I can't stop drinking wine

do something in the evening that doesn't involve wine (cinema, hobby) so that by the time you get back home it's just time to go to bed. Note this excludes pub or dinner out !

Whilst that's not bad advice @Andwegoroundagain , most people can't go out every night after work - especially not until bedtime!

I know it helps you get to sleep but doesn't give you quality sleep. She does need to stop using it to get to sleep, and see how she gets on and what else could she try that is less harmful.

Wine making you sleep is very very normal. And if you’re used to it not sleeping of you have a night off very common. It’s just a physical thing. She just needs to stay off it for awhile and reset.

How much wine are you drinking ? It sounds like you may need support to stop. Consider speaking to your GP.
If it's only small amounts of wine then it's easier to stop yourself. Tips include:

• do something in the evening that doesn't involve wine (cinema, hobby) so that by the time you get back home it's just time to go to bed. Note this excludes pub or dinner out !
• use sleep aids to try to get to sleep. I use the sleep stories on the Calm app but there's loads of stuff out there free to use. Mysleepbutton or shipping forecast that sort of thing
• try drinking an alternative lo or no alcohol drink. Wine is tough though as most are terrible ! There's a Noseco which is decent but red wine impossible to get an alternative that is nice. I drink kombucha or a fake G&T which I quite enjoy as a sort of no alcohol but grown up drink
• look at the circumstances that make you reach for the wine and see if you can change that. Is it an open bottle, then throw it out or freeze for use in cooking. Is it the way to unwind after work, then go to the gym or do yoga. That sort of thing

I must admit I have a much better sleep when I don’t drink. For me it’s opening a bottle whilst cooking tea, I need to get rid of the association.

You need to figure out why you need alcohol to sleep it has become a crutch find out why you need the crutch and replace it with something less harmful. You will have way better sleep without alcohol

I’m right there with you 🤣 I’m going through a break up so that’s my excuse at the minute. I don’t drink every night though but I struggle not to finish the bottle when I do 🥴

You can sleep, you just need to break the cycle and go through a period of adjustment,

Hi op. There are some great threads on here under alcohol support. Lots of us were where you are.

You just have to stop - or cut down first.

Your sleep will be worse to begin with and then much better.

You could try melatonin to help you get to sleep for a while to begin with until your body and brain adjusts. You can get it on an online pharmacy for jetlag (supplements claiming to be melatonin on Amazon etc aren't as you can only get it on prescription in the UK)

Stop drinking wine and replace it with non alcoholic drinks. Phone AA or another support group for help if that it difficult.

The phrase “nobody wakes up and regrets not drinking the night before” really helps me