I don't like my engagement ring 😞 (pic)

Congratulations on your engagement!

I'd definitely have to let my partner know I didn't like it. If you're not loving the ring you're going to feel conscious showing it off to people which is likely to crop up a bit now.

FWIW DH and I have always been pretty blunt with what we do and don't like, prior to proposing he let me know that he was thinking about buying me a ring and asked if I could send some options over. I sent over 3 styles I liked and he chose what he liked most out of them so it was still a semi surprise.

I absolutely love my engagement ring (ovbiously) and never take it off.

We are having the same situation now with eternity rings- we have been sending links back and forth.

Likewise, he's been hinting at a specific style of watch recently that lines up with an anniversary- I'd way rather he say exactly what he wants than see it gathering dust or having the hassle of returning it.

At the beginning of our relationship he bought me a silver bracelet which I really disliked (I prefer gold) I told him I didn't like it and he took it back- I didn't get a replacement and that's completely fine. There shouldn't be any hard feelings on this kind of stuff.

No one is actually interested in your ring though, everyone will say "aww congratulations, it's beautiful" (no matter what it looks like) then get on with their day.

Sadly I agree, the ring does not suit your hand or fingers and it looks basic as opposed to elegant-but-understated. I love vintage set gems and jewellery too. So I understand.

Sorry to agree with your original post.

But it is YOUR ring than your love chose which has meaning, so maybe concentrate on that and get a much more preferential wedding ring. (I'm sure you've received better suggestions already)

There is nothing better than looking down at your hand and loving what you see!

This. I smile every time I look at my set. They aren't big or flashy and they weren't expensive but they're very me and given to me out of love. That's what they should be.

I suspect you’ll not like a new ring either as it will leave a bitter taste in your mouth once you exchange it. I’d try it on with some wedding and eternity rings that you like and see how the whole look is before doing anything else.

What about keeping your solitaire, which obviously has a lot of love behind it, but thinking about pairing it with a very unusual wedding band? There are some utterly gorgeous and unusual wedding rings out there now, and this is more likely to be what you wear all the time, and a plain band like your current ring would compliment and go with something very unusual, either with or without gemstones. At a later date, you could get another “engagement” ring, more to your taste, but keep your solitaire to wear on your other hand.

Diamonds and gold are significantly more expensive in the UK. My husband just upgraded my engagement and wedding rings to a bespoke design for me whilst we were in Egypt, and upon having them valued when we returned to the UK, they are worth double here! If you really don't like it, you need to say so. There is nothing better than looking down at your hand and loving what you see! :)

A few people have mentioned eternity rings. Is this a British thing? I'm in the US and it's not a concept I'm familiar with.

OP, I would be disappointed in your shoes too. I would find that ring to be boring and generic and just not to my taste. My husband asked me before he proposed, just hypothetically whether I would want to pick my own ring out or would prefer it to be a surprise, and I said I would want to pick it myself. This is an expensive item of jewelry that I plan to wear every day for the rest of my life, so I would want to love it!

Maybe you can gently say that although it's a lovely ring it isn't what you would have picked out, and say that as you are planning to wear it every day for the rest of your life you would hope to get something perfect.

Be honest! I hate my engagement ring so I never wear it. I was too young and naive to say anything. Got a wedding band I liked and then later added an eternity ring but the engagement ring rarely gets worn

I agree about it being Argos style that’s what I want to avoid myself. Just the high street style is not really me. I think you may that have to tell him. I think he has panicked like you say and just gone with a safe option.

Maybe buy a super wedding ring to make up for it? I guess this is the down size of men proposing!

I love it and i think it suits your hand, you could always have a more decorative wedding ring ie diamond band with it.

@Marooney unhelpful post coming up…

I don’t like mine (been married 15 years) and if I won the lottery I would replace it! But alas no funds.

I would say try to change it if you can. You have to wear it for the rest of your life. Take this advice from someone who didn’t do anything about it!

I had exactly the same experience and swapped the engagement ring for a cocktail ring which I liked more. However, in retrospect it would have been better to exchange for two wedding rings/an eternity ring/wedding earrings as all of those are fine in a modern style. I found a ring I liked (secondhand so much cheaper!) a couple of years later.

Can you afford to buy another ring that compliments it? My dm engagement ring was 3 different rings that fit together with the middle being the main stone that she could wear without the removable "setting" rings(I guess you would call them?) I would keep the one he got, but I'm a sentimental mush. Congratulations!