I don't like my engagement ring 😞 (pic)

Was about to say this myself! Use the exchange on your wedding bands and get a different ring elsewhere xx

@Marooney My friend has a tiny diamond 💍 ring, much smaller than that- and it sparkles like crazy !
It’s the sparkle that really matters in a Diamond- not the size
I think it looks lovely.

Congratulations on getting engaged. The ring is pretty and looks fine but completely understand your wish for something more unusual! (I went down that route!)
Your other half is happy for you to exchange, so try and work with that. If the shop does wedding bands, could you both get them from there? Or possibly some other pretty, special jewellery that you could wear for getting married in say. Then go and choose a ring together?

That ring fits your brief, classic, and simple.
It's also very delicate and beautiful. I disagree about your hands swamping it, I think it suits you (from the photo shown). It shows your stb husband has put in the thought and the effort (all good signs for a life long partner).
Maybe change your mindset; your partner chose this ring because he has listened, observed and more importantly taken onboard your desire of classic and simple. Total winner!
But if you really don't like it, then see if you can change it. Jewellery like clothing and bags and shoes is personal, and a difficult thing to get right when buying for someone else.

Really? You object to tradition around marriage? Is that all traditions, like the woman and any children taking the man’s name? Should men start being questioned more on why they aren’t taking their wife’s name?

I would speak to the jeweller - if they are decent they can alter it/add a stone - if you have unused gold that can be added etc

It is really plain! Lovely a simple.

Agreed. The 'credit' should pay for a nice wedding band (or 2?) You could choose them now, then go & choose an engagement ring together that suits you & fits against your wedding band.
(my initial ring was like yours but set high so I exchanged it for a rub over setting as I'm clumsy - I then had to pay for a chunk to be taken out of my wedding ring so they fit flush - it was engraved & the jeweller did it upside down - so, imo, choose your wedding band & then your engagement ring !)

Don’t be so ridiculous, an engagement ring is something you’re meant to wear everyday for the rest of your life, I’m so sorry if it’s inconvienant that women have their own tastes but she’s human, and she does, nothing spoilt about it. And as for the poster you were replying to, OP didn’t even complain about him.

You could get it remade into something you prefer, adding stones or whatever.
My mum persuaded me to get my engagement ring made by a "trendy" jeweller she knew. It wasn't my taste at all (I was v young at the time) and I didn't like it.
A few years later I got the whole thing remade, used the same stones but totally changed the setting. I love it now.

There's nothing wrong with the ring, it's a very nice solitaire, and standard style for an engagement ring but if you don't like, of course YANBU for wanting to change it. Or whatever you choose.
I have in the past found some really pretty rings and other jewellry on Gemporia and The Jewellry Channel and they both have regular sales where you can get lovely stuff for lower prices. You could also try looking through Ebay as well. If you want something with a bigger stone, consider topaz- it's 8 on the Mohs Scale so hard enough for everyday wear and much, much cheaper than diamonds or even mossianite and plus it's a natural gemstone. It also has a lovely lustre and comes in lots of different colours- Imperial topaz is the most valuable and is a goldy colour. Gemporia have a lot of Imperial PINK topaz at the moment, which is rarer and a lovely pale pink. If pink ain't your thing, there's load of shades of blue, there's white and even some red. There are also the "mystic" topazes which are coated and sort of two-tone or multi-coloured. There is green topaz but not much of it about.
Have a look and see if anything takes your fancy OP!

Yeh, it's a real dick post and ironically not clever as it shows the poster knows fuck all about diamonds

Your engagement ring should be a piece of jewellery you LOVE and you are proud to show off as once it’s on it (hopefully) never comes off. I’d def take some store credit as he can easily get a plain wedding band from there (& maybe a necklace or a pair of earrings for you) and you should get something more to your tastes. It sounds like he shouldn’t be too offended given he just popped to a local shop and bought a simple ring.

Exactly this, not to mention the health sacrifices! £360 vs a forever changed body, 9 months of aches, 24 hrs of labour and decreased earning potential sounds like a good deal to me....

It isn’t. Propose without a ring then buy it afterwards.

Why is it a lovely thing?
Proposing to someone with a ring is pretty standard...
Plus she wasn't complaining about him, she said she doesn't like the ring. Which given she is the one who has to wear it for the rest of her life is fair enough.

I agree the best thing would be to get credit for your wedding rings from that shop.

This is why the old fashioned way of proposing and then choosing a ring together was so much better.

And this is why it’s so annoying having men on mumsnet. Bore off

Aww bless you OP.

My DH also proposed with a ring that is completely not my taste.

It's so hard, because on one hand, your DH proposed, and went to the effort to pick out a nice surprise engagement ring for you, to show how much he loves you, and that he wants to spend his life with you.

However, having to wear something that isn't your taste can feel tricky and a bit upsetting.

In the end I told my DH I appreciated the thought he put into it, but it wasn't really my taste (it's very quirky, like me, but I wanted a classic engagement ring). DH wasn't able to return the ring, and I felt awful as he'd spent a fair bit, so in the end I've learned to love it. Reflecting, I also feel like I was acting like a spoilt brat, I should be happy he put thought, effort and £ into a ring he thought I would love. I should've accepted it gratefully tbh as he is such a sweet and caring man.

Nowadays I don't even think about it, I love my DH, we're happily married and have much bigger things to worry about/spend our money on (a baby!).

Ultimately, if you really can't wear it, one option might be to get a bigger wedding ring, and just wear that instead, and keep the engagement ring in your jewellery box?

Give it a rest 😂. I’m making financial sacrifices by going part time to raise our baby, that involves a hell of a lot more sacrifice than saving a few months wages for a ring.