I don't like my engagement ring 😞 (pic)

I got this ring from an Etsy shop called 1122andCo which sells vintage rings. Think they have an insta page too. You could contact them to see if they get many rings in in that style. It's a US company and I paid around £300 for my yellow and green saphire ring.

You get the ring you like…you have to wear it. My DH gave me a family ring…he had been his great aunties, and it was altered…hinged so it fit round her arthritic knuckles. Nice diamond and simple band. I took it to a jeweller who kept the setting, but put a band around it I liked. It all worked out fine. It will work out fine for you, and congratulations on your engagement. Wishing you every happiness.

From one large handed lady to another, brilliant outcome @Marooney 👏🏾 and congratulations.
Glad you managed to get it all resolved. I went with something non conventional too in a 2 carat aquamarine (birthstone) for my engagement ring earlier this year.
Come back and share what you choose.

I've taken from this thread that I should avoid Etsy for the aquamarine and diamond wedding band I've been eying up so thanks for this thread!

@AncientAndModern1

what a beautiful website ! I have just spent several happy minutes browsing !!!

@Marooney

congratulations on the outcome!!

comprehension on MN is at an all time low! The nastiness now is shocking. It all started on the bloody Penis Beaker thread, it brought in all kinds, (including some lovely posters) and has been going downhill ever since, it's really sad, it used to be a place you could come for a chat with 'friends' who were intelligent, had a comprehension lever above. snakes belly & were forthright & robust.

I stay because there are still lots of people who are interesting, informed, helpful & need help. 🤷🏻‍♀️but honestly 🙇🏻‍♀️🙇🏻‍♀️

im glad you've sorted now and I'd love to see what you choose!!

out of all the ones you posted, I like the bottom left of the set you posted. But wouldn't choose it for an engagement ring as I'd choose a more robust centre jewel.

best wishes for your marriage!!

Pretty but comparatively inexpensive stones include amethyst, peridot, garnet and pink and blue topaz. Some nice (I think) vintage rings here https://laurelleantiquejewellery.com/products/suffragette-edwardian-style-cluster-ring-amethyst-peridot-diamond-1 worth searching kite + stone + ring to find the shape you seem to like best. I love this blingy ring which is well within your budget. It is quite expensive for plated silver, however they will replate v inexpensively if/when it starts to wear. https://www.dinnyhall.com/susu-ring-7154?pp=0&epik=dj0yJnU9czN5Q0FhOS14MnotQWdQX3BpR3U4RWtlbEtvRXUteEQmcD0xJm49eUFlN0tiRVJOTGpmaUNUaXdRSUZRUSZ0PUFBQUFBR2JvQmZR

Because you said negatively he’d only chosen the 9ct gold (could’ve got 18ct) and smallest diamond a few posts back 🤣

Small stone, wide band. Or add gem stones on each side.

Its got to be scary asking the woman you love to marry you even though she has made it quite clear, its going to be a YES! Bless him, he tried to make it perfect by choosing the ring but he got it wrong and you have to love him for trying....but if you have found a good compromise and get to choose your own ring, that bodes well for your future relationship as its shows you can discuss difficult matters.

Just pick the ring you like, second hand, new, silver, gold, man made stones or natural - its all irrelevant if you love it.

Had I been in your position I would have asked to change the ring too but in my case he had gone to so much trouble (he listened to the completely wrong person about what to get me because he wanted it to be a surprise) and I just didn't have the heart to tell him the truth. I was devastated (not) when the ring got flattened and never expected a new one....so it all worked out well in the end. Be happy!

Because she has got a credit note for the ring she does not like and is going to choose an engagement ring with her fiance that she does like and she showed a few photos from Etsy and people were making sarcastic comments about cheap stuff on Etsy etc She clearly said it wasn't about the value but the style so have you RTFT up to the point where I posted? Not everyone has the same budget and the important thing is that she likes her ring which she wears with love.

Have you RTFT? OP doesn’t like the ring and says the gold is too cheap and the diamond too small. She claims her OH has enough money to afford a “better” ring.

Most women (ime knowing plenty who have got engaged both irl and social media) like the surprise element, and don’t think it’s a proper proposal unless it includes the ring. Plus there’s the whole pressure of social media and videoing it and everyone seeing the ring straight away- it puts so much pressure on the man/woman proposing and it sucks.

Take no notice of people going on about man made or natural diamonds, what your budget is etc. I have just got an eternity ring and I saw lots with mossanite I loved on Etsy but in the end got one in a shop whilst I was with my husband on holiday. Hubby was happy to spend quite a bit and I didn't need that.

It doesn't matter how much the ring cost or what it is made of, if you like it and it was given with love, then wear it with pride because hopefully you will be wearing it for many years to come.

A close friend got engaged with a silver daisy ring as they were skint, it cost £30 They married, have kids and now they are better off financially, her husband offered to buy her the engagement ring he felt she deserved - she said no, because a new ring wouldn't be her real engagement ring and I get where she is coming from. I still wear my engagement and wedding ring together but each to their own. Just be happy!

I don't understand getting an engagement ring without having any input into the choice. Something that costs ££££ and I am meant to wear every day for the rest of my life - I want to choose it and I want to take my time.

My husband proposed with a temporary ring, and then we went shopping together for my "proper" engagement ring. Which is a good thing we did because he proposed with a silver and diamond ring - but I hate silver (only wear gold jewelry), and chose an emerald ring with a gold band instead.

The suggestion previous posters have made to see if you can swap the engagement ring for two wedding rings is a great one.

Better quality because at least with the jewellers you know it’s genuine. There are lots of fakes on Etsy.

How the fuck is that relevant?

Regardless of what I think about your views on the engagement ring your boyfriend bought for you, I still don't understand why he is going to propose again. Did you turn him down the first time? And was that because he didn't buy a ring thst met with your approval? If you did agree to marry him, Whyever would he be asking again?

I love the sapphire one you like. Not dissimilar to mine. Totally understand why you want to change it. Well done for navigating this either way your husband to be (and congratulations on your engagement!)

Been married almost 18 years and honestly it's just not even a thing that I wear much for practical reasons. The marriage is what's more important.

I hardly wear mine. It's not a big deal. But just buy your own if you don't like it?

The ring is similar to mine, my diamond is smaller.i only had plain gold band to get married with aswell. It's about a few things you need to consider , his feelings, his budget and the cost for a wedding is going to be expensive. Maybe look to the future commitment not the jewellery on your hand. I've been married 13 years and been together 25 I know what I'm talking about. I hope he doesn't know your disappointed he will be devasted.

A diamond wedding ring would go nicely with that though, like an eternity ring. Have you thought about the wedding ring to go with it?