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People referring to covid as a cold

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ellie09 · 11/09/2024 22:49

On Monday I tested positive for covid. Felt horrible and took a test (even though you dont need to anymore), as I work in an office.

I have had covid a few times, as I have a really crap immune system. Ive also had several colds over the years which I tested negative for covid.

My DS came down with the sniffles last night and a cough. I rang his dad as he was meant to be staying at his dads, and he lives with his elderly mum. I told him the situation and that DS would be better staying home for a few days isolating with me (we dont know if its covid as he wont let me test him, but we can assume)

Ive felt utterly awful and like each time i've had it, my chest is in pain and it feels like someone's standing on my chest 24/7. There is a big difference between the times I had a cold, and covid (but I cant speak for others)

DS's dad brushes it off, tells me covids made up and its "just a cold" and that DS should still go round. I rang DS grandmother seeing as its her house and explained, she basically said to me, "yeah, you just have a cold, thats not real".

Is this a normal reaction now? People have covid and its just brushed off as a cold, therefore people are out spreading knowingly?

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piscofrisco · 12/09/2024 07:51

I mean, if doesnt matter if it's Covid, a cold, flu, or whatever else. Fact is you feel poorly, and your DS feels a bit poorly. If you told his dad and gran and they are fine with him still going to theirs (and he is well enough to go) then he should go and that's the end of it-as it would be with a common cold etc....

I'm sorry you feel so rubbish though OP. It's floored me all three times I've had it. As did flu when I had it. As with all virus (virus's? Viruses? What's the plural?), they affect some people more badly than others.

Prescottdanni123 · 12/09/2024 07:51

@x2boys

I agree. They shouldn't be forcing staff in to work when they are sick, putting their patients and the rest of their workforce at risk. When my uncle was in hospital, he was treated by a nurse wearing no mask, who was clearly feeling quite poorly and who informed him she had covid😡. I highly doubt the poor woman would have been there if she didn't need to be.

Nor do I think that people who go into work with covid are selfish but there are precautions that they can take such as letting colleagues know, wiping surfaces down, keeping your distance from people etc etc. I know people who have no qualms about getting right up in people's faces because to them, covid is 'just a cold'. Or just cough and splutter everywhere without covering their mouths. Charming.

AboutVattime · 12/09/2024 07:51

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Don't be so moronic. My parents didn't die of 'a cold' . Deeply insulting to the 100k's who died.

Fizbosshoes · 12/09/2024 07:49

Ds had it in July, and it presented as a heavy cold. I kept him off school but they were quite insistent he should come in.

I recently felt like I had a slight cold (I didn't covid test) but I was meeting someone who is immuno compromised, so I let them know and asked if they were still happy to meet. They said they were but I would err on the side of caution if people are considered vulnerable

HoppityBun · 12/09/2024 07:49

ZenNudist · 12/09/2024 07:27

Covid/cold/flu all can have various degrees of severity. You had covid and were ill, others have covid and it doesn't affect them.

I don't respect people who act like it's 2020 and think having covid is a big drama.

I was with someone who had COVID 2 years ago and she had no symptoms at all: she only found out because she had a test when she went to visit an elderly relation. She still can’t taste or smell anything, though.

AboutVattime · 12/09/2024 07:48

KnickerlessParsons · 11/09/2024 22:54

You don't need to isolate these days.

No you don't as hopefully people have the common sense to realise that this virus kills. Hopefully they don't need to be told.

Sadly not everyone is selfless and my previous healthy 81 &82 yr old parents caught it from some stupid bastard last year and died within a week of each other .

Cannot get my head around why you would not isolate yourself if you knew you had it - and why you wouldn't check if you share an office /mix with the public a lot . ?

Beezknees · 12/09/2024 07:47

outdamnedspots · 12/09/2024 07:43

OP, you are being very thoughtful and considerate. I'd do just the same.

Why would people go out and about with Covid, knowing that it could make people seriously ill?

Some people are just dicks.

Because some people have to work, do you think everyone can afford to take time off like that?

x2boys · 12/09/2024 07:45

outdamnedspots · 12/09/2024 07:43

OP, you are being very thoughtful and considerate. I'd do just the same.

Why would people go out and about with Covid, knowing that it could make people seriously ill?

Some people are just dicks.

Because they have to work ?
What is it people are not grasping about this?

x2boys · 12/09/2024 07:43

Prescottdanni123 · 12/09/2024 07:36

@x2boys

That is because the NHS is so short staffed. So they ask staff to go to work with covid, at great risk to their already unwell patients. My eighty something year old neighbour avoided getting Covid completely until she went into hospital a couple of months ago.

My point was they should practice what they preach ,they can't advise people to stay at home with covid whilst simultaneously expecting their own staff to work with covid
And that goes for all workplaces if people are going to not get paid ,and possibly face disciplinary procedures for staying at-home with covid ,then chances are they will go into work this doesn't make them selfish and anyone who thinks it does needs to check their own privilege

outdamnedspots · 12/09/2024 07:43

OP, you are being very thoughtful and considerate. I'd do just the same.

Why would people go out and about with Covid, knowing that it could make people seriously ill?

Some people are just dicks.

Arrivapercy · 12/09/2024 07:42

Since the jabs'? But most people haven't been vaccinated for years. That makes no sense

The first exposure to the virus tends to be the worst. Almost everyone has now had that exposure, either via vaccine or from having caught it.

outdamnedspots · 12/09/2024 07:41

SoTired12 · 11/09/2024 23:13

I didn't realise people were still testing themselves for covid

We all do. My mum has leukaemia, and no immune system due to chemo. Covid could kill her.

Auburngal · 12/09/2024 07:41

No idea when I will be next get a covid booster as asthmatic. Covid has certainly made asthma worse as on stronger and additional meds since having covid and had more asthma attacks too.

Also find it strange why I can't book a flu vaccine in September when I normally have it this week. Been on various pharmacy websites and first appointment is 1st Oct. I had to book it during the 2nd week of Oct as going on holiday on 3rd Oct and don't want to feel rubbish. Last year, I blacked out at work 3 days after having mine. I know each year is different because of different strains in the vaccine - based on WHO recommendations. Not taking the risks.

outdamnedspots · 12/09/2024 07:39

SaffronsMadAboutMe · 11/09/2024 22:56

Hmm did she really say the words 'that's not real'?

The majority of people I know liken Covid to a cold because since the jabs, that's mostly how it presents.

But that doesn't mean they don't think Covid is real, they just don't make the fuss over it that it used to cause and just go about normal life if you see what I mean?

'Since the jabs'? But most people haven't been vaccinated for years. That makes no sense.

rosesareredvioletsareblueaimverytiredandsoareyou · 12/09/2024 07:38

Dery · 11/09/2024 22:59

The problem is that people have such differing experiences of it. For some people, it’s like a mild cold. When I had it, it was much closer to flu and I felt absolutely rotten with it. But it’s certainly not made up and as we know it can be fatal for some. You don’t need to isolate any more but frankly it makes sense to do so if you can.

I agree with this.

Auburngal · 12/09/2024 07:37

People refuse to pay for LFTs now. So if they feel yuk, they call it a cold, bad cough, virus. Even my work stopped selling LFT kits.

Had covid three times - a few days before the first lockdown, 11 months later and July 22. Didn't know I had covid the first time as nearest test centre then was 42 miles away. I was struggling to hold a pen, so no way of driving 84 mile round trip. Had an antibody test a while later.

During the 3 bouts of covid, I had a headache which I never experienced before with any cold/virus. It was a sharp banging pain to the left temple.

Problem is that many employers use the 3 periods of sickness in a rolling year and get disciplined. Employees who already had 2 periods of sickness are scared about disciplinary action so come into work with a stinking cold. Done it myself. Up to July 2022, my employer didn't count covid towards the sickness count. Got the third bout in time.

Employers only put this policy in place because of a few who took the piss in the past. My ex's employer didn't have this policy until about a year before we split up. They noticed every payday and weekend after there were many absences, compared to the other weekends. There were some genuine sicknesses but most was because they got to pissed to turn up to work,

Prescottdanni123 · 12/09/2024 07:36

@x2boys

That is because the NHS is so short staffed. So they ask staff to go to work with covid, at great risk to their already unwell patients. My eighty something year old neighbour avoided getting Covid completely until she went into hospital a couple of months ago.

LuckysDadsHat · 12/09/2024 07:31

I had 3 weeks off work earlier with this "just a cold". I felt absolutely awful, the exhaustion and breathlessness could only be likened to when I had pneumonia and flu together. Covid is certainly not just a cold for a lot of people. A cold I would have continued to work, I couldn't even lift my head up of the pillow for 7 days.

x2boys · 12/09/2024 07:30

Perfect28 · 12/09/2024 07:07

The NHS website still says if you have COVID you should stay at home and away from other people.

There may not be a legal need to isolate but there is clearly still advice to reduce spread.

Anyone saying 'it's just a cold' is ignorant, and should listen to the experiences of those who have lost loved ones or are living with long COVID.

Funny how the NHS expect their own staff on with covid then isn't it?

x2boys · 12/09/2024 07:28

Floralspecscase · 12/09/2024 07:22

Interesting how quite a few people are not listening to the medical professionals here or the people who've been seriously ill.
Of course it's not just a cold and of course it's not ok to spread it knowingly.

So you think it's OK for people to just take unpaid leave and ridk losing their jobs because that's the reality for lots of people.

ZenNudist · 12/09/2024 07:27

Covid/cold/flu all can have various degrees of severity. You had covid and were ill, others have covid and it doesn't affect them.

I don't respect people who act like it's 2020 and think having covid is a big drama.

x2boys · 12/09/2024 07:26

I font see the pointing these threads ,
For most people covid is a mild illness ,yes its sways been known it can be far more serious for others
Lots of people don't have the option of isolating anymore ,my Dh had covid a few weeks ago ,he works in a ware house he can't just Work from home ,he had to go in and he was feeling pretty rubbish
We did avoid my parents ,as they are both 82 and very frail ,but we would have. Avoided them with any virus.

Beezknees · 12/09/2024 07:24

Floralspecscase · 12/09/2024 07:22

Interesting how quite a few people are not listening to the medical professionals here or the people who've been seriously ill.
Of course it's not just a cold and of course it's not ok to spread it knowingly.

It doesn't matter. People have their own families to think of. It's a luxury to be able to stay at home and not get paid in this economy.

Floralspecscase · 12/09/2024 07:22

Interesting how quite a few people are not listening to the medical professionals here or the people who've been seriously ill.
Of course it's not just a cold and of course it's not ok to spread it knowingly.

Beezknees · 12/09/2024 07:19

Well I don't test, so I wouldn't know if it was a cold or Covid. I've had covid 2 times that I know of and it was a cold for me.

I can wfh so I do so if I have a cold but I'd still go out if I needed to get shopping or something, if I was feeling well enough.

Many people just cannot afford to stay at home and not everyone has the luxury of being able to wfh.