I don't like my engagement ring 😞 (pic)

Could you have the gold mattified/hammered at some point? If you did that it should go with a thicker silver or gold wedding ring. Then having the setting changed if you’re still not happy. Or just tell him you don’t like it🤣

OP that was not aimed at you, it was aimed at the person asking if it was £50. Bang out of order and someone obviously only cares about how much something costs. I think you should speak to your partner, I think your partner would rather you have a ring you are happy with in the long run 😊 x

Surely it’s the gesture not the bloody price tag.

It's not to my taste either, and it doesn't sound like he put any thought into it, just got the most generic ring possible from the closest shop. I'd immediately say, I love you but I do not love this ring. Let's change it for one I love.

To anyone reading this who might be proposed to with a ring they don't like, PLEASE make it clear to your partner that they shouldn't do this! My husband was in no doubt that he was not to propose with a ring unless it was made of paper or a bit of string. And that we would design the rings together, which we did.

Who said she isn’t grateful? Being grateful for the ring and liking the ring are two different things.

FFS people, it doesn't matter if YOU like the ring. It matters if OP loves the ring, that she'll wear for hopefully the rest of her life ...... and she doesn't.

I happen to agree with OP, it's a bit dull.

I don't understand people who say, your fiance chose it, therefore she HAS to keep it. That's madness.
It sounds like he spent 10 minutes in a local jeweller. This ring doesn't really mean anything to him.
OP is not being disparaging about her OH, she just doesn't like the ring. She should be able to tell her fiance that, and choose something she likes, which could be cheaper.

How about some gratitude. He's put thought into this, seems to accept his fiancée likes simple jewellery (and bought a beautiful simple solitaire set stone), he's asked the woman he loves to marry him. But no, the Mumsnet massive all feel this isn't enough and bigger better brighter debt bound sparkles are needed 🙄. Give over.

Exactly this! Etsy have some gorgeous rings! As I said early in the thread, the ring my DH made has grown on me now so I'd not change it. But if I could have my time again, it'd only have been the shape/style I'd have changed. He got pretty close to be fair. Now, if he'd turned up with a giant dazzler that cost an arm and a leg, I'd have been mortified and had to tell him to change it. That would not have been my style at all!

Some people really missing the point here.

OP can you not get a refund or exchange it for his wedding band? I wouldn’t be happy with that either.

I do like my engagement ring but I didn’t absolutely love it so I got my wedding ring designed to fit with it and now I love the look of them together and the fact that he chose it is special to me too.

If it helps, I didn't like my ring either.
Money was tight at the time & he spent what he could and really took his time choosing something he thought I'd like.

At the time, I was disappointed as I wanted a big rock (but being realistic, we didn't have the money).

Now, 12 years later, and I love it. It really grew on me and when I look at it now, I think it's perfect and looks great with my wedding ring.

Hopefully your ring grows on you too 💕

I think be honest about it and just ask him can you pick something else entirely from a different seller, see if you could even get store credit for it ? After all you have to wear it for the rest of your life you have to like it .

er… what?! Are you trying to imply she should be grateful for something she is supposed to wear on her hand for the rest of her life even though she doesn’t like it and her fiancé has no clue about her taste because she didn’t buy him anything?!

You can buy unique beautiful rings on Etsy. Inspired by this thread I went to look and almost all the ones I like are under £300. I think for OP it’s more about having something that reflects her style not just having a status symbol of a solitaire diamond on her finger.

I don't like it either. Would be a bit insulted by it tbh and if £360 was the budget would far rather have a second hand or vintage ring.

It’s the kind of ring that reads as simple and classic to some people and boring and generic to others. I’d see if you could have the diamond put into a different setting, possibly with some other stones surrounding it or on either side of it. You are not being unreasonable to want a ring you’ll wear forever (God willing) to be a ring you love to wear.

On a personal level if someone proposed to me and they went out their way to choose a ring for me it would be very special and meaningful to me and would love it regardless. But it's very tricky. I think if you really are sad about it and he had said change it if you don't like it , then honestly is the best policy here, I'm sure he would understand

Go to the jewellers and look at what they have before righting them off as having nothing you would prefer. There’s a good chance they haven’t got their entire stock online.

Could a jeweller replace the diamond with a larger moissanite stone and maybe have the original stone set in something else.

So many poster seem to have a be grateful, shut up attitude. She has to wear it in a very visible place for supposedly the rest of her life! Of course it should be to her style and something she absolutely loves.

If you don't life it then swap it. Doesn't sound like he put any thought into it, isn't anything similar to things you like. Looks a bit like he went into the nearest shop and bought a very generic ring.

Take it back and exchange it and use the money to buy your wedding rings. They’d come in at a similar price. I’d be happy now with non diamond etc to get the look I wanted. You have to wear it and look at it with love not regret.
change it

Maybe he can't afford it? Not everyone is married to a diva.

Have to put in a word for the London Blue topaz, which is my favorite topaz of all. I used to hate topaz back when I thought they were all that brownish-yellow color, but it’s such a great and dynamic stone.

Not to mention the very many posters who think that because they like the ring you should too!

@Marooney I didn’t like my engagement ring- it was dhs’ grandmas!! So very tricky. I was terrified of losing it aswell. Felt like a lot of responsibility and not really my own.
i was just honest. I’ve kept it but we bought another that we chose together. You can be tactful about it!
Another idea to save his feelings is this- do you have any other jewellery that you do like (or don’t!) and you could talk to a jeweller to have the stone mixed with some others from other jewellery and made into a new ring that you would like… it would be easier to suggest this to your fiancé maybe and say for sentimental reasons you would love to have this diamond put with your mums sapphire or whatever it might be…! Good luck and congrats!!! X

YANBU in the slightest but I could have predicted the slightly shitty replies that you have had because people can be very weird about engagement rings. Honestly, I think it is deeply weird that it's a cultural norm to be expected to wear an item of jewellery which has been chosen for you (usually by someone with no interest or expertise in fine jewellery) every day for the rest of your life. Can you imagine most brides' reactions if they were expected to wear a dress of their fiancé's choosing? It's considered such a ridiculous idea that a whole reality TV format came out of it.