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To think it is rude that my friend still hasn't read my message

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Passionfruitpunch1 · 11/09/2024 20:55

I sent my friend a message 5 weeks ago and she still hasn't read it, yet I can see that she is online.
It was just a general chit chat message but I can see that she hasn't even opened it. There aren't any issues between us that I'm aware of.
AIBU to find this pretty disrespectful?

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Whistledown2 · 11/09/2024 21:05

'Accidentally rude' after 5 weeks? Sorry I don't buy that. However..if she's not someone in regular touch it can happen but then I wouldn't bother again. If it was a close friend then I'd be very bothered by that. Saying 'life gets in the way' is a bit of a get out clause, 24 hours response? Ok that's not terrible but 5 weeks ffsConfused

Not reading/responding to messages is rude full stop. I think people who think it's ok to do this, or make excuses for those who do this are probably those who are guilty of doing it themselves.

You don't respond = you're not bothered = you're not friends!

MartinCrieffsLemon · 11/09/2024 21:00

Have you maybe checked that after FIVE WEEKS she's OK and not ill, injured or otherwise not able to respond?

BarbaraHoward · 11/09/2024 20:58

She probably didn't want to leave you on read and dismissed the alert to read and reply later only to forget all about it. If your chat has slid down the list and she has unread messages in group chats and the likes then she probably doesn't even realise.

Rude, yes, but if there are no issues between you it's likely accidentally rude. These things happen.

Aquamarine1029 · 11/09/2024 20:58

Why don't you message her again and ask how she's doing instead of stewing over something so silly for five weeks? The message may not have gone through, she may not have noticed it, who knows, but why you wouldn't first try to reach out again is just really bizarre.