A man told me how I should have reverse parked. I told him to floss and use a stain resistant toothpaste.

@ohyesido he chuckled and was generally a patronising sod. "Helpful" should be replaced with "superior". And presumably if he is a dad/grandad he acts in a similar way with his female relatives. Just because someone is old doesn't make them "nice".

You don’t need to feel shame- as you say it was free advice day!!! 😂

I'd feel like they were wasting their breath because they're both dead.

It's like the strange men who tell you to smile!!
Fuck off, my natural resting face isn't smiling and now a stranger is harassing me!!

Are we meant to just walk around looking like this?

ohyesido · Today 16:26

If I were you I’d feel very ashamed. He thought he was helping you and you insulted him in a very mean way.

That's a bit daft, he was a patronising tosser, who gave unsolicited and entirely unnecessary advice, in order to give his ego a boost. Probably so he could brag about how he had to direct some dozy bint into a parking space.

@EvelynBeatrice yours reminds me of how many times I open the front door to be greeted by a man who then says - don't look so worried. I now say I'm not worried. Last month I had two young men there, bearing in mind I have a sign that says no cold callers or sales people, and he wants to chat. I say I'm busy, I'm not buying anything, why are you here? He won't answer, keeps giving me what he thinks is the cute, sexy, funny chat, in the end I just say no not interested and shut the door. If they won't tell me straight why they are there then they aren't getting any more time.

If I were you I’d feel very ashamed. He thought he was helping you and you insulted him in a very mean way. How would you feel if someone said that to your father or grandfather?

It's in these very situations where you put your hand gently on their arm, head tilt and sweetly say 'Oh bless you. I think you've confused me with someone who gives a fuck about your opinion.' Pat their arm sympathetically and walk away.

I am an ‘always politeness’ person but I have complete sympathy with the poster. Why do women always expect other women to take the high ground? We always have to be the perfect victim.

Your comment was brutal enough possibly to cut through his thick skin and make him think twice in future.

Reminds me of a particularly annoying encounter on my doorstep. After looking me up and down, Random man asked if I was the householder. I said why - he glared but wouldn’t answer except to bark ‘ do you have garden furniture?’ repeatedly refusing to answer me when I asked what he was selling. I was amused at the randomness of this and retorted ‘do you have a unicycle?’ He gawped and stormed off.

😆 Nice one @user47 What an utter mansplaining bellnob!

Reminds me of this time when I had just reversed out of a space in a car park, and a van nearly hit me head on. I did nothing wrong but he went off on one - all purple faced. I had the window down and heard him say 'I thought it would be a woman somehow! Only a cloth-headed, dopey fucking woman would drive that badly ...' 🙄 (He was about 50. I was about 35.) I literally had done nothing wrong, and was baffled by his tirade.

The very sharp and sassy young car park attendant (male, around 30,) appeared, and said 'well at least the cloth-headed, dopey fucking woman in this car appears to be driving around the car park in the right direction. It's a one way system, and YOU are going in the wrong direction.'

HAHAHA white van man. 😆 Now go fuck yourself you cunt! (That is what I was thinking, as I smiled sweetly at him as I drove off!) He had to turn around as he was facing the wrong way. Cloth-headed, dopey fucking MAN.

I was walking on my own when a man appeared. He immediately moved over to the side I was on, then moved back again when I didn't get out his way.

Men are always doing this to me. They move onto my side of the pavement then move back when I don’t show any signs of scuttling out of their way. I find it quite comical actually.

You said you were frequently both classy and witty. I was after the example of that in OP's situation.

I've been told off for walking on the wrong side of a footpath. I was walking on my own when a man appeared. He immediately moved over to the side I was on, then moved back again when I didn't get out his way. As he passed he told me I was on the wrong side.
I can't remember what I said, I might have suggested he was a bit confused.

Already answered that question upthread

So what would you have said in OP's place?

I do, frequently

He was rude. She was rude back.

Love it. Well done

Nah not seeing it

Luckily then the OP was able to reciprocate with how she was being treated

Personally I am glad you pushed back. The more women do then maybe these type of men will get the message.

Good too that you thought of the comeback immediately. I always think of mine 4 hours after!

This reminds me of when I was in my early twenties trying to parallel park (really badly). Two builders stood watching and sniggering at me I was really embarrassed. These days I would put a finger up at them and ask them what their problem is.

I can guarantee the man shaking his head at me saying I wouldn’t be able to reverse into such a small space would not have looked at me with such distain if were not a middle aged woman

he would have been tripping over himself to help me if I was young woman

so what men get the odd comment thrown at them about their looks

I have had a life time of it simply because I am female

Go on then?

I treat people the way I want to be treated