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What are your funeral songs?

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RainbowZebraWarrior · 11/09/2024 18:48

Appreciate it's a bit of a morbid question, but an important one (I feel) nonetheless. My family have always been quite pragmatic and have wills, but also a document entitled 'in the event of my death' My Mum keeps a copy of hers in her mobile phone case.

I think it's a last opportunity to tell people who you are / how you feel / what music you loved. Apart from that, it's also an opportunity to leave some potential comforting 'words'

My sister died young - aged only 29 - of complications from a heart issue related to her Downs Syndrome. At her funeral she had Alone by Heart and Lily The Pink played. She alos had the theme from Heartbeat. For a short time afterwards I couldn't listen to the former, but now it makes me smile. Lily The Pink made us all smile, as did Heartbeat as it was what made her smile too.

Anyway, mine are:

Stop Crying Your Heart Out by Oasis, and
White Lies by Stereophonics (I love them, amd this is my favourite song of theirs)

Apologies to anyone recently bereaved. I hope this isn't upsetting.

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GaryLurcher19 · 11/09/2024 20:02

I read this as 'What are your fungal songs?'

So, in answer :

Badger Badger... 🤣

Jins · 11/09/2024 20:01

Love like blood - Killing Joke
Uprising - Muse
Dazzle - Siouxsie and the Banshees
Calon Lân - Cerys Matthews.

If there isn’t enough time for 4 then I’d prefer them to drop the eulogy.

MinervaMcGonagallsCat · 11/09/2024 20:01

I think funerals are for those who are left behind.

My family can play whatever they chose.

AutumnFullMoon · 11/09/2024 20:00

I've planned for direct crem and no service, but I've always said since my teens my funeral song/song to remember me by would be Seize the Day by Avenged Sevenfold

Thingsthatgo · 11/09/2024 20:00

There she goes by The La's

Happyhippy99 · 11/09/2024 20:00

Pink Floyd, Any colour you like. Played this at my db’s funeral and despite it having no words, it summed up his beautiful life.

Thatsajokeright · 11/09/2024 20:00

Greenday - Time of your life

Ahwig · 11/09/2024 19:59

I'm on the top of the world looking down on creation the carpenters

NooNakedJacuzziness · 11/09/2024 19:59

The Rainbow Connection sung by Kermit (seriously, it's a lovely song!)

Lactarius · 11/09/2024 19:57

Lament of the Highborn & Rains of Castermere - had both of these for my teenage son's funeral

Adagio for Strings - had this at my stillborn son's funeral

March of Cambreadth - everyone needs bagpipes even if I'm not Scottish

MasterShardlake · 11/09/2024 19:57

Van Morrison Into the Mystic

hashimotosucks · 11/09/2024 19:56

Eva Cassidy time after time
Nick cave distant sky then loads of happy stuff but I am useless as remembering names of music so kids will have to figure it out

murasaki · 11/09/2024 19:54

Northern Sky, Nick Drake.
I'll fly away, Alison Krauss.

ladymalfoy45 · 11/09/2024 19:53

What's amazing is those who attend our funerals will have amazing memories of the songs we play.
Their youth and high and low points reflected in our music choices.
Beautiful.
Beats Abide with Me.

sterli2323 · 11/09/2024 19:51

I was only joking -Rod Stewart - kids can choose the rest

RobinGet · 11/09/2024 19:51

The only song I’m definite about is the final one, which will be Bring Me Sunshine by Morecambe & Wise. I keep changing my mind about the other songs.

Namechangedforspooky · 11/09/2024 19:49

Burn baby burn by Ash
I’m being serious, I’d love it especially the opening guitar
possibly also dream a little dream although I’d prefer the Beautiful South version

My dad died suddenly but had already written down his funeral music which helped enormously

PussInBin20 · 11/09/2024 19:48

I always thought “Wake me up before you go go” as I was a massive Wham! fan but maybe I need a more subtle George Michael song lol.

BusySittingDown · 11/09/2024 19:46

RainbowZebraWarrior · 11/09/2024 19:34

I must admit, I am tempted by an entirely inappropriate and majorly upbeat rock song.

Me too.

Or "Look What You Made Me Do" by Taylor Swift and have someone edit it so that it says "the old Busy can't come to the phone right now. Why? Oh, coz she's dead!"

I always quite fancied something like Welcome to the Jungle as they lower my coffin.

If I die before DH I don't think he'd like me to have anything inappropriate though. I think he'd find it upsetting.

I definitely want For Good as per my previous post though. It's one of my favourite songs and it's about saying goodbye and the mark that your friend has left on your life, which I think is nice for a funeral.

AltReality · 11/09/2024 19:45

GoofyGoldie · 11/09/2024 19:11

Dancing in the Sky - Dani & Lizi
..for coming in.
Sign of the Times - Harry Styles ...to reflect on my life
Thank you for loving Me - Bon Jovi... as the curtains close.
Green Green Grass - George Ezra. ... on everyone's way out.

My funeral is mostly all planned as I have Stage 4 cancer. I've even written my eulogy, although I expect my family to add to it when they speak to the celebrant.

I am sorry to hear that. 💐

You sound like an amazing person.

AliceMcK · 11/09/2024 19:45

Fields of Athenry this is my families funeral song

Saturday Night by Whigfield, one of my favourite songs to listen to getting ready in my youth.

Amazing Grace sung by my best friend, she’s older than me but luckily her families longevity averages about 40 years longer than mine so the odds are she’ll be around longer than me 😂

And finally My Way by Frank Sinatra

ScentlessAprentice · 11/09/2024 19:44

I Will Follow You Into The Dark by Death Cab
Keep Me In Your Heart - Warren Zevon
Freebird- Lynard Skynard

And anything by John Frusciante, but ideally Look On.

RainbowZebraWarrior · 11/09/2024 19:41

ilovesooty · 11/09/2024 19:35

Hallelujah Leonard Cohen

Out of the Blue into the Black Neil Young and Crazy Horse (live version from Rust Never Sleeps)

The Sound of Silence Disturbed (Remix)

Walking on Sunshine Katrina and the Waves

I love Hallelujah, but for personal reasons it's Jeff Buckley's version for me. I almost mentioned it in my OP.

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RainbowZebraWarrior · 11/09/2024 19:40

ShaunaSadeki · 11/09/2024 19:33

The Detectorists theme by Johnny Flynn and She Bangs the Drums by The Stone Roses for me

OMG. I love that song by Johnny Flynn (and Detectorists for that matter; it is my favourite and most rewatched show) It's the most perfect, gentle, beautiful song and matches the programme perfectly. You may have made me rethink my choices.

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Createausername1970 · 11/09/2024 19:40

I know one for definite, I think it's called "Thank you for the days" by the Kinks.

The others are fluid. Currently thinking "It's all gonna be alright" by Jellyroll.

But some of the suggestions in here have given me food for thought.