I don't like my engagement ring 😞 (pic)

I like it. It’s elegant and classy.

If you want more sparkle you could pair it with a yellow gold wedding band inset with diamonds. Beautiful.

I think it is beautiful. Simple, classic and timeless. It really suits your hand and will look great with a wedding ring.

You could perhaps influence the choice of wedding rings more.

I like the ring but I would feel the same way. I also like things that are not valuable but are more unique or vintage looking. My DP has been fishing for information on what rings I like and I was open that I am not a tiny solitaire diamond/thin gold band person. I have chubby fingers. I’ve seen some lovely ones on Etsy that have colours and other attractive styles. I don’t wear any other rings so it’s not like I could hide something that didn’t suit me. I don’t know what I would say if I got this ring I don’t know if I would be brave enough to feel so brutal to admit I didn’t like it or not but exchanging it for wedding rings is a good idea and perhaps suggest you go out ring shopping together. He has offered you this chance so exchange it so maybe see how he feels if you did want to? I don’t think it’s ungrateful it is the risk you take when you choose something for another person without their input

I think it’s lovely and I’d rather have smaller and simpler, then something that’s too much because you need to wear it every day.

It’s ok to want something else.
This is on your finger and will be for hopefully a very long time and so you need to be 100% happy.

I would find out how long you’ve got to return it and keep looking in that same shop.

I really like the PPs suggestion of swapping it for 2 wedding bands and then finding one you really love.

Its ok to say that you like the ring but you think it makes your fingers look big etc.
He would rather you be honest.

I would tell him how you started a thread on here because you felt so conflicted and 99% of the replies said they loved the ring (just so he doesn’t feel like too much of a screw up lol).

Also consider the shop may be able to order in something else for you. Maybe enquire as to that.

OP is asking advice on an anonymous forum about the fact she doesn't like a style of ring she's been given.

She's not complaining about her partner. She's not complaining he asked. She's not complaining that he chose that ring, and she acknowledges that he's gone with her usual style, but that in this instance her usual style hasn't hit the mark.

She's asking what to do about it.

Personally, I'd tell my (now) DH it wasn't right for me. He'd be ok with that.

But he wouldn't choose without me anyway because I don't always know what I like myself so how can I expect him to? He sent me several options he liked, I sent him back several I liked and he chose himself from those.

It's a very personal thing and it'll be on your hand for years, you need to be in love with it. It's not about the money spent either, it's about what it represents and how it makes you feel.

Congratulations on your engagement.

I think if you don't like the ring, you should change it.

I have fat fingers, a solitaire ring would just look awful on me, it wouldn't matter how many people told me me 'oh it looks lovely' - I know I wouldn't like it.

Is it an independent jeweller? If so, I am sure they would be able to source other stones to your requirement and put it on a band of your choosing.
If not, as others have suggested, exchange it for 2 wedding bands.

There are options. Don't wear something you don't like for the rest of your life just because you feel obliged to. It sounds like your fiance is not emotionally invested in this ring either.

I would give it a little while. I wasn't sure on mine as the design of it was to fit round an engagement ring rather than traditional engagement design and it was very small and dainty. After a while of wearing it I started to love it and had a wedding ring made to fit round it. I had the same thing with my wedding band where I was unsure once it was made but then loved it after getting used to wearing it. Worth trying on some wedding bands before you make any final decision too because the look of 2 together makes a lot of difference

Small and dull. What a horrible thing to say. It's not about the size it's the sentiment behind.

I hope your fiance doesn't find this thread, particularly the comment about the proposal needing a thread of its own. You do sound a bit precious, sorry.

How about you buy yourself the ring you want . He’s bought you a ring he like and chose and has given you options to remedy it but you’re too fussy. Buy yourself the ring you want and wear that. He’s clearly not to going to buy you another and why should he.

Oooh, tricky one.

I don't like it either, to tell the truth. Mainly because a) it's gold (don't really wear gold) & b) the cut of the stone isn't for me. It doesn't look too small on your hands though - you've actually really slender hands so it looks perfect on you, size wise.

The thing is though, I've not read anything from you as to how he might feel if you tell him. Have you actually considered hard, how gutted he might be if you tell him you don't like it? Do you think he might be more hurt to hear this, than you would be to just wear the ring he chose for you?

Look, I do get it. But at the end of the day, it's really not about the piece of jewellery, it's about what it signifies - the commitment to marry, and his love for you. I think you're focusing on the wrong thing here.

Has he asked you if you like it? I imagine this has come up?

Honestly I think you're being ungrateful. He chose it- that should mean enough to you.

This is madness to me - that you should wear a piece of jewellery every day for the rest of your life that you dislike in case your DP has hurty feelings. He took a risk and it hasn't worked out. I can't see why you can't work together to get something you do want.

He hasn’t got a point at all when men are still very keen for women and children to take their name. They’re more than happy to keep those traditions.

Ignore the posters making you out to be a spoilt princess. It's not about the value you just don't like the ring, and nor do I for what it's worth, it does look generic and not that nice.

Use the money to get wedding rings and choose something else you like. Don't kettle for something that will upset you every time you look at it.

I think it's cute, but I know what you mean about wanting something more vintage style.
As others say, swap for two wedding rings (or one if one of you wants one from somewhere else) use the rest, if there is any, for some earrings or something?
I hope he won't be hurt or offended. I'm sure he won't when you discuss it.

I agree with you, it’s a bit small and dull. I would use the money to buy a wedding ring and look for another engagement ring. Look at lab diamonds, they are proper diamonds, more ethical and you get a lot more for your money

All these posts saying "I would love it!" Well, good for you but that is not what OP is asking, whether randoms on the internet like it.

This is the time to be honest with him @Marooney - otherwise you will seem a bit daft showing it off to people and he will feel sad you kept it in.

It is a piece of jewellery you will want to wear a lot, do you really want to to feel disappointed every time you look at your hands?

The size of the rock does not equate to the quality of the man.

I think you're being a bit entitled.

He’s got a point though.

As I said before, of course you can vote unreasonable if you think she is being unreasonable and if you think her honesty is a complaint, you’re free to think that too.

But to say, as the pp did, that she is complaining about her husband to be, is incorrect. She is expressing an honest dislike of a ring. I personally don’t consider this a humiliation and I wouldn’t feel humiliated if my girlfriend expressed similar opinions to the OP. Of course opinions will differ, but we should separate a stated dislike of the object from the idea she has complained about her partner.

Once you get a wedding band and an eternity ring on your hand, it will look beautiful

She acknowledged it was lovely of him. But if it's something she is intending to wear every day for the rest of her life, it would be better if she loves it.

I would think that ring perfect and it won't date, but as you don't like it I hope you find a way of getting one you prefer. I went to chose the ring with late dh, which is better.