer - until it was happy the review recommendations had been put in place.

Ms Brindley said she knew nothing of issues at the centre until October last year.

She said she then advised the ERCC board to settle the case rather than proceeding with the employment tribunal and acknowledged she should have been aware of the conflict sooner

Ms Brindley added there had been "significant failures" at the ERCC and she hoped to introduce a "robust framework of assessment" to make sure the national standards are followed and that women-only spaces are provided in future

So right let me get this straight. Some author found out about issues at ERCC and had time to set up a completely new service but the head of Rape Crisis Scotland was completely unaware of the issues at ERCC and why Beira's Place had been set up?

What the fuck was she doing? Snoring at her desk? And that letter in the Scottish Parliament archive? She wasn't present at that meeting? Despite her partner and her actual body being there.

Are we seriously supposed to accept this account?

Anastomosisrex · 19/09/2024 17:01

Exactly. Its unfair and deceitful marketing. A male will argue they've been a woman since adulthood and that definitely means them.

Some males will also argue they are female, but the wording is clear enough to make clear in return that no, the linguistics are reality based, not wish based, and boundaries will be held because some women need male-free spaces and how males feel about that is not relevant.

NeedToChangeName · 19/09/2024 14:08

Edinburgh Rape Crisis Centre website still refers to females as "a woman who has always lived as a woman". https://www.ercc.scot/women-only-services/

Beira's Place refers to women and explains that [1] Equality Act (2010) Provision 212: General Interpretation (1) (d) “’woman’ means a female of any age” https://beirasplace.org.uk/contact/

If I needed help, I know where I'd want to go. Not so easy for people with learning difficulties, second language, haven't followed the story

Women only services - Edinburgh Rape Crisis Centre

https://www.ercc.scot/women-only-services

NeedToChangeName · 19/09/2024 13:58

*Never forget the sucess of TRAs sucess is based on the underlying much older misogyny of MRAs. If men's rights wasn't the default social norm, TRAs would never have got a foothold8

After all if society respect women, TRAs would have been laughed out of existence. It is the underlying lack of respect for women, let alone their right to autonomy, that made it possible for people to accept that if a man says he is a woman he must be right

@IwantToRetire So true, so true

venus7 · 19/09/2024 10:45

Saind3rs · 12/09/2024 17:25

It’s useless if you absolutely can’t do that day and get offered nothing else. Every rape victim should be offered the same level and quality of services.

Exactly; which means female counsellors for female victims.

WeightLossGoal2024 · 19/09/2024 08:01

Should have been fired. A resignation is still a failure

WeightLossGoal2024 · 19/09/2024 07:54

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 12/09/2024 21:49

Just been reading how funding was removed in 2021 from 3 women's aid single sex groups (one in the Lanarkshire area whom had been providing specialist domestic abuse support for 40 years) for not admitting men into refuges or work with male abusers. The contract was awarded to SACRO (mixed sex) despite not being a specialist in domestic violence.

Guess who was the director of SACRO at that time? Wadhwa's partner. Coincidence?

All on Glinner's website if anyone is interested.

Edited to add link

https://grahamlinehan.substack.com/p/mridrul-wadha-sacro-and-the-14-million

Edited

I didn't know this. Thanks for sharing

Ereshkigalangcleg · 18/09/2024 18:26

It was interesting but I wasn’t persuaded by the argument.

Fair enough, I just thought it was an interesting way to frame it. I'm not a Roman Catholic or ever likely to be.

SerafinasGoose · 18/09/2024 17:57

TorghunKhan · 16/09/2024 22:54

Is this a parody photoshop? Surely it must be?

The SNP appears to have done no reflection whatsoever on just what the possible reasons might be that they were pulverised at the recent general election.

Or what might, at least in part, have contributed to the political downfall of Nicola Sturgeon (Isla Bryson), and Penny Mordaunt before her.

Or whether, just possibly, there might be at least one underlying common denominator.

Head scratch ...

DrBlackbird · 18/09/2024 15:59

Ereshkigalangcleg · 17/09/2024 14:53

It's an interesting essay. Have you read it?

It was interesting but I wasn’t persuaded by the argument.

Primarily he seemed to be saying that actually kindness is kool as a virtue but we also need the other virtues as well as a bit sin. Whereas I disagree with labelling people’s abhorrent actions as ‘sin’ and I am more critical of the kindness proselytising.

Will have a look at the other article though.

TorghunKhan · 18/09/2024 08:53

IwantToRetire · 17/09/2024 18:18

Have only had time to skim read posts since I was last on this thread (imo derailers are best ignored as it clogs up a thread and it only encourages them!) so my comments relate to earlier points.

I think I posted a while back that it was a shame the other women's services providers haven't commentated.

Yesterday Rape Crisis (England & Wales) that share / co authoted the guidelines that federated RCCs are meant to abide by, have said they are going to review what happened in Scotland as in theory it couldn't have happened had the agreed guidelines been followed.

And worth remembering that despite msm headlines and women journalist who are all jumping in to comment, not having support RCCs remaining women only, that they dont always represent what is happening.

ie an article is being shared today which lazily says there would be no women only RCC services in Scotland without Beira's Place being set up.

This is factually incorrect. There are 3 RCCs in Scotland that are women only, who have had to struggle really hard against sector pressure to be trans inclusive, and political and financial pressure as well.

Just because women who have acess to newspapers haven't written about them, they do exist and many women have had intense personal pressure to maintain the founding principles of RCCs.

We need a system where women locally should be able to support without interferring, local DV projects and RCs, so as to confront local councillors who say women only services are too expensive.

If the past months I've read of at least 5 women's refuges being closed just because they are too costly and it is assumed a generic homelessness project will be sufficient for women fleeing domesstic violence.

Never forget the sucess of TRAs sucess is based on the underlying much older misogyny of MRAs. If men's rights wasn't the default social norm, TRAs would never have got a foothold.

After all if society respect women, TRAs would have been laughed out of existence. It is the underlying lack of respect for women, let alone their right to autonomy, that made it possible for people to accept that if a man says he is a woman he must be right.

More people need to read what you’ve posted here. It’s truly shameful

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nothingcomestonothing · 17/09/2024 18:36

Edited as posted on the wrong thread!

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