This exactly! Men who see a woman alone think 'desperate, lonely, sad, can she cook, tidy figure, not a bad face, she may make a good wife one day, she needs a man!' And they find it unfathomable that some women want to be alone, enjoy being alone, and actually don't need a man at all! I mean many women do enjoy company of course, but also enjoy being alone - and are FINE alone!
I LOVE my days out on my own, day trips to the beach, or the lake, or for a walk by the river, or around the woodlands, or walking along the canal. (From full days 8am til 6pm, to part days 10am til 3pm.) Just me myself and I tootling around, walking at my own pace, stopping when I want to take photos, taking videos of things around me, listening to the birds, gasping in awe at a baby deer bouncing by, and sitting under a tree to have my little snack and drink.
I sometimes just sit on the boardwalk at the lake just looking across it - for 10 minutes. Just appreciating the fact that I'm alive, and thinking 'what a lovely world and I'm so blessed to be in it.' (#CheeseAlert sorry.) AGAIN, I enjoy being with others sometimes, my 2 best friends, my 2 adult DD and their partners, (and their partners parents,) and my DH. But I don't like big group meet-ups and I enjoy a small social circle.
EG there is a walking group in my village, and a couple of women in it have asked me several times to join it. (Every Saturday morning it is at 8.30am. They walk 7-8 miles) I do NOT want to walk in a group, and they just don't seem to get it. I want to walk at my own pace, my own chosen route, and maybe just 2-3 miles. 7-8 miles is a lot for me! My limit for a walk is usually 4 to 4.5 miles.. And I would not want to be walking 7-8 miles with 30 other people! Just no!
I do NOT want to do it and give the reason that weekends are family time, and I can tell how they look at me that they are a bit confused and slightly irked that I say no! I do have other things to do on Saturdays, (and Sundays!) and as I said, the weekends are the only time I see my family. But I can tell they think this is a lame excuse, because their family lives 100s of miles away and they see them 2 to 4 times a year, and can't comprehend how or why anyone would want to see theirs most weekends.
I have been in several village meet-up groups over the past decade, and eventually I left because there was always at least 2 people who were opinionated gobshites, and there were also little cliques of people who came together (best mates and family members.) Same with slimming groups I went to - always little cliques, and I stopped going after 5-7 weeks. Maybe it's just me, and the fact I am just a free spirit, but I won't apologise for it, or change myself to be somebody that other people want me to be.
Sorry, went off on a tangent. Basically, no-one should be something they don't want to be, to please other people. You can bet most people wouldn't do it for you