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Pregnant dog

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leighks123 · 12/09/2024 07:09

AIBU? So my partner came home last night and told me he thinks the dog is pregnant (by another dog from his work that I thought was neutered) I was absolutely livid and told him I am not having a litter of puppies at home because he is at work all day and I will be the one looking after them. We had a massive row over it and I get told I'm selfish.

So the reasons I don't want to are, she's a big dog and likely to have a big litter, I have a 6 month old baby and am pregnant, I've just spent the last 3 years overcoming psychosis and getting my mental health back on track and I feel this would be a massive trigger for me.

He's saying I wouldn't have to do anything as the mum would but I just don't think that's true. Please tell me if I'm in the wrong? It's like he's done it on purpose

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TwinklyOrca · 12/09/2024 17:28

You could have her spayed. Speaking from experience, your husband will need to take 3 weeks off work to look after her adequately.
terrible he has put you in this situation, completely understandable why you would leave the relationship.

Fluufer · 12/09/2024 17:28

Paltor · 12/09/2024 17:25

Not read whole thread, sorry if this post is not relevant. If your ex has problems rehoming (not sure if he is hoping to do this for profit), I know a bunch of 20 something professionals, all high earners in London who are looking for rescues. They would want for nothing.

My sister and BIL for example are wonderful with dogs, very active but have been denied by certain rescue centres as their prospective dog would occasionally have to be put in puppy day care when they are not able to wfh.

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These dogs are going to be enormous. I hardly think London will be an appropriate environment for them.

Paltor · 12/09/2024 17:25

Not read whole thread, sorry if this post is not relevant. If your ex has problems rehoming (not sure if he is hoping to do this for profit), I know a bunch of 20 something professionals, all high earners in London who are looking for rescues. They would want for nothing.

My sister and BIL for example are wonderful with dogs, very active but have been denied by certain rescue centres as their prospective dog would occasionally have to be put in puppy day care when they are not able to wfh.

krustykittens · 12/09/2024 17:25

But to answer your question on being prosecuted, I have no idea and I wouldn't risk it if you had any doubts. He has caused you enough problems.

krustykittens · 12/09/2024 17:23

leighks123 · 12/09/2024 17:21

Can I get in trouble if he reports me for doing so?

You could use the XL defence and say you thought he had bred illegally "accidentally", as per his cover story and you were trying to make sure that a) the dog's welfare was protected by not forcing her to have huge puppies and b) you were complying with the legislation.

But how do you think he would react if he did this? I wouldn't advise you to do anything that made you unsafe.

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leighks123 · 12/09/2024 17:22

@Csdrassticcallychanginngnnammes thank you 💕

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leighks123 · 12/09/2024 17:21

Can I get in trouble if he reports me for doing so?

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Csdrassticcallychanginngnnammes · 12/09/2024 17:20

Just sending some unmumsnetty hugs your way @leighks123 .💐💐xxx

WitchyBits · 12/09/2024 17:19

leighks123 · 12/09/2024 14:19

I wish I could take her to the vets but I just can't I am not registered owner of her so hopefully he does the right thing

The vets don't check your id or even ask if you are the owner. I took my sisters dog last week and they didn't even ask and they don't care.

Take the dog, get a scan and go from there.

Starbarr07 · 12/09/2024 17:15

They are banned.

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HateSpewingTurnip · 12/09/2024 17:15

luckylavender · 12/09/2024 17:12

Yes they are

You may want to read the article, not just the headline.

They aren't banned. They may come under type, same as a lab x rottie might, but they are not a banned breed

TwinklyAmberOrca · 12/09/2024 17:13

leighks123 · 12/09/2024 16:34

I've decided to remove myself from the situation and the relationship unless he gets it sorted so not really my problem anymore I feel absolutely awful and guilty for the dog but I don't see any other way around it. Putting myself and my children first

This sounds like a VERY sensible option. You need to put your children first which means prioritising your MH.

Raising a littler of pups is expensive and stressful. If he won't let you take her to the vets then that says it all really.

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leighks123 · 12/09/2024 17:13

I'm so so drained I do not need your shitty comments I know it's not an ideal situation. My kids will be very well looked after so no it's not poor children at all. If want to just give me shit then go ahead I don't have the energy to engage with you

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luckylavender · 12/09/2024 17:12

Yes they are

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Starbarr07 · 12/09/2024 17:12

Killingoffmyflowersonebyone · 12/09/2024 17:11

Errr they're really not. You parroted this nonsense on doghouse a few months ago and were shot down in a ball of flames.

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That wasn't me. Look it up. Banned.

Killingoffmyflowersonebyone · 12/09/2024 17:11

Starbarr07 · 12/09/2024 17:05

Since December 2023 , Cane Corso are banned under UK law. Same as XL bully's.

Errr they're really not. You parroted this nonsense on doghouse a few months ago and were shot down in a ball of flames.

murasaki · 12/09/2024 17:10

Some of the comments might drive @leighks123 away, and given she might need support in leaving her relationship, thats really not a good thing.

HateSpewingTurnip · 12/09/2024 17:10

Starbarr07 · 12/09/2024 17:05

Since December 2023 , Cane Corso are banned under UK law. Same as XL bully's.

No they aren't.

Furrydogmum · 12/09/2024 17:08

Starbarr07 · 12/09/2024 17:05

Since December 2023 , Cane Corso are banned under UK law. Same as XL bully's.

They really aren't!

OP I'm so sorry you're being put through the wringer, your husband is an arse and it's awful for your poor dog too. Ddb x cc pups are going to be huge! Finding responsible homes for them will be so stressful 😪

Fishgish · 12/09/2024 17:06

Maybe the dog can now live at the “yard” with her husband and all the doting man workers. You don’t need her around. Can she “get lost” when you secretly take her to shelter to be rehomed.

Starbarr07 · 12/09/2024 17:05

Since December 2023 , Cane Corso are banned under UK law. Same as XL bully's.

murasaki · 12/09/2024 17:02

OP, just ignore that poster. At least the offensive posts have been deleted.