I don't like my engagement ring 😞 (pic)

That's all good then.

Sorry x

@Marooney your engagement ring is very similar to mine, only a bigger diamond.

Like you I didn't love my ring as I wanted a princess cut 1 carat diamond on a platinum band and I got 0.25 solitaire (it is a real diamond) on 18ct gold which cost £275 half price in a closing down sale.

Paired with my wedding ring it looks so much better, like it's meant to be but I do understand your disappointment and not feeling happy with his choice.

I now love my current ring as its actually my 2nd engagement ring - the first one was fake stones and too big and glitzy for my taste so I had to explain I didn't like the first one (which he eventually sold)

I guess what im saying is speak up now and as PP suggested propose to him that you use the credit for wedding rings and get the ring you want now. Narrow it down to 3 or 4 you love and let him select the final one.

Congratulations 🎊

@Marooney
Congratulations on your engagement!
It's a shame you don't like your ring, but be careful with pearls if you do change it. I remember my mother telling me that they shouldn't be washed; she had pearls in her engagement ring and had to take it off every time she washed her hands. As a result she nearly lost/left it behind several times!

OP have you actually tried on the styles you say you like? Because like you I had picked out some rings and when I actually tried on similar styles to what I thought I liked they looked absolutely awful on me! I have big fingers and big diamonds looked horrendous, almost like they drew attention to my horribly shaped fingers, it was weird! Could you maybe book an appointment to try on rings with a friend in a shop somewhere and fully decide what you like before ruling this one out?

There’s nothing wrong with a simple ring, small budget, a 9ct, a chain shop, a small diamond, or a lab grown. But in combination it certainly isn’t shouting ‘thoughtful’.

I would be annoyed tbh.

And I do like the ring style actually. And myself have a smaller diamond. So none of that bothers me.

Well it looks like mine, so I really like it! Simple but stylish.

I had never even considered this problem but my DH made the jeweller try on the ring next to a wedding band to make sure they would sit flush. I was impressed he'd considered it and I'm happy he did.

How much thought went into it, though? Doesn't sound like he tried to find out her taste etc, or spent ages trawling shops

It's disappointing but it's no surprise. Competitive martyrdom is practically an Olympic sport on MN.

If one were so inclined, there is probably quite a lot to unpack for those pp who have never felt able to speak up about their own engagement rings, have spent decades wearing jewellery they dislike, and now seek to validate their own disappointments by telling the OP to put up and shut up. Perhaps that's for another day.

I think the idea to exchange it for wedding bands for both of you and to find another engagement ring that is more you is a good one.

If you choose the other rings together I don't think it will be too upsetting for your fiancé. Only thing to bear in mind is that you are then both constrained to getting the wedding rings from a shop that you don't find particularly inspiring.

I think it's beautiful, classic & timeless. BUT you are the one who has to wear it & if you don't love it that's a shame. Only you know how your fiance will react to you saying you want a different ring.....please update on his reaction

Yabu. Your fiancee has taken time to pick a ring and spent money on it yes it's not a huge amount to spend on a ring but he picked it for you. Pick your own wedding ring and balance it out

Just dont be engaged for to long.

Chose the wedding rings together

This anecdote might be useful for others, especially boys, planning to avoid this situation. I proposed by handwritten letter, handed over at an appropriate time of saying goodnight after a date. That gave my gf time to think (although it would be super to go for a spoken request and instant response...but difficult if there are doubts...I reckoned it was going to be a big decision). On our next time-off, (she had half a day per fortnight) we went together to a large, and reputable, jewellers, and she chose and tried things out. I paid (the shopkeeper was very discrete!). My salary was £300 a year at the time, but I remain proud of the way it worked...and it still worn (except for housework!), and shines, after 60 years. She knew it was all I (we) could afford. I have no idea how you convey such a yarn, in good time, to the likely chap. Good luck folks!

No it means she doesn’t like it according to you

Say you really like it and it was a lovely thing to do but you don’t love it and you want it to be something you instantly love. I like idea of changing it for wedding bands or just try and ask for a refund.

If he’s said you can change it and wants you to be happy with it then can’t see a real issue. You can’t help it if it’s not your style. Plus I think it’s much nicer when the couple choose together.

Or, of course, you could just buy a curved wedding band instead of a bling one. Unless that doesn't suit the narrative of course...

I don’t wear jewellery. It makes me
feel uncomfortable and I don’t like the feeling of it on me.

To the OP I absolutely love the photos of the other rings you like and I’m sure your future husband would want you to love it, so good luck tonight and get something that makes you really happy x

My husband proposed with a wee ring from Next then when we returned (was on holiday) we went shopping for my real ring ! Win win !!

@3luckystars - if they're beautiful, why have you never worn them?.

I never ever wore mine, it’s beautiful and I have a lovely wedding ring too, platinum and diamonds. I don’t wear jewellery so never wore them, they are in a drawer.

Sorry, but you have to wear it for life ( hopefully!) so you have to like/love it. I hated the ring my now hubby proposed with so I told him, we had a chuckle about him having to return it then we went out and chose something together.

I would say if you can to use the jewellers for your wedding rings and get something you prefer or that is more you.