I don't like my engagement ring 😞 (pic)

It's lovely. Classic and classy (disclaimed: it's just like mine).

It sounds as if your fiancé won't be terribly offended if you say you would like to change the ring. Maybe go back to the shop with him and, if they have nothing else more to your taste, exchange for wedding bands (they probably have ones you would like). Find some rings you do like and ask him to choose one of them - so he still picks it and you get a surprise.

Your lab diamond is lovely! Use it to recreate one of the rings you have shown as your preference. But please please don’t choose a pearl as a long- lasting centre gem- they are not good in an everyday ring- far too delicate for day in, day out, and you would want to wear your ring every day, I’m sure, save pearls for a dress piece to be worn on special occasions?
I think if you talk to your partner about refining the design, ge would get on board, maybe offer to pay the difference?

@Marooney those rings you shared are just beautiful and a completely different style, and that first one with the Pearl is amazing. Just show him those and say unfortunately this is what you always envisaged for your ring, you will exchange yours for the wedding bands and you can go together to get one like this. Please don’t spend a life sad for a ring you hate.

Don’t settle for something you don’t love! It’s such a symbolic piece of jewellery that you’ll wear everyday. We returned my original ring because it wasn’t to my taste and I chose the right ring for me. We’ve been happily married for ten years so not settling for the original ring didn’t cause me any harm or bad luck!!

The ones you have chosen are a different class altogether. Lovely.

It’s silly to think that someone can pick out a piece of jewellery for you, which is such a personal aesthetic, and you just have to suck it up so as not to offend, I don’t get it. It is much better for you to end up with something you love. Go shopping together and choose something that is t really you. Use the store credit for his wedding ring and towards yours too if this have anything that matches your eventual choice of engagement ring.

This, exactly!

I love your style OP and hope your fiancé understands and helps you find a ring that feels like you....

For context, my taste is v different to all my DP's exs and even after 15yrs he still can't pick out jewellery for me - but after a few requests for exchanges from me (including one which was only possible as the main stone kept falling out- thank goodness!) he does now at least accept that we are both happier if I can choose for myself 😅

I love your style OP and hope your fiancé understands and helps you find a ring that feels like you....

For context, my taste is v different to all my DP's exs and even after 15yrs he still can't pick out jewellery for me - but after a few requests for exchanges from me (including one which was only possible as the main stone kept falling out- thank goodness!) he does now at least accept that we are both happier if I can choose for myself 😅

Hi op! You’ve probably decided what to do by now, but I just wanted to say congratulations and that I think it’s a really pretty ring.

You should have seen my engagement ring! It was a heart shape. In fairness, we were in our early twenties, but golly gosh I had trouble not looking a tad disappointed. I kept it to myself though and we picked a wedding ring together. My wedding ring was exactly what o wanted from an engagement ring, which obviously left the engagement ring redundant in the end.

I thought this was something that happened 50 years ago.

No, we were much more sensible 50 years ago. He proposed then you both went ring shopping together.

Although that approach works very well for lots of people

I find it really weird that men think they can just go and buy a ring without input from the recipient. I thought this was something that happened 50 years ago.

I'd hate that. I'd find it quite creepy tbh. I think getting a voucher for wedding rings that you choose together would be best. OP needs to find a ring SHE likes, not what her boyfriend likes.

Oh these are beautiful - you have lovely taste!

Is it really that different to the one you want?

But surely there can't be anything more romantic and traditional than a cynical marketing campaign started by the leading supplier of blood diamonds because they had lots of big rocks to shift during the Depression?

Maybe the shop could obtain something to your taste? Even though they don't actually stock anything you like?

there's zero chance I'd pootle around this earth for literal decades wearing a ring I actively disliked. Non!

I wouldn't let a man choose a pair of shoes, that might last me two years, never mind an engagement ring.

Pft.

I think people should get a say in their engagement ring! I’d feel the same.

Just a few thoughts:

1. You need a bigger budget for what you want. Even if you increase to £1k you could get more
2. If budget can’t increase go for moisannite or consider a diamond with a halo. Lots of small stones cost less than a solitaire.
3. Don’t get a pearl! You need something that will withstand a lifetime of wear so it needs to be a tougher stone. Ensure you buy something sturdy, well made and be careful on Etsy.

Blingy......

Clingy should say clingy.

You have lovely slim fingers x

Also in a few years you could get a nice clingy sort of eternity ring and wear it on your other hand. I think your solitaire sitting in all that gold would look just fine xx

I think it's gorgeous and very suited to your slim fingers. I'd choose a wedding ring with lots of diamontes to set it off.