Did anyone else's parents smoke in the house

My dad always smoked in the house and car. I was born in the late 1950s and he had been smoking long before I came along. My husband and I both smoked in the house, car, and office until we stopped in our mid 30s. I can still remember the lovely fug when you went upstairs on the bus to have a cigarette, and also rushing to get a smoking seat on a plane. It was completely normal and accepted until around the 1990s.

And on planes! Aircraft full of smoke not to mention fire hazard! Unbelievable….almost.

My granddad on my mums side was an outlier in the 70s and 80s in that he always went outside to smoke. The granddad on the other side chain smoked in the house. Loads of my friend's parents smoked on their houses when I was growing up, it was completely normal.
My MIL, FIL and a few other family members smoked on their house when I first got together with DH. Gradually most of them gave up, but there were still a couple that persisted after I had my first DC. I refused to go around there unless they went outside so that was the final death knell of smoking indoors for the family (mine was not the first GC, the others had just accepted it).

My parents did, until the 2000s, all day and night. It was disgusting. They had no willpower. I used to beg them to quit.

Of course they did. It was common. People smoked everywhere. The hysteria over it nowadays is akin to looking back at Victorians who gave their babies gin and laudanum to quiet them down.

However, I'm pretty sure in years to come people of the future will look back at this generation of parents/children and be horrified at the amount of sugar they were allowed. The amount of fizzy drinks, fast food, Ultra processed shit. The obesity crisis that we pretend isn't happening. People in the 1970s smoked - but they were also much thinner than we are today. In the 1970s we got 10p on a Friday to buy sweets with. And that was it.

Future generations will probably be horrified at the smart phones children of today were allowed. The toddlers on iPads gazing at Peppa Pig in restaurants because no one could possibly expect a child to be without a screen whilst they were actually eating. The hardcore porn that pubescents and pre-pubescents managed to access without their parents' knowledge. The gaming addiction - the hours spent on Fortnite, or Call of Duty. The bullying, the mental health crisis that we perpetuated by giving them social media, TikTok, Snapchat. The paedophiles they were unknowingly exposed to. The dick pics that popped up on 12 year old girls phones. I've worked in safeguarding and it would horrify a lot of people who have no idea what their children are actually viewing.

The Andrew Tates who are influencing boys. The pro-anorexic sites that are influencing girls. The normalising of fillers, botox, veneers, surgery - because you are only worth it if you are pretty. The gambling sites, the easy credit card debt. The weight loss injections. The vaping. The desperation to have holidays and Instagram worthy houses, even though you aren't a celebrity and you can't afford it.

Spending time with grandad who had a Park Drive fag hanging out of his mouth was a lot less damaging than a lot of modern life.

Yes mine did and in the car BUT the window was cracked open (idiots).
I had tonnes of ear infections and illnesses during my kiddie years and I'm sure it was down to second hand smoke. They stopped smoking in the house and hiding thay they smoked when I started nicking their smokes aged 14. That was back in the early 00s.

They now smoke outside but my dad built an outdoor building for them to go into to smoke.

I eventually quit smoking in the last couple of years and I do 100% blame them as part of the influences to smoke that I had around me.

Yes and now she’s died of lung cancer so I think she paid the price for that selfishness.

Mine did and my brother and sister for that matter. Not in the bedroom though. This was in the 70s, 80a and 90s. Different times. I don't blame or judge them for it.
Ironically my parents gave up when their first grandchild was born.
I have never smoked and nor has DH
MIL still smokes but I won't let her smoke in the house and we rarely go to her house as neither me or the kids like the smell.

🥳🥳I often think this with these mn questions

DH's mum was like this. She had lung cancer which was small cell carcinoma and linked to her 40+ per day cigarette habit.

She had always said that if she got particularly ill with smoking related issues then she would quit but she didn't. She continued after the diagnosis and said then that she wouldn't give up. 🙄😲 It wasn't until a couple of weeks before her death, when the cancer was badly affecting her brain and cognitive abilities that the smoking stopped. She seemed to have forgotten that she had been a smoker at all and even told DH (in a very child like voice that rather shocked him at the time) that she had never smoked and didn't know how these packets of cigarettes came to be in her house. DH gathered up all of the cigarettes he could find as quickly as he could and took them out to the bin.

Yep.
dad smoked like a chimney all though our childhood 70s-90s. At home, in the car.

it was a revelation moving out and living smoke free.

Yes my dad smoked in the house throughout my childhood and still does. He supposedly now only smokes in the living room and is down to 10 a day but you can smell cigarettes almost everywhere in that house. It's not a small house. He also still chains it when stressed or if he's not mindful. I was never aware of smelling of smoke at the time I lived at home but I suppose I must have. His smoking room is hard to breathe in and despite the paint around and above his arm chair discolouring, we get shot down and told we're silly if we blame it on cigarettes. It's OBVIOUSLY by product of oil from cooking. Despite being rooms away from the kitchen- which has no such discolouration.

Apparently he never smoked around me as a baby. He certainly doesn't smoke in my house but he brought an ash tray round when I moved in and he takes it into my garden. He smokes in all of our cars. My mum had childhood asthma which she is growing back into in old age and she really struggles yet he won't stop. It also upsets her that we never dress up or scrub up that nicely to visit her otherwise beautiful house- because of the nicotine stink. They have an age gap in her favour so hopefully she'll live smoke free again, as she would love to grannexe with us in years to come but I refuse to live with a smoker.

He's 90 this year and has been smoking since he was 14. I doubt he'll stop before he dies. By some miracle he has clean nails, non stained teeth and never smells of cigarettes.

I am not making this up but my mum had horrendous morning sickness with me and her doctor (1963) advised her that smoking might help! She became extremely addicted to cigarettes.

My dad knew fine well about passive smoking. My childhood was 1983-2001.

My dad smoked essentially constantly in the kitchen with the back door open.

He would then fall asleep in the living room with the back door unlocked.

I spent my entire childhood freezing and worrying about being murdered in my bed.

Yes all through the 80’s. I did too in the early 90’s. Smoked at work too.
As a kid I was often taken to a working men’s club at the weekend and almost all the adults smoked inside.
Looking back it was utterly vile and the atmosphere is so much better with smoking bans.
I’ve not smoked for decades and it is the very best thing I have ever done for myself

At the moment there aren’t any negative sides to not having a phone that I can see. They’re 11 and 10 so not teenagers, but all their friends have phones and have done for a couple of years.
When I feel that they need a phone, I’ll get them a non smart phone.
Yes it’s a difficult decision to make, but I’ve read the research about the damage it can cause to developing brains and it’s not a risk I’m willing to take.

Yes, my mum did. She also smoked when she was pregnant which makes me really angry!

Yup, until they moved house when I was at uni in the late 90s.

I had a friend who's parents both smoked heavily in a tiny terrace. The air was blue. He started smoking himself at University (mid 90s) as he used to feel out of sorts in the evening, then realised he was nicotine addicted.

Mine did, and in the car (50s and 60s). But I have 3 siblings and I dare say we were lucky, but apart from the usual colds, none of us ever had coughs or any respiratory trouble.

My Dm smoked into her 90s - died at 97 of dementia/old age.

DF died at 72, of bowel cancer.

But actually, the two things aren’t comparable anyway. You could argue that giving a child a smartphone is for their benefit (so they can contact you in an emergency, so they can stay in touch with friends etc) but you could never argue that parents smoking is for the child’s benefit, could you?