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What are your funeral songs?

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RainbowZebraWarrior · 11/09/2024 18:48

Appreciate it's a bit of a morbid question, but an important one (I feel) nonetheless. My family have always been quite pragmatic and have wills, but also a document entitled 'in the event of my death' My Mum keeps a copy of hers in her mobile phone case.

I think it's a last opportunity to tell people who you are / how you feel / what music you loved. Apart from that, it's also an opportunity to leave some potential comforting 'words'

My sister died young - aged only 29 - of complications from a heart issue related to her Downs Syndrome. At her funeral she had Alone by Heart and Lily The Pink played. She alos had the theme from Heartbeat. For a short time afterwards I couldn't listen to the former, but now it makes me smile. Lily The Pink made us all smile, as did Heartbeat as it was what made her smile too.

Anyway, mine are:

Stop Crying Your Heart Out by Oasis, and
White Lies by Stereophonics (I love them, amd this is my favourite song of theirs)

Apologies to anyone recently bereaved. I hope this isn't upsetting.

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ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 11/09/2024 19:39

Tom Waits Take Me Home

Bananasatchristmas · 11/09/2024 19:38

YMCA by the village people. And they have to do the moves as well. For my own amusement.

ilovesooty · 11/09/2024 19:35

Hallelujah Leonard Cohen

Out of the Blue into the Black Neil Young and Crazy Horse (live version from Rust Never Sleeps)

The Sound of Silence Disturbed (Remix)

Walking on Sunshine Katrina and the Waves

DustyMaiden · 11/09/2024 19:35

You want it darker and hallelujah.

RainbowZebraWarrior · 11/09/2024 19:34

GreatMistakes · 11/09/2024 19:26

I'd pick some inappropriate pop punk from the early 00s. Blink 182, anythin that was on Ameican Pie. Anything not serious. Which I suppose is a personal choice.

I must admit, I am tempted by an entirely inappropriate and majorly upbeat rock song.

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MistressWeatherwax1 · 11/09/2024 19:34

Little Girl Blue - Janis Joplin
Ripples - Genesis
Sacrifice - Christophe Beck

ShaunaSadeki · 11/09/2024 19:33

The Detectorists theme by Johnny Flynn and She Bangs the Drums by The Stone Roses for me

RainbowZebraWarrior · 11/09/2024 19:32

Loobyloo68 · 11/09/2024 19:28

Mum had rocking all over the world status quo going in and elvis bridge over troubled water at the end

Beautiful choices. My mother's choice is also an Elvis song. I have a massive appreciation of Elvis because of her. Bridge over troubled waters is also a classic.

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Butchyrestingface · 11/09/2024 19:31

🎵 Don't Cry for Me, Argentina 🎵

I am from Central Scotland, but hey, MY funeral, MY rulz.

MistressoftheDarkSide · 11/09/2024 19:29

My late DPs relatively sudden death from undiagnosed cancer was unexpected by us all including himself.

However, he was very musical and front man inmany bands over the years, mostly cover bands.

By a series of odd coincidences, I discovered he had left a written list of songs for the big day that would have totalled 54 minutes for a one hour service.

As stage manager for the "event" I had to try and honour his wishes.

He went in to the opening theme of Wings of Desire, one of his favourite films spliced with Monsters by Switchblade Symphony as the first wasn't long enough alone.

Then we had Tuesdays Dead by Cat Stevens, which was weird because he died on a Tuesday.

Then we had Goodbye Barcelona by Pokey Lafarge.

His friends duetted Tremor Christ as it was a song he sang often in bands.

He went out to the full version of Freebird, the full 15 minutes, because as he wrote on the list "Fuck the man!"

There would have been more but as it stands we had to have no speeches other than my eulogy and his family's due to the time constraints. I hope he would have approved.

I must get round to doing my own at some point.

So far I think "Hurt," " Je ne Regrette Rien" and the Led Zeppelin track he'd dedicate to me at gigs that starts "If the sun refused to shine" and possibly "Simple Man" for my sons. No hymns for me, no Siree.

Loobyloo68 · 11/09/2024 19:28

Mum had rocking all over the world status quo going in and elvis bridge over troubled water at the end

GreatMistakes · 11/09/2024 19:26

I'd pick some inappropriate pop punk from the early 00s. Blink 182, anythin that was on Ameican Pie. Anything not serious. Which I suppose is a personal choice.

MatildaTheCat · 11/09/2024 19:24

Perfect Day, Lou Reed
Morning has broken, Cat Stevens.

I attended a very important funeral this week and vowed to have no hymns at my funeral. Even with a large congregation the voices are thin and sad and drowned out by the organ ( in church).

shellyleppard · 11/09/2024 19:24

Elbow one day like this absolutely love this song. Somewhere over the rainbow by the big guy with the ukele. (Played it at my mum's funeral). Last song would have to be switch 625 by def leppard.....a right rocking song to go out on. Yes I'm crying but I think its a good idea to have a plan for the end. At least it your next of kin won't have to worry about the details.

2Old2Tango · 11/09/2024 19:21

This is outing because it was recent, but my DH died recently and was only 59. We had:

Going in: Gone Too Soon by Michael Jackson
Slideshow: Over The Rainbow by Eva Cassidy
Reflection: One More Day by Diamond Rio
Going Out: Smile by Nat King Cole

I don't want a funeral (direct to cremation for me) so not worried about choosing music.

DilemmaDelilah · 11/09/2024 19:21

When I am laid in earth (Dido's lament) from Dido and Aeneas by Purcell. The version by Alison Moyet.

ILikeItWhatIsIt · 11/09/2024 19:19

Barber's Adagio for strings - William Orbit (Ferry Corsten remix)

LimoncelloSpritz · 11/09/2024 19:15

Leaving New York - REM

JohnofWessex · 11/09/2024 19:15

I've asked that heh congregation should sing

'Always look on the bright side of life' as the wheelie bin containing my remains is emptied into the dustcart

Q2C4 · 11/09/2024 19:14

Champion of the World - Coldplay.

Land of Hope and Dreams - Bruce Springsteen.
A Sky Full of Stars - Coldplay.

Jeezitneverends · 11/09/2024 19:13

A piper playing Highland Cathedral before and after
Queen Don't Stop Me Now
Hymn-How Great Thou Art

BusySittingDown · 11/09/2024 19:12

For Good from Wicked.

caringcarer · 11/09/2024 19:11

Einaudi The Waves, I picked that song for my best friend who died 19 years ago now and for my 2 very dear Aunties who died 11 years ago. You'll Never Walk Alone for my DC. Montagues and Capulets for DH. He had that music when he walked down the Isle with his best man.

GoofyGoldie · 11/09/2024 19:11

Dancing in the Sky - Dani & Lizi
..for coming in.
Sign of the Times - Harry Styles ...to reflect on my life
Thank you for loving Me - Bon Jovi... as the curtains close.
Green Green Grass - George Ezra. ... on everyone's way out.

My funeral is mostly all planned as I have Stage 4 cancer. I've even written my eulogy, although I expect my family to add to it when they speak to the celebrant.