Is it possible to be 43 and NOT be perimenopausal

I had my second child at 44...

I think you need better friends and a better husband! My husband wouldn’t dream of saying this and none of my friends have even mentioned perimenopause. We are all early 40s and a few are pregnant/trying for a baby.

I'm 54 and still having periods. Not as regular as clockwork but not massively spaced-out either. TBH, I'm sick of them and would quite happily just like it to sod off forever.

I knew I was perimenopausal when my ADHD meds stopped being effective in clearing the brain fog. Usually, I'd take them and be productive and energised within 15 minutes.

I understand what you're saying OP, but I do think a lot of women experience the start of perimenopause in their 40's. It can be hard to differentiate sometimes. For some, they feel OK, and others it can be debilitating. I wouldn't have known had I not used meds for ADHD. I still have regular periods .

My periods stopped when I was 56. I have no idea if or when I was "perimenopausal" but I felt absolutely fine at 43. Just get on with life, OP, and don't go looking for issues that may not be there.

I'm 42 and I don't think I have any symptoms yet. My periods are horrendous but they have been since I was 12 and got worse with every pregnancy so that's nothing new. I've got less patience with my mil and sil since I turned 40 but I think that's because I realised that I was now too old to be insulted by them anymore and I was no longer going to be bossed around. I don't know when my family members went through the menopause but my granny was still having babies at the age I am now.

I can empathise OP. All this stuff about symptoms starting ten years before menopause is a bit annoying and limiting sometimes. Women have been trying for years to stop people blaming our genuine emotions on hormones and now it seems we want this to happen?

When my hair started falling out, everyone said peri. I said in my family menopause late 50s so unlikely.
Then i had blood tests, v low iron and b12. Everyone said peri causing heavy periods.
Then I said I don't have heavy periods, more likely it's because I'm vegan and not been taking supplements.
Then they said peri stops stomach from absorbing vitamins.
WTF can you do

None of those things are emotions, but one person could have all of them and be peri/menopausal. Sorry it annoys you but for many women it's important to know the facts.

I think perhaps I unfairly view the "I have no symptoms" people through the "do you really know what the symptoms are" lense. Immediately on here people were talking here about not being peri because they have regular periods, which has been hugely debunked as the first indicator. People just don't know what the symptoms are - myself included (pre-HRT). I had no idea joint pain was such an early indicator. I thought I had zero symptoms, and then HRT was an absolute game changer for me. I have never had anything but regular-as-clockwork periods.

But anyone being dismissed with 'it's just your hormones' has every right to be annoyed.

To answer your question OP, I didn’t have any proper symptoms till I was 51 and my periods were still regular then.

what I did have leading up to that point from late 40s was increasingly worse PMT. So it went from feeling a bit shit for a day or 2 before my period was due to feeling bloody awful for the full 2 weeks before period due.

Worsening PMT is a classic sign of peri which I did t know at the time.

43 is young in my book to be perimenopausal. I was late fifties before my periods stopped. Everyone is different.

You can be both pregnant and perimenopausal.

Congratulations

This is total and utter bollocks and actually harmful

I do completely believe that you can be 43 and not be perimenopausal

However a lot of symptoms relate to anxiety and depression and other mental health issues.

The peak for suicide in women is around perimenopause, so it's important to highlight this point.

I do know women who have had issues and gone onto HRT and it's been like night and day for them. No symptoms otherwise. Other treatments clearly would have been the wrong thing to do.

Not everyone will have major symptoms anyway - DM barely noticed it.

I’m 46. I’ve noticed I am getting hotter before my period, but I always had that to a certain extent. Beyond that, nothing. And I know I have poor ovarian reserve (needed fertility treatment in my 30s) and my FSH is high. I just seem to have been in this pre-perimenopause state for about 10 years now!

This isn’t factual. You can have symptoms of perimenopause and have regular periods.

Absolutely you can OP. I know several women who are 50 and haven't noticed anything symptom-wise.

That said, everyone being so, so different, it's really important you don't judge others who may have been experiencing symptoms since they were 35.

I do think it would blow a lot of peoples' minds how varied the symptoms are though. And - as evidenced on just this thread alone - many people still don't know a lot about those symptoms.

I’m 45. I thought I was perimenopausal. Turns out I am pregnant.

The symptoms are surprisingly similar.

I'm 44 and seem OK so far