To ask what you think when you see a young, fat person?

People can be unnecessarily bitchy towards slim women. Apparently, we all deprive ourselves. I have been told time and again it’ll ’catch up with me when I am older’ and here I am, nearly mid 40s and still slim. I love food, I eat what I want when I am hungry but don’t tend to snack much. Some days I will eat delicious but healthy meals, some days I will have a hungry day and eat take away and crap. I listen to what my body wants I guess and I hate the feeling of being too full up and bloated

I genuinely wouldn’t really notice you or care about your weight to be honest - I guess selfishly because it’s your life not mine, so I don’t really care one way or the other that you’re fat as it doesn’t impact me.

If you really pushed me on it though and wanted the conversation, I guess I’d be curious to understand what’s stopping you being your physically healthiest / best version of you.
Maybe you’re not motivated by that goal though.
Or you like eating highly calorific foods more than you like physical movement.
Or you have an injury that prevents exercise.
Or something else.

But I’d be indulging the conversation for you not me. If you wanted help I’d give you some general pointers to take it or leave - but it’s not going to be anything you don’t know already. Like I say I just don’t really care that much about other peoples weight, because it’s not me that has to live in their fat body.

I’m sure the OP will clarify but I imagine they mean the times when they see larger people who aren’t currently eating fast food - surely the majority of the time? I say that as someone who once worked in the town centre of a place with one of the highest rates of obesity in the UK apparently.

What makes one become so disparaging about fat people? I ask this with several of your posts in mind, not the one above. I’m sure most of us wish society was less obese (especially children), for them, their children and the next generation, the NHS… but it’s very rare I come across someone as disparaging about fat people in real life. It seems to happen more frequently here. Maybe it’s just the company I keep! This is a genuine question, by the way!

If they’re fat and eating eg McDonald’s then yes I would judge and a neighbour from when I was younger got very fat now is size 18 and on keto which us helping her lose weight.

Generally I wouldn’t judge though. Not my place.

Yes this is true. Being a healthy weight and physically fit is a good thing for your health obviously, but it does not make you a fundamentally better person.

Some have commented on being the same weight since they were a certain younger age. I’m definitely not the same weight as when I was in my twenties when I was quite slim. Pregnancy and breastfeeding changed my shape and made my breasts much fuller and my hips wider. I actually think I look better a few pounds heavier as my skin on my face and chest looks plumper. I lost a little weight due to illness a couple of years ago and I felt I looked older. I chose between my arse and face and picked my face. 😂 That’s a joke by the way before I’m told people didn’t need to pick between their pert bums and beautiful faces.

The problem is that weight is linked by society to moral values.

So fat is stereotyped by some as lazy, dirty, stupid etc. Thin can be stereotyped as controlling, uptight and mean; I have noticed that ‘baddies’ in the media/books are often ‘skinny’.

That’s the main problem. Weight is not seen as a health thing. It’s tied to core values. Which is actually quite unhelpful.

Oh is it? I thought it was 20 and I would be told I was underweight. Thanks.

Trauma.

If it makes you feel better, I was out with my friend who has been overweight her entire life and all I could think was “damn, her make up is better than mine, I love her earrings, her skin is looking so good, I should try dress more like her.”

Personally the only thing that draws my attention or judgement to an overweight person is what they’re wearing, ie. if they’re wearing something incredibly unflattering and letting it “all hang out” or wearing those hideous skin coloured leggings that show every flaw. But then my next thought if they are is to check myself and think actually good for you, clearly you don’t care and I should wind my neck in!

I am mid-fifties with two kids at uni and one still at home and have a bmi of 19 which is in the healthy range as I am Asian

19 is in the healthy range if you are not Asian.

You have to change your diet on weight loss drugs. The drug gives you the willpower to do it.

That makes sense.

I am mid-fifties with two kids at uni and one still at home and have a bmi of 19 which is in the healthy range as I am Asian. I am careful with what I eat Monday to Thursday and then eat what I want for the weekend. I adore eating out which isn’t great for the bank balance. I have bouts of trying to do exercise at home for ten mins a day but that fizzles out. I don’t exercise enough really.

So I am slim but it’s not from any obsessional exercise or eating. I just control myself with eating a bit less four days a week.

Everyone is the weight they are for different reasons. It’s important not to stereotype anyone at any weight, though most of us are guilty of it.

I wouldn’t notice an overweight person or even someone who would be classed as obese as it’s more and more common. If not distracted or busy, I think I would notice a morbidly obese young woman though. I’d wonder how they feel about their body and size because I struggled with my self esteem throughout my twenties despite being slim.

I wouldn’t have bothered asking on here though OP. mumsnet can be quite fatist and over time you notice the same usernames popping up on certain topics such as weight and being really disparaging towards overweight people across threads which I find interesting. Says far more about them than the people they criticise imo.

Apologies for derailing.

I do notice I won’t lie.
I wonder why they’re overweight.. is it genetics? Do they over eat and not exercise? Are they uncomfortable and how does it affect them? I notice more when young kids my child’s age (6) are overweight.. I worry for their future.

FFS, give it a rest you two. You've totally derailed the thread with your ridiculous digs at each other 🙄

Tbh i dont think much re fat 20s ar its common.
I do think about kids though as some seem quite active yet siddenly are gaining weight at about 10-12.

And esoecially on sports day when often there will be one very overweight child who cant run at all.
Tbh there actually arent many overweight kids at dc school certainly before y5.

Imo its also because pe lessons with 30 kids are pretty rubbish and girls especially arent running about. Even the club afterschool i paid for isnt running about.
Basically the kids only do the 2 laps of the field 1x a year abd thats sports day!!

Ive gained a load of weight now in 40s. About 2stones. My parents are literakky calli g me fat. But, actually im only in the overweight category with bmi 27. And in a size 12. Where i was a 10.
Its not fast fodd aa ive had 0 chinese, manybe 1-2 mcdonalds a year etc. 0 fish and chips.shops.