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To ask if you put your phone on Do Not Disturb?

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LadyLille · 08/09/2024 22:56

I’ve been wondering about this recently. Do you put your phone on DND during certain times of the day, like when you’re working, sleeping, or just need a break from notifications? How do you decide when to use it, and do you have any tips for managing notifications effectively?

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ArabellaFishwife · 08/09/2024 23:43

Mine goes on DND at night. Phone will let through calls from certain people. I didn't set this; it was my phone, and I'm buggered if I know how to change it.

KreedKafer · 08/09/2024 23:43

I have mine on silent 24/7 anyway and the vibrate alone wouldn't be enough to wake me up at night, so I don't bother to put it on DND when I go to bed or anything. When I'm at work I just have it face down on my desk and pay no attention to it until I take a break.

The only time I would typically put it on DND would in a situation where I wouldn't want it to light up or vibrate and accidentally disturb anyone else, like if I was at the cinema or something.

For added context - I enable very few notifications on my phone. Basically the only notifications I've enabled are texts, WhatsApp, BBC News alerts and my team's football scores. I don't have notifications set up for email, social media or apps in general. That would drive me absolutely insane.

reallifeboogie · 08/09/2024 23:41

I set my to DND when I get into bed. I also turn my wifi/data off.
I have it set so my brother and my mum can ring me. I also have it so if the same number rings twice within 15 minutes it'll ring the second time. This was useful when my friend went into pre-term labour when her husband was away and she phoned me at 2am to be with her kids whilst her mum went with her to hospital.

JC03745 · 08/09/2024 23:39

Mine goes on silent about 11pm till 8am.
I was sick of being woken up! The main reason was that a colleague was sending messages to the work group chat at all hours. It was meant to notify of urgent rota changes a day or so before a shift. She started using it to send pics of randoms on her holidays, tell us at 6am that a friends flight was delayed, send post op wound pics and all manner of things none of us wanted to see, nor be woken by at all hours!

ThatWhiteElephant · 08/09/2024 23:33

Mine is on DND from 10pm - 8am every night , except for dh and both ds whose calls, texts etc will come through.

CharlotteBog · 08/09/2024 23:32

Mine is on silent/vibrate most of the time and I have set most apps not to send notifications. I choose when I want to catch up.

I can see if someone is phoning me and I do see all communication from my teenage son.

If DS (15) is home alone for a period of time or out and about I will turn it off silent unless I am somewhere that would be annoying/intrusive. Everyone else can wait!

paristotokyo · 08/09/2024 23:29

Mine goes on airplane mode when I'm sleeping. I probably should use dnd during the day so I can be more productive though..

LegoHouse274 · 08/09/2024 23:24

Cookerhood · 08/09/2024 22:59

Mine is set to be in DND from 11pm to 8am. If I go to bed earlier I switch it on then, likewise if I'm in a meeting etc.
I should have said, it's almost always on silent anyway.

Edited

Same although mine is set 9pm until 7am. Will put it on ad hoc for any important appointments or important things at work, or if I have a nap, or whatever. My phone is otherwise almost permanently on vibrate. I do have an exceptions list though - so there are a bunch of phone numbers that will ring through even when my phone is on DND. This is all close family members basically as well as the nursery and my children's school. So people who may want to contact me in an emergency situation and I know wouldn't ring me at night time or during working hours unless it was very important.

mycatsanutter · 08/09/2024 23:24

Mine used to be on from 11-7 but not anymore . One night I woke up and looked at my phone to see the time and I had dozens of missed calls - my son had been attacked and was in hospital, I felt awful that I had missed his calls ( and my other sons and daughter in law 😩)

fizzymizzy · 08/09/2024 23:20

No but I have no reason to as the only people who would be contact me are the immediate family who I wouldn't want to block notification from

Moonshine5 · 08/09/2024 23:19

Yes
10pm-6am

Elipl · 08/09/2024 23:16

I'm on dnd pretty much 24/7

Begsthequestion · 08/09/2024 23:15

Yes, every night, but with a few numbers unblocked and still able to call/text me.

Nubbled · 08/09/2024 23:14

10pm until 8am. Have family in favourites. So nothing to worry about

FastFood · 08/09/2024 23:14

Mine is on DND all the time, I never have any notification, except for calls. It's been like that for years.
I just check my messages often and that's fine. Absolutely no need for notifications whatsoever.

Imperfectionist · 08/09/2024 23:14

No notifications switched on for anything, ever.

Notifications give you brain rot and rapidly erode concentration spans. I wouldn’t be surprised if scientists find a correlation between notifications - pings, beeps, flashes, and long term brain function. People are becoming trained to respond to them like Pavlovian dogs!

So yeah. Usually on silent. Do not disturb in evenings.

I have a landline if anyone really wants to speak to me and I always answer it!

DappledThings · 08/09/2024 23:11

My phone is on silent 24 hours a day.

FussyPud · 08/09/2024 23:11

My phone is always in DND mode. My children, their schools/colleges, and my parent are on the allow list, everything else takes its chances.

babbi · 08/09/2024 23:11

Place marking to learn how to manage this

FionaJT · 08/09/2024 23:10

belindaah · 08/09/2024 23:02

@Whereisthesun99 how do you set it to allow certain calls through?

My phone has a DND option to allow favourites, so you use that and tag as a favourite contact the numbers you want to be able to get through.

Hoolihan · 08/09/2024 23:09

Mine is always on silent and all notifications blocked except for some Whatsapp contacts/groups. I uninstall Instagram on Sunday nights until the following Saturday morning. I use focus mode every week day 10am-4pm which blocks everything except calls and Spotify.

Despite all of this I STILL waste so many hours on mindless scrolling.

Barrenfieldoffucks · 08/09/2024 23:09

Mine is always on DND unless during working hours as I use it for work.

I will see messages etc, but I hate the noise of a phone going off so it lives on silent.

shellyleppard · 08/09/2024 23:09

Mine goes on do not disturb from 9pm until the next morning. Unless I know someone is ill x

CheeseWisely · 08/09/2024 23:07

Mine is on silent all the time unless I'm expecting a call, or if for example I've gone out and left our baby with my Husband, in case there's an emergency and he needs to contact me.

For social media I have all notifications turned off for everything except WhatsApp. I decide when to engage with Facebook and Instagram etc, they don't summon me. For email I have badge notifications but not push or banner or sounds.

My Husband is the absolute opposite and has notifications pinging on his phone and his watch all day long (although he uses DND overnight). Drives me to the brink!!

noworklifebalance · 08/09/2024 23:04

Whereisthesun99 · 08/09/2024 22:59

Yes my phone goes into do not disturb between 10 pm and 8am, but I have it set so my mum parents, in laws and gets can still get through if they need me .

Same (except for timings)