Help settle a dispute - it's a term time missing school one

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Dollarydoos · 11/09/2024 20:05

We have a wedding tomorrow. Our babysitter has just text to say they can no longer look after the kids/do pick up/have a sleepover etc (FFS!) so long story short we're now all going to the wedding! Really will not be an issue for the couple as they've said multiple times if we change our mind we don't even need to let them know DC can just come along. The reason we weren't going to take them is that it's in term time and DS is in y1. However, now this has happened, neither of us is willing to miss the wedding so having to rethink.

Parent A thinks we should just be honest and tell the school the truth as honesty is the best policy (esp with kids!). Parent B thinks we should say DC is ill and will be back on Monday (We don't work Fridays so that would be fine and seems more believable to have 48 hours off)

Opinions?

YABU: tell the truth
YANBU: lie

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Dollarydoos · 11/09/2024 20:24

Thanks all, just those few replies has been enough to get us singing from the same hymn sheet. Why is it that something doesn't seem sensible until it comes from a 3rd party? Grr.

Honesty is the best policy. Ringing school now to explain (it's a messaging system for absence so no time like the present!)

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TinyYellow · 11/09/2024 20:18

Tell the truth. Your child will say something to someone unless you ask him to lie, and asking him to lie would be wrong. The staff actually working with your child would completely under the situation.

Woahtherehoney · 11/09/2024 20:17

Yeah don’t lie - it puts your child in an awkward position as well. Just tell the truth and go whether they approve it or not.

voxnihili · 11/09/2024 20:16

Tell the truth. It’ll likely be unauthorised but that’s no big deal in the great scheme of things for a couple of days.

I take my DD out for a few days every year and will continue to do so until we get a fine and then have to be careful for a couple of years. It’s just a few days, it doesn't harm her education as we make up for it at home.

Investinmyself · 11/09/2024 20:13

I’d be honest and go down as unauthorised. It’s a day I wouldn’t overthink it. Stuff happens you tried to make sure he could go to school. Then he only misses 1 day not 2.

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Dollarydoos · 11/09/2024 20:09

Darkfloods · 11/09/2024 20:07

Will your child tell his teacher?

Uncertain...we're still in the stage where once he's slept anything that happened in the past was 'yesterday' so might sound like the wedding was on the weekend. However (definitely going to reveal which parent I am) pretty certain if someone asks 'are you feeling better' he will respond with 'Huh? I wasn't ill!'

Which is awkward.

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Darkfloods · 11/09/2024 20:07

Will your child tell his teacher?

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