To reconsider the relationship if I dont meet his parents?

Agree with this.

Yes, in your shoes I'd like to meet and spend a bit of time with them, but I don't know why you are being so impatient about the details.

You know the dates they will be here. If the event with your friend is on one day, that still leaves the other 4 days.
If going to another country to stay with their son, I don't think most parents would have a planned itinerary in advance.

Relax.

I can't even begin to understand what your problem is. You've only been together 10 months, you're long distance, and he hasn't worked out details with his parents yet. What's the big deal? But whatever, if you want to chuck a relationship over this, go ahead.

Cultural differences strike me as being relevant here.

He's already been divorced. He may not want to set parents expectations/pressure to marry at this stage.

That's fine. Potentially it's healthy.

OP you're coming across as very needy. It's a month away and he hasn't made plans yet so he...doesn't have a plan. I don't see why you've immediately leapt to the conclusion that that means you're not going to meet them.

When he does have a plan then either you're in it or you're not. If you're not then that's the time to consider the relationship.

But honestly, already thinking you'd dump him and bumping the thread after 15 minutes sounds like a combination of neediness and impatience. Have a look at yourself to see if you think they are attractive qualities in a potential partner.

You are far too pushy for a Finnish person. Things happen when they happen, chill. You want to rethink the relationship, then rethink the relationship. Parents have nothing to do with it.
(Half-Finnish woman living with her partner for three years without either of us meeting each-other’s parents)

Don’t push. It is possible that he doesn’t want you to meet them because he’s not that into you, but if that is the case, pushing won’t help. If he has other reasons, there is still no reason to push.

It could easily be a problem with the parents, or at 10 months maybe he thinks it’s too soon.

I don’t get why you care so much about meeting a bf’s parents tbh. You are adults, not teenagers. Just calm TF down and let it happen when convenient and the time is right! He’ll go right off you, and rightly so, if you are constantly this intense, lol.

I kept my now DH away from my parents as long as possible. Nothing to do with him and everything to do with my parents.

Although staying away from people with batshit parents might be a good relationship choice.

I wouldn’t put any pressure on this, it’s still a month away and a quick introduction to parents doesn’t require 4 weeks of planning in advance.

For what it’s worth, maybe he’s not ready for you to meet his parents and that’s okay, he might have his own reasons for that.

Why don't you just tell him that you won't be able to meet his parents on x date as you have an event with a friend but are looking forward to seeing them when they come over.

I think you need to calm down a bit.

He’s obviously told them about you. If he saw you as just a random woman he was having a casual relationship with, he probably wouldn’t have mentioned you. Or at least would have told them that it wasn’t at that stage yet.

Wait until the week before they get here, and if he hasn’t mentioned it, suggest that he books a table somewhere so you can all have dinner together. If he agrees, then great, no problem. If he fobs you off, then you need to have a chat with him and find out his reasons. And then you can decide whether it’s worth your time to continue.

Agree with this

If there were unreasonable excuses why you can't meet them when they visit, I would be wondering about that tbh, even meeting up for quick coffee would be something if they were on a travel iternary.

You’re being impatient and pressuring him.

You know there coming and I’m sure he will discuss and make plans with them nearer the time or once they’re here.

You don’t want him to feel forced into introducing them to you because you won’t stop going on about it, you want him to introduce them to you because HE wants to.

So back off and stop going on about it and if he brings it up you know he’s serious about you, if not you have your answer.

They're coming in a month! Why would he have made plans already. I barely plan past tomorrow.

Do you have form for not having patience? (Bumping your post 10 mins in due to no reply).