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LadyLille · 08/09/2024 22:56

I’ve been wondering about this recently. Do you put your phone on DND during certain times of the day, like when you’re working, sleeping, or just need a break from notifications? How do you decide when to use it, and do you have any tips for managing notifications effectively?

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OneTooFree · 09/09/2024 02:20

Mine is on silent permanently and all notifications are always turned off / blocked.
It never goes to bed with me either.

kayakerak · 09/09/2024 02:02

I have my phone on silent all the time. DND goes on from 11pm till 6am as the screen lighting up from notifications kept waking me up just as I would be getting off to sleep. I have started turning off notifications for more and more of my apps as I’m trying not to be on my phone so much (she says at 2am, on her phone).

I’ve never really thought about phone calls tho. There are very few people who would need to call me in the middle of the night for an emergency. But I live with my DM and she has her phone on full blast as she’s a bit deaf so anyone trying to get hold of us will def wake one of us up 😂

mondaytosunday · 09/09/2024 01:55

My phone is always on silent, and the only notifications I get are texts or WhatsApp. So I have to pick it up to see anything.

Dweetfidilove · 09/09/2024 01:33

I turn off notifications, but never use DND.

AntiHop · 09/09/2024 00:26

Mine is on permanent dnd expect for calls.

RawBloomers · 09/09/2024 00:25

My phone is almost always on silent. I put it on DND at night and if I’m in a movie or something, so it doesn’t vibrate either but will ring for starred contacts. When I’m at home, it’s normally in another room, and I get notifications flash up on my computer,.

It’s mainly about not being disturbed by the noise for me. I don’t have any problem ignoring notifications if I want to concentrate on something else and I rarely respond to non urgent messages straight away.

EBearhug · 09/09/2024 00:24

Notifications are permanently on silent. The ring tone is on silent unless I'm expecting a call or I'm on-call for work.

EngineEngineNumber9 · 09/09/2024 00:22

Mine comes on at 11pm, just as I’m about to go to bed. I have it switched on until 10am but in reality I switch it off as soon as I’m showered and dressed.

This is mainly as my dad sometimes likes to send very long rambling messages about non-urgent household/garden issues before he goes to sleep which I hate waking up to as it makes me feel panicked. (E.g. a bullet point list of furniture items, including photos, that they are sending to the charity shop and would we like any of it, etc.)

Messages and calls from DH get through at all times though. As he’s not a dickhead.

Also it’s always on silent and not even on vibrate unless I’m expecting an important call eg from the doctor.

Redglitter · 09/09/2024 00:16

Mine is on DnD from 10pm til midday. I have it set though so certain people's calls/messages can get through but that's all

MillyMollyMandHey · 09/09/2024 00:13

DH can always get through at any time though

MillyMollyMandHey · 09/09/2024 00:13

Yes, 8:30pm every night.

DiscoBeat · 09/09/2024 00:05

I always put it on at night, or if I take a nap during the day.

spikeandbuffy24 · 09/09/2024 00:04

Mine is set to allow all calls through overnight but no other notifications

DeeCeeCherry · 09/09/2024 00:01

Yes. When I'm at work, at night when im going to sleep, or if im having a nap earlier. Some Apps will send notifications at any time, same with emails, I dont want to be woken up by that its annoying.

I have a 2nd phone, only my DCs, DP and siblings have that number. They dont ring it, but would in an emergency if they couldnt get me on main phone.

LongTimeReading · 08/09/2024 23:59

honeyfox · 08/09/2024 23:47

I have it on DND at night (bar certain starred contacts) and on silent all day. Most groups are muted until I check them and most notifications turned off. Would highly recommend this.

You'd recommend it sure, because it works for you. I see that. It wouldn't work for me at all. We're all different.

Edingril · 08/09/2024 23:57

Mine is always on silent unless I am waiting on an important call or text

TheSmallAssassin · 08/09/2024 23:57

Move is on DND from 22:30 til 08:00, except for certain numbers or repeat calls. I've also got it set to go into DND when I put it face down, which is what I usually do when I need to focus at work, though I've only recently remembered that I'd done that!

LongTimeReading · 08/09/2024 23:56

Mine is set 12am to 8am DND, however, phone calls of all kinds can still get through.

Not certain calls, and not calls where someone has tried twice in 15 minutes or whatever it is - all calls. No one is going to call me after 10pm unless it's an emergency, so I am more than happy to take a call in the middle of the night as it's going to be practically life or death.

I had a situation once when my husband was ill and collapsed at about four in the morning. My friend and her husband live nextdoor and I needed him to help me, but neither of them allowed phone calls when their phones were on DND, so I ended up having to go round and bang on their windows, which of course frightened the pair of them to death.

Aside from this, I frequently set my phone to silent-with-vibrate during the day, as it's not always appropriate for it to be pinging or ringing.

NewName24 · 08/09/2024 23:53

I turn the wi-fi / data off when I go to bed, and all my (adult) dc know if I were ever needed in the middle of the night, to ring me.

I turn sound / notifications off if I am in a meeting / Church / Theatre / etc.

Synchronisedwitches · 08/09/2024 23:52

I turn mine off unless I've reason to have it on
I check all messages at lunch and in the evening.

qotsa · 08/09/2024 23:52

I have it scheduled every evening, 10 weekdays. 11 weekends... until morning. What I also do though is have certain people... DS's, DH, parents ... that it excludes from this at all times. They always get through. So I might put it on during the day whilst working but I know in case of emergency the people I have listed can still get through. So many people I speak to don't know you can do this.

LoopyLou67 · 08/09/2024 23:50

Yes it’s set for whenever my location is work, so I don’t need to activate

Summertimer · 08/09/2024 23:50

I turn the volume down if I am in the office. I usually only have teams turned on on my phone. At night phones go on charge downstairs. At other times, if phone is in another room or in my bag it’s on loud enough to hear unless I’m in a church, cinema, theatre etc.

honeyfox · 08/09/2024 23:47

I have it on DND at night (bar certain starred contacts) and on silent all day. Most groups are muted until I check them and most notifications turned off. Would highly recommend this.

suki1964 · 08/09/2024 23:45

Mines DND from 9pm till 8am

I dont have push notifications or any type of beeping buzzing or vibrating "alerting" me to anything at anytime . My phone is MY SLAVE, Im not its