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Standing in trolley

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Wordsareimportant · 08/09/2024 23:11

after a debate with another parent this week, it got me thinking. AIBU to put my child ‘in’ the trolley?

I have a nearly 1 year old and a 2.5 year old. There is only one supermarket close to us that has trolleys with two seats.

If we have to go anywhere else I will put my youngest child in the seat and my 2 year old will walk. However, there are times when putting her in the trolley behind my other child is just 1000x easier than dragging her around the shop.

Discussion with another parent made me wonder if I really am ‘disgusting and spreading germs’ for letting her sit in there.

For context:

  • on the odd occasion this happens, she always sits, doesn’t stand.
  • I can’t ‘just go shopping without them’
  • Yes, she can walk. but she’s 2.5 years old. She likes to touch everything, ‘explore’ the shop and just be an average 2 year old.

so, AIBU? Or am I just an average parent trying to food shop with toddlers?

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Crystallizedring · 09/09/2024 09:07

No I have never put my child in the main part of the trolley mainly because it's not safe. Not from hygiene as the food is wrapped up anyway.
You can't guarantee a 2.5 year old will stay sitting and if you turn round to pick something up and she stands up your trolley could tip.
Do the big shop at the supermarket with two seats or do it online. By the way doing shopping online doesn't mean you never leave the house. I do online shopping but still manage to take DS out every day (and did when I had two DDs under 2).

Olika · 09/09/2024 09:00

I cannot be bothered about it. I had to put my very strong willed 2 year old in the trolley once or twice as it was impossible to get shopping done and if that gets me to finish and leave quick then that's what I do.

Apollo365 · 09/09/2024 08:57

After seeing a kid crushed toppling a trolley YABU

Allfur · 09/09/2024 08:55

It wouldnt bother me in the least but agree with others, online shopping is the way forward, giving you more time for fun stuff like playgrounds

TheGoddessFrigg · 09/09/2024 08:51

why not ask your local supermarket for some double seat trolleys? If you do it on media such as Twitter or their FB page they can be suprisingly helpful!

HRCsMumma · 09/09/2024 08:19

JoanCollected · 08/09/2024 23:46

Germs😂

I bet at least some of you give bj's.

😂😂😂😂😂😂

KaToby · 09/09/2024 06:45

Those of you saying that the trollies aren’t clean anyway, they are cleaned regularly by staff (Where I work) and a few times a year an external company comes out and deep cleans/sanitises them. So they’re actually cleaner than you think.

Magdaman · 09/09/2024 02:12

Sat in the trolley yes, with hands tucked well inside, but absolutely not to them standing. Toddlers standing risks tumbles, leaning out, and also fingers being bashed as they're usually holding onto the edge.

2.5 is quite young though. My supermarkets all had a few trolleys with double child seats which were well worth seeking out.

Summertimer · 09/09/2024 01:46

Flossflower · 09/09/2024 00:13

You can get everything online that you can get in a supermarket. Of course you can leave the house but children can tip the trolley if they are in it. It must be really difficult to shop with 2 young children. I can’t think why anyone would want to do it.

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If you want or need to shop and haven’t made it possible by taking kids shopping from day one, you end up really stuck.

VikingLady · 09/09/2024 01:36

We did it. Not one supermarket near us said anything against it. I think the staff would prefer toddlers to be contained in whatever fashion is possible over rampaging chaos!

And we couldn't shop online because we have never, ever had a shop arrive without major unsuitable substitutions, rarely on time, and we've had periods of relying very heavily on clearance items.

LongTimeReading · 09/09/2024 00:14

MichaelScottPaperCompany1 · 09/09/2024 00:13

From a hygiene perspective wouldn’t bother me but before I go into my house I strip naked and burn my “outside” clothes and shoes in the front garden and do the same for the kids before taking my groceries inside and rinsing them in bleach. No poop or peepee germs in my house, but can see why it would bother people who don’t do this tbf

That's very 2020.

Flossflower · 09/09/2024 00:13

Wordsareimportant · 08/09/2024 23:25

So do I never leave the house? As much as online shopping is convenient, you can’t get everything you need online.

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You can get everything online that you can get in a supermarket. Of course you can leave the house but children can tip the trolley if they are in it. It must be really difficult to shop with 2 young children. I can’t think why anyone would want to do it.

MichaelScottPaperCompany1 · 09/09/2024 00:13

From a hygiene perspective wouldn’t bother me but before I go into my house I strip naked and burn my “outside” clothes and shoes in the front garden and do the same for the kids before taking my groceries inside and rinsing them in bleach. No poop or peepee germs in my house, but can see why it would bother people who don’t do this tbf

Atishooo · 09/09/2024 00:10

Laughing that people think trollies are clean. I’d be more worried about my kids catching something.

Galoop · 09/09/2024 00:06

Wordsareimportant · 08/09/2024 23:51

Hahaha I think you’re getting a little bit away with your own emotions.

You seem to be exceptionally triggered by a post about trolleys.

might be time for you to go to bed

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Nah I just think it's gross that people put shoes where food goes, it's a pet peeve of mine. And entitled people who play dumb will always piss me off.

NewName24 · 09/09/2024 00:03

I'm surprised you would need a sign though.
It is pretty apparent it is a dangerous thing to do.

There's no sign saying I shouldn't allow my dh to be in the trolley either, but guess what - I don't do that either.

LongTimeReading · 09/09/2024 00:03

From a hygiene perspective, I couldn't get worked up about it, for all the reasons PPs have mentioned. But it's not safe for the child. Many moons ago, I worked evenings (and some extra day shifts) in a very large Tesco store, and it was horrifying seeing children handing out of trolleys and being bashed into shelves etc.

Original poster
Wordsareimportant · 08/09/2024 23:55

To be completely honest, I’ve never noticed a sign that says don’t do this.
where would you even look for something like that?! Where does it say it?!

I need to pay attention next time I’m in the shop 😂

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Wordsareimportant · 08/09/2024 23:54

FirstTimeHomeowner · 08/09/2024 23:50

You're triggering my post/retail anxiety 😂

As a first aider I dealt with multiple injuries caused by kids in trollies like this. The parents always liked to kick off as well because we'd made them unsafe despite pointing out the obvious instruction on the trolley NOT to do it. I think we actually may have had a legal complaint in once...

Oh goodness! Can’t believe some parents would blame the shops for an accident like this!

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Wordsareimportant · 08/09/2024 23:52

Edingril · 08/09/2024 23:51

Op why are you posting if you fine with doing it what is there to ask?

I was posting to see what other people did. I was sure I wasn’t the only mum to do it but the conversation I had with this other parent made me wonder if it was like the crime of the century 😂

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Teamustbefromateapot · 08/09/2024 23:51

This is totally normal in my local supermarket! My 3 year old gets tired halfway round and the one year old decides to be done with the seat shortly after. I'm never the only parent with toddlers in the main trolley!

Edingril · 08/09/2024 23:51

Op why are you posting if you fine with doing it what is there to ask?

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Wordsareimportant · 08/09/2024 23:51

Galoop · 08/09/2024 23:47

You sound so entitled tbh, if there are signs to say not to do it why do you think you're the exception? And now you're playing the faux poor me victim card. So typical 🙄

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Hahaha I think you’re getting a little bit away with your own emotions.

You seem to be exceptionally triggered by a post about trolleys.

might be time for you to go to bed

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FirstTimeHomeowner · 08/09/2024 23:50

You're triggering my post/retail anxiety 😂

As a first aider I dealt with multiple injuries caused by kids in trollies like this. The parents always liked to kick off as well because we'd made them unsafe despite pointing out the obvious instruction on the trolley NOT to do it. I think we actually may have had a legal complaint in once...

oakleaffy · 08/09/2024 23:49

Borninabarn32 · 08/09/2024 23:20

I'm surprised people think the trolleys are clean or the food in the shop. It's well known you should wash cans before opening them because of mouse piss. Imagine what all those hands that have touched the trolley handle have been doing all day. A 2 year old can't be expected to walk round a supermarket, I wouldn't take a second glance at a kid in a trolley tbh.

I saw some cardboard boxes on the shelves {Peanut butter jars I think they were} completely shredded by mice.
I did call the staff {Pre Covid era} and they removed the stuff.

But rat bait stations are put around supermarkets if you look carefully even the so called ''Middle class'' ones. {Not going to name them obviously!} -

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