Is my dd being entitled?

Nice try, lol. No I’m saying your kid should.

She’s not being a diva, she has a point. I’d prioritise sorting her teeth out to be honest - it makes a massive difference to people’s self confidence.

I would of too as I think dental care is a parental obligation- assuming your daughter is under 18?

I think your teeth have to be pretty bad to even qualify for NHS braces these days so you daughter may well need braces.

You probably would not have got braces on NHS if you were a teenager again now.

Teeth are so important and if I had the opportunity to stop my daughter having to go through her teens avoiding smiling widely and hating her teeth, I'd absolutely jump at it. If I were you, I'd fix my daughters first and my own afterwards. The NHS saying they're not needed isn't the same as saying her teeth are good. It just means they're not bad enough to be provided for free. I don't think she's being entitled at all. Straight, nice teeth shouldn't be a luxury, they can affect confidence etc. as it's one of the first things people see.

Well I can’t imagine telling my kid she couldn’t have braces as I was doing my own teeth first, treating myself and I had to wait a long time so so should she.

think yours is worse.

I’d always prioritise my child over me, so I’m also dismayed by your attitude, and your answer of well I had to wait a long time and am treating myself is shit.

you know she needs braces, just shes not bad enough for the nhs to pay for it.

i mean you do you. Enjoy your braces.

You show your kids posts on mumsnet?

Except that this is being told to them by an NHS dentist who has a vested interest in saying no and it doen't necessarily mean she doesn't need them, just that shes not bad enough to qualify for it publically. If invisalign is so expensive maybe OP can afford 2 sets of train track braces with some scrimping. OP has enough concerns about her own teeth to do this expensive fix but thinks her DD is entitled to think her teeth should get fixed too. I needed braces as a teen, not bad enough to qualify for publicly and we couldn’t afford private, it's had a serious impact on my teeth, I've had a lot of fillings because of over crowding and am very self concious about how my teeth look. The public dentist said I didn't need braces, whether they were cost cutting or simply didn't know enough because they weren't an orthodontist the outcomes still the same. Decades of problems with my teeth.

I would at least get an appt and an estimate.

The NHS dental service is pretty skeletal. There's plenty of scope for them to be quite bad without being bad enough to qualify for NHS treatment. If we all told our mentally unwell DC that they didn't need any intervention because CAMHS said they weren't bad enough, the suicide rate in this country would go up. Women who have had cervical cancer no longer meet the NHS criteria for someone to look at their smear test cells, unless they first test positive for HPV. There are massive needs now going unmet round the edges of what reaches the NHS criteria.

I paid 3k for my DC’s braces and their teeth were only slightly crooked. Not covered on the NHS.

You’re in your 40’s put your DD first. It is better the younger you are. Get her braces before you splurge on yourself.

Most dentists let you do 0% deals.

I love showing posts like yours to my kids to demonstrate just how self centred some parents are.

I think you are being unreasonable not to get braces for your DD tbh.

Posters slating op for not getting daughter braces… the dentist said the daughter didn’t need them. I’m confused by the outrage

Overcrowding should still be corrected. We do the minimum in this country to kid’s teeth. Why shouldn’t they look good from a cosmetic point of view?

I can't imagine doing this in a million years. Of course she is upset. She will know her peers parents do these things and you've chosen not to for her, not because you can't but because you've chosen your own vanity over her happiness.

I would pay for braces for my children if they wanted them, it's very difficult to get them on the NHS. DH did it for DSS (after I persuaded him, his teeth were dreadful so he probably would have qualified on the NHS but wait times post covid were awful) , i thought the price was really reasonable for the standard 'train track' style braces. He paid interest free over 12 months and it was done. I wouldn't pay for Invisalign for a teen though!

Not in my town!

please tell this woman who to see to get free braces!

This is so untrue it's really not that difficult to get NHS braces and much will depend on your dentist/ ortho.

I can totally understand why you were surprised but I don’t think she’s being a diva and I think your new plan is a good one. I suspect it’s quietly been upsetting her for a while and seeing you feel as if it’s worth acting on your own teeth made her feel like you cared less about hers - not true, of course, but a painful feeling. I’m sure there’s a good middle ground to be found here where you can both have good reason to smile and feel good when you do :)

Have you thought that the reason she doesn't smile widely is because^^ she is conscious about her teeth? Irrespective of whether the dentist thinks the slight overcrowding is an issue, your daughter seems to think it is.

I'd have prioritised my child. I don't think she's being a diva and I do think you're being a bit unreasonable. Sorry, OP. 🤷🏻‍♀️

The crowding may get worse as she gets older though. So it’s not just a cosmetic concern - also a health concern.

She doesn’t NEED braces. Shes already been seen by a dentist and they said it’s minimal crowding that’s obviously cosmetic.

Just like if she wanted highlights, a facial, a new car

Comparing braces to highlights (which absolutely nobody on earth needs), facials and cars is ridiculous.