To not be happy with new teacher so far because of this

Overstretched! Oh come on. It’s her job. It’s what she gets paid for.

To shout at a small boy when they’re are all new to school is a bitch thing to do. NOT a good teacher. No patience.

She’s just had 6 weeks off and only has 6 weeks to go to her next holiday.

And yes she does have these holidays as my dsis is a teacher and she doesn’t work through the hols as some folk seem to think 😂

So he did leave the line. That's why she raised her voice to him She was trying to hand children to their respective parents and didn't need someone in her face asking questions. I expect they had been told before they left the classroom to stay in the line. He didn't. He and you need to get over him being spoken to sharply. It happens.

It seems hard to unpick from what you've described. It sounds like she might have an unfair prejudice against your DS, but she may also just be stressed. I do wonder if he's been playing up in class a bit, the way she's responding to him (not that it excuses it).

In terms of advice about what to do, I'd say give it another week without messaging and see what happens.

At least if she doesn't give him a book, or shouts at him for not having a book having forgotten she's not given him one yet, you'll have something definite to focus your concern on.

Indeed.

Was the message that books were being sent home that day, or that they would be sent home shortly and this is what we would like to happen when they do. Hence he has not yet been given a book.

I ask because when my kids were at primary they never got their books to take home in the first couple of weeks. They were all assessed for reading level first, which took time, each new school year.

If this is the case and their comms have been confusing, she's probably had 30 parents all asking where their books are.

Even today I've had to explain to ds22 that some people are just arses and that he will come across many more in life.

Not great that you might need to explain this to your ds5 OP, so just give him love and support until either his Teacher has a better day or finds another pupil to pick on if she/he is truly an arse.

Increasing numbers of teachers are deciding that they are “in the wrong job”. What is your plan for addressing the teacher shortage?

Warm hugs.

she seems overwelmed op. I would trade with caution. She has your ds for a whole year and will likely have bounds with all the other staff.

i would suggest : you don’t say something this time however you do react on the go if it ever happen again. Do not message her again but tell her face to face what you need her to know/do. Stay in front of her until you have that book/ check the book is in the bag in front of the class and ask is it is not there.

it is so harsh for a 5 year old. Hope it all goes well.

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No - I compared her approach - firm but kind.

And as we are all reminded on MN, private school parents are pushy and pressuring so I suspect her workload isn't a third. After all, she still has to teach from 8:30-5 everyday with lunch spent supervising the children eating their lunch. So everything has it's own pressures.

You know it’s different, yet you compared.

Hence I said "so I know it's different".

But this teacher has also taught a class of 30 and that is just her personality. As does my best friend, who is a wonderful, compassionate, kind person.

So many people saying the teacher's in the wrong job. I am almost certain that by the end of term she'll have come to a similar conclusion, as will thousands of her colleagues. Teaching has become almost impossible.

So with a class of 10 your child’s teacher has just a third of the job that the OP’s teacher has, a third of the hassle at every stage of the day. As a teacher, I promise you there is no comparison.

I'm really sorry about some of the, frankly, bloody awful responses you've had on here OP! Your son deserved better. If his teacher is so bloody stressed after the first week back at school she's definitely in the wrong job and it's only going to get worse. My grandson had this from one teacher but strangely he loved her and never noticed. He'd constantly try to get her attention that he could see his Mum but was ignored. This happened on multiple occasions and I just wonder if some children are just 'less noticable' than others. He was last to be released every single time!! She didn't dislike him in any way and didn't shout at him which would have had me having some words with her!! And, yes I do know how difficult teaching is, I trained as a teacher and after a short period realised my short fuse wasn't the right match for that job but I have family and friends who endure, survive and thrive in their work because they are dedicated and have the right mindset!

Shouting at any child like this isn't ok, especially a 5 yr old. Arrange a brief meet with her before putting your experience in writing to the head: yelling at a very young child in the first week isn't a good sign and it may be that the head needs to support this teacher with managing her class ASAP.

Did you manage to sort the book today @Chilli89?

Your story seems to be added to now with arms waving in the air while shouting and other parents with raised eyebrows. If that happened why didnt you wait til the other children had gone and if you were so sure it was about your son approach her to find out what the issue was? Or better yet speak to the ht seeing as you have a playground of witnesses.
It has also changed from your son needed help to he was going out of line presumably not waiting his turn because he could see you. Honestly parents who can never accept their child is in wrong and need to be reminded of rules really make teachers jobs 100 times harder.
It's Friday of week 2. Many children are tired and don't want to go to school after 6 weeks off it can take a while to get back into routine.

In what way was he misbehaving?
OP was there and she confirms he wasn't shouting.

This! Ignore the people saying not to raise this issue. If this teacher made a mistake then a calm talk with her about your son starting to get anxious/refuse school will let her know that she needs to give him extra love and reassurance. If she is a competent teacher she will step up. If she is incompetent then, like allot of posters here, she will retreat into angry self justifications and lash out telling you the 5 year old needs to “toughen up” or learn to be disciplined and never draw attention to himself. Then you need to escalate to the head or move him.

Does he have a loud voice? maybe sounds like he shouts? could he be a shouter in class?

Just wondering if she has him down as a shouter already hence the over reaction (which still is not on) x

She didn't lose her rag she told yje bou off for misbejaving

she shouted and yes it is bullying

I understand the teacher invited the messaging. I'm just saying it's an added pressure that a lot of teachers have to offer that I don't agree with.

And I'm glad you've never felt frustrated, or felt the need to raise your voice, or be snappy at your children. I can hold my hand up and say I have done it. Doesn't make me, or the teacher a bully, it makes us human.