I don't like my engagement ring 😞 (pic)

I think you could take it to a jeweller and ask to use the existing stone and metal to make a new ring/design, add other stones to it depending on what you want. Maybe you have some other jewellery/family jewellery you could combine with it. Might be a good idea to try some rings on, see what suits you.
Or as a previous poster said exhange it for wedding bands.
Alternatively you could keep it and work with a jeweller to create a wedding band that compliments it - there is a jewellery designer that makes rings to sit with other rings, think she calls them party jackets and they look quite cool.

She's not making things up. I don't like that style of ring either, and as the OP has said, she has giant man-hands. But her beloved has proposed and bought her a ring, and she is complaining about it online, complete with a recognizable photograph of it. She is humiliating him and his gift of a ring.

not sure it can be £360 if solid gold even if lab diamond?
usually engagement rings are solid gold

Because they make it look smaller?

I think you should keep it, it was great that he chose it himself and it is really from his heart. He likely sweated blood choosing it. It will always remind you what a sweet idiot he was, no other ring will do that.

But up to you, he may be heartbroken that you don't like it, so break it gently.

Looks alright to me 😕

Some women have their heart set on a surprise proposal. It's a bit harder to pull that off if you've already chosen the ring together.

this is such an irritating comment! nowhere did she complain about her partner, and she is allowed to have opinions and preferences about (one of two of?) the most important pieces of jewellery in her life. Vote unreasonable if you think she’s being unreasonable for this, but dont make things up.

Congratulations and I agree with the others about exchanging for wedding rings or maybe an eternity ring?

I think as you’ve agreed to get married, you really need to be able to tell him frankly why the ring he’s chosen isn’t what you want to wear. If you’re not able to have such a straightforward conversation, he isn’t the right one for you.

I think it's a bit bland, yes. Fine if that's your style but it's OK not to like it. DH got me an unusual style ring that I loved, except that the stones were not strong enough. He joked for about a month about me "upgrading" the ring, but as I had the same style made with different stones he was happy. He's picked a classic style and that's ok, but if your fiance doesn't mind you changing the look of it then it doesn't matter. Choose something more exciting together so that he knows he had input too. Swapping it for wedding bands is a great idea.

I think it’s lovely and timeless and doesn’t look too small for your hand. I would also look at this as the first of a few rings that would sit on this finger. Hopefully one day it will be accompanied by a wedding ring and eternity ring. A larger ring won’t sit well with other rings.

It doesn't sound like OP likes the style of the shop's jewellery so unlikely to want her wedding ring from there, but perhaps she can use the credit for gifts or something else.

How did you demonstrate you were willing to make financial sacrifices/save/treat your husband? How much of a significant amount of your income did you save up and spend on something you had made for your husband?

Or was it more a lop-sided transaction, eg you got a husband plus expensive jewellery, and he got a materialistic wife?

I was early stages of pregnancy when my husband proposed. In that stage where you just cannot contain your emotions over absolutely nothing. I had waited for him to propose for years. Was delighted when he did but hours later and I’d mentally just not thought the ring was the one. I really didn’t know what to do and didn’t want to offend him. I cried and cried and he was asking me what was wrong but i couldn’t stop myself 😂 I did eventually tell him and I worded it that it was square and I had wanted one that was round (through my pathetic tears) 🙈 I changed it and ordered the replacement online. We didn’t tell a soul and had already posted a picture and showed people it but no one ever noticed it changed. I love my ring now though

It is a lovely ring, but if it's not your style or taste then you're never going to love it.

I can never understand why some men make this decision by themselves, taste in jewellery is so personal and an engagement ring is something you will be looking at for years to come.

Wedding rings completely change the look of engagement rings, if you are feeling it looks lost on your finger, but if the whole style is not your taste then you do need to tell him, I'm sure he would prefer you to be happy with what you get.

Congratulations

great idea!

The ring is fine. A bit dull and generic looking I suppose. Very much screams man knows nothing about jewellery but needs to buy a ring.

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Exactly.

I think it's pretty, but swapping for a pair of wedding rings is a great idea, as others have said.

My husband made my engagement ring. It's beautiful, actually beautiful, but I never did like the shape of the stone. But because he'd made it, I didn't want to complain. We made our wedding bands for each other, too, and it did grow on me after that because the band was cut to accommodate the shape of the engagement ring. I don't wear the engagement ring all of the time, but I do love the wedding ring and its shape so that's never off. Engagement ring just comes out for special occasions.

He still doesn't know. But as your partner hasn't literally poured blood, sweat, tears, and money into your ring, in your shoes I'd tell him you'd prefer something different.

I haven't looked at all of the previous comments so apologies if I am repeating what has already been said.

You will hopefully wear this ring for the rest of your life, If you don't like it now it is doubtful that you will grow to love it in time.

I would have the conversation sooner rather than later and suggest you choose something together that is more to your taste. Deep breath and time for the 'do you have the receipt' conversation.

Personally I think it is bland choice there are so many options available, different metals, stones or even vintage rings which would provide more ring for the money.

I have been married twice, divorced and sadly widowed and on both occasions I chose my engagement ring with my spouse, I know my own mind and would loathe a ring to be presented to me, jewellery is such an individual choice.

Great idea

It's lovely. Once you add a wedding and then an eternity ring either side of it, the overall size of multiple rings will probably make the final overall impression bigger, if that's what you're after.

My engagement is similar to that but I have a diamond filled band for a wedding ring which gives it a bit more sparkle iyswim.

Maybe go into the jewellers and try on a wedding ring with it to see what it'll look like and then decide if you still don't like it.

I don’t understand the fashion for a man to choose the ring when it’s his fiancée who will be wearing it. I’ve been married twice and both times we went together to choose rings.

Why on earth would you post that? What is wrong with you?