We have been apart around 12 years and they are with me around 80% of the time. Ex has taken them on holiday say 3 times in all that time and only once in the summer holidays. He pays the bare minimum CMS and that stops and starts. I've taken them away every year without fail.
Obviously the dc are both teens now and I'm not sure how many more times they'll come away with me so the three of us said we'd do a 'big' holiday and leave Europe for the first time and have settled on Mexico, which I've booked this afternoon. Dd had made clear all along she wants to do as many weekends in the restaurant she works at as possible to save for uni in the autumn and only wants to be away for 2 Saturdays (they're the best night for tips apparently), which was fine with me and I've booked the 2 weeks.
Younger ds has messaged his dad in excitement to tell him, which has resulted in a shitty text to me about how he was planning to take the dc next year and I shouldn't have booked without asking him first. He had mentioned to ds that he would take them somewhere else as well (both have exams next year so a long summer) and ds told him he'd better ask dd as she didn't want to be away any more weekends.
I'm getting a barrage of texts, but have I done wrong? He doesn't reply to half the texts I send about arrangements and I've long since stopped telling him before I book stuff as he usually doesn't get back to me anyway and it puts me in limbo.
I think I can cancel if I do it within 24 hours but should I? I don't see why he should get what could be the last 'big' holiday with them when he's barely been arsed up to now.