To ask what you think when you see a young, fat person?

I think if they are young then they have time and energy to go to the gym or do some excercise.

It sounds lovely - especially as people are quicker to be negative.

It may also be as you're feeling happier it's coming across to other people. Positivity grows exponentially.

However, it all sounds good and it's nice to have a good news story on a Monday 🙂

Overweight people aren't unusual, more than half of the population are overweight. It's not noticeable. If everyone paid attention to every overweight person they saw when they were out they'd have to literally be thinking about nothing else

I think wow, how can they be like this at such
a young age?
I have lots of minor health problems as other human beings do, but weight has never been one.

Two of my DDs (28 and 33) are overweight. One has severe anxiety and the other has multiple auto-immune diseases. Both piled on weight when the problems took hold.

So when I see a younger person who is fat I think that they are ill or unhappy or both, or post-partum.

If I see a fat younger person stuffing their faces with junk food in the street however I feel contempt - but then I feel the same whatever their age or dimensions!

Well done for getting a grip of it now OP, and I for one think you are a young person 😂

I wouldn't think anything.

I do feel sorry for children who are very overweight though.

I'm quite like this. I feel sorry for them. They obviously have an eating disorder to be overweight at a young age. I wonder what they've been through.
I don't judge their body size per se. I'm a therapist and this means I instantly wnat to help, but I'd not give unsolicited advice. I'm also quite experienced professionally and personally with these issues so my mind tends to automatically jump to 'I could help' but as for thinking about their actual body, no.

@LadyKenya
I'm not talking about people being happy or unhappy as their base emotion, or how they feel each day. So that has no relation to whether someone is unhappy about your weight, and buying mounjaro.

I was referring to why people eat. I don't think I eat because I'm unhappy. Eg @Lifestooshort71 said : "they lack self respect and there's something unhappy going on in their life because getting overweight doesn't happen suddenly."

I only take notice of young overweight people if they are wearing inappropriate clothing. Ie very short shorts, a cropped tight top. And I wonder if they are amazingly confident in themselves or have they just not looked in a mirror.

I tend to look at older women (my age) who are overweight and think, jeez, I really need to be careful. And it’s possible people look at me and think that too as I’m getting a tad to big, it’s recoverable without too much effort at the moment but I am very conscious of my size.

if your well presented I do think the majority of people wouldn’t notice tbh.

good on you for making the effort because if nothing else it will make a difference to your health and that helps tremendously (as I well know from having done it before, and slipped back).

whatever you do, do it for you 💐

Honestly? I think about the impact on their health as a result of being very overweight.

If I clock it, I worry about their future health, and current diet.

I particularly worry about obese children.

Joint issues and Type 2 diabetes are no joke.

Saying this as someone who currently has some weight to lose...

so if you dont want follow up questions

don’t mention 🤷

you started a thread about your weight

you mentioned your friends views on weight

@Jifmicroliquid then it's a shame that you don't realise that quite a few overweight people do exactly the same as you and still can't lose weight 🤷‍♀️

Lots of factors can impact fertility. My periods stopped when I starved myself, for example. From this thread, I can see that fat people are blamed if they have fertility problems - it's their own fault for being fat, people say. But there will be obese infertile people whose weight is not actually the reason, and they might be denied treatment due to their weight even if that isn't the problem. But there are also loads of comments here about fat mothers, judging them for having fat children (my children are not fat by the way, not that I should have to say it). What I see is fat people being blamed for contradictory reasons, and a host of critical and often cruel assumptions being made about them. It's dehumanising and it's awful. And when it comes to fertility, it is affected by so many things and often is inexplicable and insufficiently researched and understood.

I don’t think people who judge are being unpleasant

lol, they absolutely are.

I doubt that the majority of obese people have an underlying health issue that makes them fat. So judging may occasionally be mistaken because the person has a health issue. But it will more often be right.

Oh, so if you're wrong occasionally it's fine then? Judge away?

If you are an overweight person who is overweight due to a medical condition, you would also be entitled to judge those who are obese by reason only of their lifestyle choices. Why don’t you?

Because I'm not a dick?

I wouldn’t think anything of it because I have a serious (life shortening) health issue myself and, as a result of medication I have to really minimise my food intake or I’d put weight on. It sucks but I’ve had to adapt or I’ll get overweight and put more strain on an already compromised body.

It really depends what you mean by “overweight” - a few extra pounds, don’t notice or care. Very overweight/obese I do judge a bit, if it’s kids or teens then wonder WTF the parents were doing.

If it’s late teens/early 20s I think “god, they must be feeling miserable with this, how will they get it off as they age”. I feel very unhappy with myself when I’m fatter, cannot imagine how bad it is when it affects your younger years. Then wonder about the health stuff.

OP, I don’t really notice people’s bodies when our and about. I’m normally too worried about my own insecurities and the 10000 worries I have in my life/work etc.

Hope the Mounjaro goes well for you.

It depends how big they are really, if we're talking a couple of stone then I wouldn't think anything (I could do with losing this myself but wouldn't be considered "plus sized").
But if we're talking extremely obese then I mostly feel concerned for their health and about where we've gone wrong in this country with regards to healthy eating.
A 26 year old bothers me less than if I see an overweight child, because they have little control over what they eat so I would feel annoyed with the parents too.
I lost a very good friend to obesity related issues, she was only late 40s, she had issues with food and her weight her whole life. So the impact of being obese does worry me.

huh

what’s “not my business”?

I think their diet probably isn't great, but that's because I remember my own early 20s when I existed on pasties and snakebite! 😄 But I do think our eating habits have changed societally in the last 30 - 40 years. We used to laugh at American portions, and now ours are similar. Takeaway and convenience food is much more available. I was looking at some old school photos, and the class 'fat girl' was the same size as an average teenager now. I can identify with a lot of what @5128gap says.

So I understand it's probably harder to lose weight now, but with age I realise how important it is to get a grip on it when we're younger (as you're doing).

When I see an overweight person out running or going to the gym, I feel stoked for them because I know they'll feel better for it, and that they probably catch more sneering for it than a slimmer person would, even though they're doing something positive for themselves.

The most important thing I've learned is that you can't hate yourself thinner! Healthy food and movement are things to do out of respect, care and affection for yourself, not a self-flagellating punishment! 🤗

I was brought up in a very low income household and we ate a lot of crap. Chips with every meal etc. But the difference was our portion sizes were small, no takeaways, and I walked for miles so I was very thin as a child and into early adulthood. Piled it on after that mind you.