Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Standing in trolley

168 replies

Wordsareimportant · 08/09/2024 23:11

after a debate with another parent this week, it got me thinking. AIBU to put my child ‘in’ the trolley?

I have a nearly 1 year old and a 2.5 year old. There is only one supermarket close to us that has trolleys with two seats.

If we have to go anywhere else I will put my youngest child in the seat and my 2 year old will walk. However, there are times when putting her in the trolley behind my other child is just 1000x easier than dragging her around the shop.

Discussion with another parent made me wonder if I really am ‘disgusting and spreading germs’ for letting her sit in there.

For context:

  • on the odd occasion this happens, she always sits, doesn’t stand.
  • I can’t ‘just go shopping without them’
  • Yes, she can walk. but she’s 2.5 years old. She likes to touch everything, ‘explore’ the shop and just be an average 2 year old.

so, AIBU? Or am I just an average parent trying to food shop with toddlers?

OP posts:
Galoop · 08/09/2024 23:47

Wordsareimportant · 08/09/2024 23:42

Wow. “Other people can manage so why can’t you?”
l hope for the sake of your family and friends you don’t have this perspective on all aspects of life. What a sad life you must live. I hope you never need help with anything

You sound so entitled tbh, if there are signs to say not to do it why do you think you're the exception? And now you're playing the faux poor me victim card. So typical 🙄

Summertimer · 08/09/2024 23:47

Trolleys are often stored outside in the rain etc. so I don’t think of them as sanitised food bearing vessels

JoanCollected · 08/09/2024 23:46

Germs😂

I bet at least some of you give bj's.

NewName24 · 08/09/2024 23:44

I can't get worked up about the perceived 'dirt' or 'germs'.
The food I put in the trolley is wrapped - or loose fruit (such as bananas) I don't eat the peel.

But I wince whenever I see a toddler in a trolley because it is just so dangerous.

Please don't do it.

Shop where they have trollies for two.
or
Shop on-line
or
shop in the evening when your dp is home
or
put the little one in a carrier.

All MUCH safer options.

Wordsareimportant · 08/09/2024 23:44

endofthelinefinally · 08/09/2024 23:41

I left the house all the time, to go to the park or the bank or post office, the laundrette for example. Everything had to be done with a baby and a 2 year old in tow, the supermarket was the most exhausting and challenging. Everything took ages and involved lots of queueing.

I’m sure you knew what I meant. I obviously leave the house for other things.

You can’t, however, shop for everything online

OP posts:
Wordsareimportant · 08/09/2024 23:42

Galoop · 08/09/2024 23:39

It's disgusting, I'd judge you hard. Other people can manage, so why can't you. There's literally signs in the supermarket to say not to do it. Shop online if you must.

Wow. “Other people can manage so why can’t you?”
l hope for the sake of your family and friends you don’t have this perspective on all aspects of life. What a sad life you must live. I hope you never need help with anything

OP posts:
NoahsTortoise · 08/09/2024 23:42

I wouldn't think anything of this, I guess I don't think of trolleys as particularly clean? Are they ever cleaned?
Food is generally all packaged and if it's not it's because it's in skin that's not eaten. Wouldn't bother me at all to see a toddled standing in there.

endofthelinefinally · 08/09/2024 23:41

Wordsareimportant · 08/09/2024 23:25

So do I never leave the house? As much as online shopping is convenient, you can’t get everything you need online.

I left the house all the time, to go to the park or the bank or post office, the laundrette for example. Everything had to be done with a baby and a 2 year old in tow, the supermarket was the most exhausting and challenging. Everything took ages and involved lots of queueing.

Wordsareimportant · 08/09/2024 23:40

AsYouWiiiiiiiiiiiiish · 08/09/2024 23:30

My mum was a nurse and told me some really horrible stories of children standing up and reaching for things and falling g out of the trolley when the parents weren't looking.

A lot of head injuries and in one case the little boy ended up passing away.

I personally wouldn't put my child in a trolley unless strapped into the dedicated seat

Might I also add..
whislt most of these trolleys have seats, the vast majority don’t have seat belts.

my 2 year old in the trolley is probably much less likely to get injured than my fidgety baby with no seat belt around him

OP posts:
angelikacpickles · 08/09/2024 23:40

Wouldn't bother me.

Morwenscapacioussleeves · 08/09/2024 23:39

I don't care about the hygiene aspect but it's really unsafe, I saw a toddler tip a trolley from inside it & the sound of the crack she gave her head has stayed with me.

A sling/wrap is really handy for that age, I always popped mine on my back so they could see everything & chat.

Galoop · 08/09/2024 23:39

It's disgusting, I'd judge you hard. Other people can manage, so why can't you. There's literally signs in the supermarket to say not to do it. Shop online if you must.

TeenLifeMum · 08/09/2024 23:38

AsYouWiiiiiiiiiiiiish · 08/09/2024 23:30

My mum was a nurse and told me some really horrible stories of children standing up and reaching for things and falling g out of the trolley when the parents weren't looking.

A lot of head injuries and in one case the little boy ended up passing away.

I personally wouldn't put my child in a trolley unless strapped into the dedicated seat

Tell me you’re not a mum of multiples without telling me you’re not a mum of multiples 😂 There’s loads of things I didn’t think I’d do until I had twins. You enjoy polishing your halo while looking down on others.

TeenLifeMum · 08/09/2024 23:36

I had a toddler and twins so regularly had one sat in the trolley. Never once did I get any negative comments but lots of cooing. Mnetters seem to think that without dc in trolleys, they would be totally hygienic, which I find a weird thought. If they’re that worried, they can scan as they go and put items straight into their bags.

dc standing in a trolley is a no for safety reasons.

Wordsareimportant · 08/09/2024 23:35

Another thing pointed out by another poster as well…
what about the trolley handle?
how disgusting must that be? Think of all the people that have touched that without washing their hands first 🤮

then you touch every single thing you put in your trolley.
you might even have a sneaky snack after your trip to the shop… putting those lovely clean hands right on your food and into your mouth.

😂😂

OP posts:
LuckySantangelo35 · 08/09/2024 23:31

I don’t care what may or not happen to trolleys overnight, having shoes on the trolley with their traces of shit etc is gross. End of.

and yeah most food is packaged but… you touch the packaging and then touch the food so any germs on the outside can easily transfer to the inside I.e. what you consume. Unless you wash your shopping when you bring it home but most people don’t do that post covid- pandemic.

AsYouWiiiiiiiiiiiiish · 08/09/2024 23:30

My mum was a nurse and told me some really horrible stories of children standing up and reaching for things and falling g out of the trolley when the parents weren't looking.

A lot of head injuries and in one case the little boy ended up passing away.

I personally wouldn't put my child in a trolley unless strapped into the dedicated seat

Manyplanetsfromthesun · 08/09/2024 23:29

I got told off 10 years ago when I did exactly this with my now teens.

It a fair case from the staff- outdoor shoes on the bottom of other peoples grocery trolleys.

It’s pretty unlikely foxes and other wildlife climb up into a trolley and wee on it.

I was annoyed at the time because shopping with a toddler and a newborn was already hard enough…

I now am weekly thankful for online delivery.

JustGotToKeepOnKeepingOn · 08/09/2024 23:29

As long as the child is sitting in the trolley I think it's fine! I used to make a seat for my DD from the bumper packs of nappies 🤣

parlour · 08/09/2024 23:28

Ignoring the rules that children are not allowed in trolleys, there's the safety issue

What if the child falls out and lands on it's head?

Wordsareimportant · 08/09/2024 23:28

HerewegoagainSS · 08/09/2024 23:25

It’s not only germs, it’s dangerous.

put the toddler on reins if you think she will run off.

Not quite sure where on my post you got that she’d run off from.

OP posts:
BoreOffAboutYerChickensEmma · 08/09/2024 23:27

I wouldn’t mind sitting in a trolley being pushed round whilst I point and stuff and someone else pays. Babies and toddlers live the high life!

Clumsy12345 · 08/09/2024 23:27

This is one of those weird MN things that no one in real life cares about, I always put dd in the trolley, never had any weird looks or comments and never been told to remove her and have done it in various shops over the years with now older children. I always put her coat down first or a blanket before she sits in there so she’s not even touching the trolley 🤷‍♀️ more because I assume sitting on bars is uncomfortable rather than germs on shopping 🙄

doodleschnoodle · 08/09/2024 23:27

This feels very far down the list of day to day things to find energy to care about honestly. Trolleys are sitting outside round the clock anyway so not exactly sanitary, you put food in packaging in them, not unpackaged food that you then directly eat.

The handlebars of a trolley are going to be the most unhygienic thing I'd imagine. People's hands with faecal matter and god knows what else on touching them etc. But if you think about stuff like this you'll go mad so best to just not!

Just4thisthreadtoday · 08/09/2024 23:27

@Wordsareimportant

No, you're not because of the 'hygiene'. People seem to think a trolley is clean & hygenic until a child gets in it. They'd hyperventilate if the saw what happens to them overnight. 🤣🤣🤣🤣

However, having seen children with head injuries after falling out of one, it does make me shudder.

if yours stays sitting and you don't get distracted. Then it's preferable to having them walk around the supermarket getting hit by trollies & baskets.

Swipe left for the next trending thread