To ask what you think when you see a young, fat person?

when you said young i thouight you meant child

i guess my thought is too much pizza, unable to cook, too many take aways.
i guess i blame modern life

The OP did not say “obsessive” calorie counting. It IS important to understand the calorie content of foods (particularly pre-packaged foods) in order to control portion sizes and understand the impact of eating numerous snacks like biscuits throughout the day. Seeing foods in terms of numbers is a good way to get a handle on this.

I am currently working on losing a couple of stone in order to get from a size 16 to a 12, because I was at risk of tipping over from overweight to obese. I don’t “obsessively” count calories, and agree that would be disordered, but it is really helpful to understand how many I need and how many I need to reduce it by in order to lose weight. It is definitely less food than I thought I needed.

Honestly, if they are very fat, I think “What a shame!☹️” - because they are are starting out on the threshold of life with a huge disadvantage. If you are just talking about someone overweight but not obese then I wouldn’t think anything I don’t think.

I’m now in my 50s and the few obese people I know of my age and even younger are all suffering with obesity induced or exacerbated health issues like Type 2 diabetes; ankle and knee problems; sleep apnea, hypertension… Most of them weren’t obese in their early 20s so to be obese so young is a really crap start in life.

I’m overweight now (not obese) and struggle to lose it as I’m a bit lazy and love food. I don’t like it and I now snore every night. It’s crept up in the last decade and I must lose. I’ve a stone at least to lose.

I would think judgemental thought. I would never let the judgemental thoughts show or make the person feel bed though.

Same here with PCOS though thankfully no insulin resistance (yet!).

I walk nearly 20k steps a day and eat perfectly healthily yet losing weight is a real struggle now whereas it wasn't in my 20's and my diet/exercise is probably actually better than it was!

I wonder how many of the women on here casting such nasty judgements would change their tune if they (or their daughters) ended up being diagnosed with similar conditions?

I'm not sure if I'd notice unless they were morbidly obese. In your mid-20s you are the perfect age to take control and sort it out if you want to.

When I see a child who is very overweight I feel so sorry for them, and sad that their parents have let them down.

Honestly? I feel a bit sad for them as it’s no fun to be overweight and there is usually an underlying cause. One of my nieces has been very stressed, she has put on about 4 stone. I want her to be thinner as I know that will be a sign she is more in control. I have never mentioned it to her as of course she is more than aware and needs no ad
vice from me.

As a person who's always struggled with her weight, I would honestly say lose it now. It's so much easier for you to lose before the peri menopause. I've struggled to stay a size 10 for the duration of my 20s and 30s. Now I'm in my 40s, I've piled on 4 stone! I'm doing a combination of fasting/counting calories/going running/hula hooping. I've lost 3 stone and have another to go. I'm relieved to be a size 12, and wear normal looking clothes again. But I still have a stone to go. The pain in my back and knees have gone, my brain fog has lifted. I strongly urge you to implement some changes into your life, like walking 10,000 steps a day and swapping junk food for fruit.

My peer group are, one the whole, pretty slim.

Everyone talks about the 90's and skinny being fashionable, but I was super-skinny in the 90's, I was 7 1/2 stone and 5' 8", and I used to get loads of shit from other women for it, 'skinny bitch', 'you look like a man', 'no tits'.

Luckily, I like myself so it was water of a duck's back, but, I see women are massively judgemental of other women's bodies.

We do have to think why that happens though.

I smoke which is wildly judged on here.

I've always been an absolute libertarian when it comes to personal choice. It's not my business what you do with your body.

I absolutely hate the idea that we have a responsibility to society when it comes to personal choice. We should be able to live our lives as we see fit. It's not the business of others how we inhabit our skin.

The only responsibility we have is to ourselves really.

I’ve always been under a size 18 and never been lower than the ‘obese’ category.

How would you feel if that person told you that they had underlying health issues or a hidden disability?

And how many times has a GP misdiagnosed a patient or missed crucial information - maybe because they're so busy looking and forming judgements that they don't listen to the person's account of what they're actually experiencing?

I accept I gave a rather blanket statement and there are some things you can see about a person's health, but that doesn't include their fertility. What I meant was that you can't look at a thin person and conclude they are in perfect health because they look slim. And a lot of women have been told by a doctor to go away and lose weight as a first line when in fact having their health problem treated first would better enable them to actually lose the weight.

It's funny because I used to have the same fear but the opposite, I was very skinny and had multiple people some of which I had literally met for 10 seconds point out how skinny I am. Someone had the audacity to say "disgustingly skinny".
I hope no one comments on your weight, it's awful.

I feel sad for the health problems that will await them unless they can lose the weight and adopt a healthier diet, the latter being harder and harder to access these days.

I never judged a person on weight gain or reduction and I'm glad because since last year I suffer with pcos and insulin resistance and struggle to lose weight while eating a balanced diet.

You aren't trying to tell me that people now have more health issues than people in the 70s and 80s.

Why do you think that's not possible? Our lifestyles and environment have changed massively in the last fifty years - it's downright ignorant to say that doesn't have an impact on our bodies.

I have a hormone imbalance that impacts my ability to lose weight. It has nothing to do with my diet or go much exercise I do - which is plenty as I'm on my meet walking dogs for six hours most days 🙄

In all honesty OP, well speaking for myself and many many other non-judgemental people, we think nothing at all. Unless you have bright coloured hair or clothes that stand out.

I feel bad for young people who are very overweight because I know it must make their lives more challenging, and life is challenging enough! I feel lucky that I come from a line of pretty slim people and I have a quick metabolism. I get hungry, but don't really have that "food noise" I have read others discussing. It sounds tough.

Honestly ? Like others I’d feel sorry for them and as part of the bigger picture I find it really worrying just how many people are obese.

I see a lot of overweight parents with overweight children too so there’s clearly an element of it being learned/passed on there too.

I work with young people, have done for 20 years. You can realy see it changing over 20 years. I see it a lot.

I always think "it's your parents fault, they let you get like this". I think about how awful it might be for them to change that later on in life when thats how they have been taught to live.

I feel sorry for them when its extremely hot out doors and wonder how uncomfortable they must be in the heat.
I feel sorry that they get made fun of by their peers and other adults.

If I am sitting watching the world go by, I do sometimes get struck by noticing what a fat society we are, and a worry when the families go by, ‘normally fat’ mum and dad, wouldn’t usually register, but the v overweight kid…. But it makes me angry about the food and advertising industries, our lifestyles , how we are lured to view low quality foods as treats, told how we need these treats, because..’life’ , the pressures that lead us to believe this , and so on.

I don’t really think about individuals who are fat anymore than any other feature about them.