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For wanting to photoshop a photo of a friend

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justforthispost1 · 10/09/2024 11:58

Had a lovely holiday with some friends, I was the designated photographer so I sent all of the photos to everyone afterwards and told them to send the ones back they want uploaded to social media. All was fine however one friend sent back a picture and on closer inspection I would feel more comfortable photoshopping part of it. I don't want to upset my friend so I was thinking of just doing it without telling her but then I think if she looks at it compared to the original and she notices then she will be offended. Would it be unreasonable to just edit it without telling her?

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DoIWantTo · 10/09/2024 13:03

YABU to photoshop another person because you don’t like the way they look. She did, she said she was happy to post it to social media so it’s not your business or place to go about criticising other people’s looks.

raspberryfizzer · 10/09/2024 13:01

If you're struggling this much with this dilemma, just don't post the picture. Is it really that important? Sounds like you have lots of nice ones.

sunseaandsoundingoff · 10/09/2024 13:00

yeah I'd 100% photoshop that. you're a good friend, so many people take pleasure in uploading embarrassing photos of people and making them feel shit about themselves.

housethatbuiltme · 10/09/2024 12:58

Janeir0 · 10/09/2024 12:19

There’s some noticeable hairs visible from an area that a bikini usually covers

You can just say my mates got her pubes out.

Just edit them out, I dont think in any universe someone would want a photo posting with their pubes out.

Actually I have worked in photography and body hair really doesn't offend as many people as you would think. There a whole movement of people proud of it who even want it accentuating not hiding.

Some are just feminists/punks, some from other cultures where hair isn't taboo and people expect body hair and sometimes as with everything its even a whole kink thing.

Fun fact: remember the massive bushes in 60s/70s porn? Removing hair only really became a thing to stop the outbreak of crabs in the late 80s originally. Places like Hollywood really suffered especially in the sex industry as such the porn stars, glamour models, rock stars etc... stared shaving and it caught on in fashion over the next decade or so. If your not at risk of crabs then its really not a huge issue.

Maria1979 · 10/09/2024 12:57

Unless she's showing the pubes off to make a statement you can photoshop them if they bother you. But it's just body hair, we all got'em..

OrwellianTimes · 10/09/2024 12:56

Just message her.

“Hey Trish, your pubes are showing, want me to sort it?””

Trish will either respond:
”OMG yes please!”
or “nah pubes are natural! Down with the patriarchy!”

Job done. No drama.

honeylulu · 10/09/2024 12:55

smuggling a hedgehog

😂😂😂

AlwaysKindaKnewYoudBeTheDeathOfMe · 10/09/2024 12:55

Just edit it, resend it and say, actually I've edited some of them a wee bit, here's the new version. She likely won't know what's been done, just warm up the tones a wee bit as well or something like that.

reesewithoutaspoon · 10/09/2024 12:55

Just message her "Hey friend. You look like you're smuggling a hedgehog in your bikini. Want me to edit them out?"
If she's a good friend, this should be something you can laugh about without being self-conscious.
My mates would definitely tell me.

Planesmistakenforstars · 10/09/2024 12:54

Jesus Christ just tell her in a lighthearted way and gauge her response. "Sal, your pubes are showing!!" If she responds "Yeah hahaha" then leave it. If she responds "OMG how embarrassing" then offer to photoshop it.

herecomesthesondodedoodoo · 10/09/2024 12:53

Christ just bloody ask her! 'Do you want me to photo shop your pubes out?' Simple.

BridgetJonesBigPants · 10/09/2024 12:51

Just do it. No one is going to zoom in on a photo that they're seeing for the second time to check on their pubes.

honeylulu · 10/09/2024 12:51

I would feel differently to most people in this thread as I would be mortified to realise that my pubes had been visible and made it into a photo! Yes everyone grows pubic hair but it doesn't mean we want everyone to see it.

In your friend's position I would much prefer not to have it pointed out and for you to quietly edit the photo and post the tidy version! I'd rather not know.

It seems so unlikely that she'd be offended because she would prefer her pubes to remain on display for posterity.

Edingril · 10/09/2024 12:51

Riapia · 10/09/2024 12:44

Only on MN would somebody be offended by having stray pubes edited out of a photo.

I'm thinking only on MN would someone zoom in enough to see them then be worried others would zoom in enough

HowToSaveAWife · 10/09/2024 12:51

Er, can't see anyone being fine with bits of their bush online. I'd give her the heads up privately and just edit it. I don't understand why this has to be complicated.

RareLemur · 10/09/2024 12:47

Just check with her. Then depending on the answer you can edit or put up the photo as is.

TheOliveGoose · 10/09/2024 12:46

Two things. Firstly, AIBU to edit friends pubes out of holiday photos <<< this title would have made the whole thread a lot easier for everyone.

Secondly, I highly doubt your friend zoomed into her own crotch to look for stray hairs, I highly doubt she will zoom in on your posted photo to check for stray hairs. Do what you like.

nOasistickets · 10/09/2024 12:46

Just tell her her pubes are out and of she wants then photoshopped - if she’s a friend whats the issue?

CorbyTrouserPress · 10/09/2024 12:45

I couldn’t give a shit if my pubes were showing. I’m an adult, we have pubes, if other people are offended by my pubes that’s their problem, not mine.

However, I am also aware that many women would be horrified if their pubes were showing. Again, they are an adult and this is their choice.

We have no idea which camp your friend falls into. Just ask her, it’s really not a big deal either way.

Riapia · 10/09/2024 12:44

Only on MN would somebody be offended by having stray pubes edited out of a photo.

FluffyBook · 10/09/2024 12:44

A friend who I knew well enough to go on holiday with, I'd just ask her.

Restinpeacefavouritecoathanger · 10/09/2024 12:44

I would send her individually the original and mention you've noticed it and your a dab hand with the photo shop if she would like you to do it but no worries if not.

AhBiscuits · 10/09/2024 12:44

Just ask her. I don't understand why she would be offended by that.

Gonk123 · 10/09/2024 12:43

Dolliesdisasterousdayout · 10/09/2024 12:43

Instead of skirting around it just say, hey friend I saw you had some pubes poking out. Do you want me to get rid or would you prefer to keep them?

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Exactly and she will say omg thank god you noticed! Get rid!
easy!

Dolliesdisasterousdayout · 10/09/2024 12:43

justforthispost1 · 10/09/2024 12:15

Added for context

There’s some noticeable hairs visible from an area that a bikini usually covers. The thing is I’m not sure if my friend noticed and she doesn’t mind or she didn’t notice. If it’s latter then I could get away with photoshopping it however if it’s the former she might be offended that I asked to edit it out.

Instead of skirting around it just say, hey friend I saw you had some pubes poking out. Do you want me to get rid or would you prefer to keep them?