I don't like my engagement ring 😞 (pic)

I love it OP, but you can't help how you feel, what about a wedding ring with diamonds in? Would that help? Failing that would he be really upset if you did change it for something you love?

Don't take it back to swap for wedding rings plural. Yours maybe, but I think you need to buy his wedding ring with your own money and give it to him, not fund it with a refund of his own rejected gift to you.

Just because he could have afforded more doesn't be he should!

If he really thought that you would like the ring then surely that is what counts?

But you don't like it.

You are to be married & should be able to tell him this & he should be able to accept it!

He would surely want you to have a ring that you love wouldn't he?

I don’t think you’re being unreasonable, though I think the ring looks lovely. Use store credit for something else, and get a ring you like. You might as well be honest about it with your husband to be, you have the rest of your lives together! Just be gentle and tell him you love the sentiment and appreciate he did his best, but would prefer a different style of ring.

Have you got some examples of what you would like? Could you tell him you really appreciate him trying and for anything else the brief would have been gold and simple. But for this particular piece you always imagined this and show him examples.

Then say you'd like a plain wedding band, so maybe you could use the credit from this ring to buy both wedding bands then go choose your engagement ring together as a fun outing.

I think most rings will be a bit swamped by those hands. I think you just need to be honest and say you hate it. Say you want him to take it back and then pick one together. You'll need a much more chunky ring with a bigger stone I think.

You will be wearing this ring everyday for the rest of your life, so yes, you should love it. He did a lovely thing in choosing it himself but I am sure he will understand if you want to get something more your taste. My DH was far too scared to pick mine, we chose it together and I have a beautiful art deco engagement ring with a smooth setting similar to yours with two more diamonds mounted on the shoulder, set in white gold. He admits he would never have picked it in a million years! We have been together 28 years and he still smiles when he catches me admiring it. He doesn't care that I chose it, just that I love it and what it symbolises. There are a LOT of happy memories bound up in that ring.

People framing this as he did something lovely for her and she should be grateful - presumably she did something lovely for him by saying yes, and he should be grateful too. No reason why she has to wear a ring she's not crazy about every day for the rest of her life. He has recognised that she might want to change it, and had bought a perfectly acceptable, if slightly boring, holding ring. Good for them if they swap it for something she loves.

Not once has she said she wanted bigger, better, more sparkles, more expensive. Just that the style doesn't suit her hand, in her opinion.

Different styles are allowed and they don't mean flashier.

I agree! My partner could give me a haribo ring I’d still treasure it! 😂❤️ x

hi, congratulations! I think that the ring is lovely, and remember, once you have your wedding ring as well (if you wear both everyday) it will look 'bigger' on your hand. I don't think it looks too small at all. I'd say, keep it, live with it, and I bet in a week you will love it. I think it's lovely he surprised you x and i fyou don't, then once you are married, you only wear it for 'best' - sorted!

Its awkward but you need to be happy with wearing it daily, and it seems DP ran into the shop and grabbed' a ring' within the budget
I'm wondering if the shop has other stock they hadn't put on display.
Great idea to use credit for wedding rings and shop together for your engagement ring

It's a beautiful ring @Marooney but if you don't like it then do as he says and change it for credit then pick your own elsewhere. Otherwise you will be looking at this ring you don't like (hopefully!) forever!

Your ring is almost exactly like my ring I got 15 years ago. Hated it as exactly the same as a previous engagement ring. Tried changing it but was under pressure in the shop and ended up not doing so. Rarely wore it and then it no longer fitted me after pregnancy anyhow.

Got it melted down on 10th anniversary and combined it with the previous engagement ring and a new stone to create a triology ring which suits my fat fingers better and I wear all the time.

Its OK to hate it. Its also OK to change it or not wear it.

Yeah so many arseholes in the world who take delight in being so fucking rude. I bet in everyday life they wouldn't say boo to a goose.

A true life partner will understand and you deserve to get what you want girl!

When I was engaged (twice to two different men so with an age gap!) I deliberately knew I’d what I’d like or didn’t like. I like sapphires and they’re my birth stone so wanted something with that in so the first ring was 1990-ish and cluster sapphires diamonds. The second time was mid 00s, 2005-ish and was an art deco design (I like this era) and had white sapphires and diamonds, specially designed for me. It’s a shame I didn’t go on to marry either man but I sold the first ring and second is in my jewellery box, I did offer to give it back to him but he declined, first man I didn’t know etiquette about returning rings so just sold it via an auction and got a good price for the time.

With yours OP I think it suits you but if “you” don’t like it just say and exchange for wedding rings or similar.