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To feel sad that it’s always my daughter ( but aware she is not the only child in the school )

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Alwaystheway2012 · 09/09/2024 21:51

My daughter is in year 6 and I’m just gutted for her again.
swimming apart of the school curriculum but they choose specific years to do it each year due to funding. Last year was only the year 6 class. Daughter did school swimming in year 4 and not last year. Due to the curriculum stating that by the end of year 6 they should be able to swim 25 meters the school are again focusing on year 6 this year and those who can not yet swim 25 meters.
my daughter I medically complex and requires a iv central line ( Hickman line )
which goes in to the main vein of the heart/ blood stream.
we got the all clear to do swim lessons in year 4 and on holidays etc with a protocol of

swimming - shower - dressing change of Hickman line and changed to the end connector with in 30 minutes of leaving the pool. This was all good swimming was at the end of the day and I met them there showered her and did her dressing.

Dressings should ideally only be done once a week so swimming day became her dressing day.

however for short periods like for example a holidays more than once a week is allowed just her for extended period of time.
The school are aware of this as at the time I had to get medical clearance
so anyway with really short notice the school have announced year 6 will do swimming differently and instead of going to the swimming pools once a week. They have hired a swimming pool for the playground for a few weeks and instead of doing week sessions through term they will do daily lessons for these weeks. The pool is chlorine treated so as protocol she would need to shower.
there is no showers at school. They are getting changed in tents in the playground, then will have showers at home after school. Her dressing would need to be changed after but then again after I showered her at home so 2 x a day dressing changes which really isn’t feasible.

the only way I can think is that he does every other day and the last lesson of the day so I can collect run her to shower and change dressing at home making it just once and every other day ( which is fine ) but I can’t dictate the timetable as again she is just one child so the timetable can’t be based around her.

so I’m guessing yet again I will have to tell her that she don’t go in the swimming pool with her class 🥹🥹

no point in this post apart from a rant because it’s always something 🙈

OP posts:
Alwaystheway2012 · 09/09/2024 22:02

Whocanbelieveit · 09/09/2024 21:59

Is it possible for the school to hire a shower for the weeks that they will have a pool. Is it possible that your DD can learn to change her Hickman line herself?

Not allowed to learn, most parents are not allowed to change the dressings etc usually it’s community nurses that do for example oncology Hickman lines.

OP posts:
Alwaystheway2012 · 09/09/2024 22:01

I have emailed, but I know it would unreasonable to force it ( not blaming the school in anyway )

OP posts:
Whocanbelieveit · 09/09/2024 21:59

Is it possible for the school to hire a shower for the weeks that they will have a pool. Is it possible that your DD can learn to change her Hickman line herself?

SunflowerJones · 09/09/2024 21:58

EMary12345 · 09/09/2024 21:55

Have you spoken to the school yet? I would fully expect in this situation that the y6 were timetabled at the end of each school day to enable your daughter to participate. Is there any reason you think they won't?!

I agree. It seems like a simple fix.

More and more schools are tackling swimming lessons like this now. Putting up a pool on the premises.

RunningOnHope · 09/09/2024 21:57

Definitely something they should try to accommodate - you've come up with him a workable compromise. She is just one child but most children won't have complex needs that means swimming is feasible in one part of the day and not another. All the best to you in advocating for her.

AdultChildQuestion · 09/09/2024 21:57

Sorry OP. This must be hard. I have nothing to say that can offer anything practical to help, but I do empathise and I am sorry for you and your child's disappointment.

smalltreethisyear · 09/09/2024 21:55

I work in a school and suggest putting this in writing to the Y6 teacher, SENDco and HT. You are even providing a potential compromise/solution. I would be amazed if they don’t agree to it.
if you don’t mention it, it is unlikely they will think of it and your daughter will miss out.

EMary12345 · 09/09/2024 21:55

Have you spoken to the school yet? I would fully expect in this situation that the y6 were timetabled at the end of each school day to enable your daughter to participate. Is there any reason you think they won't?!

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