PiL live abroad. One has a big birthday coming up. BiL (who lives in same country as them) invited us to join a celebratory weekend. I said (via DH) that I was not comfortable w surprise element. Not a good idea for older people, definitely not right for PiL, and also I think anticipation is part of the pleasure. I was assured that 1 PiL was ‘in on it’ and happy w the plan so went along with it.
Now it turns out that neither PiL knows we are travelling to join them for the w/e (w young children).
I think they won’t like the surprise or the noise of the kids, and I find the idea of ‘popping out and saying hi’ really awkward.
I really like PiL, and BiL so I dont want to be difficult or a party pooper, but nor do I want to spend my weekend travelling for an awkward experience.
AIBU to not want to go?
If not, how do I get out of it diplomatically?