My brother and his girlfriend announced their pregnancy and my mum asked me in front of everyone if I was jealous *MNHQ adding CW for CSA*

I'm another one wishing I hadn't read ...
the fact that you are questioning what you have done wrong says volumes. OP, I suspect you are very conditioned to accept your place in your family and all the abuse and toxic behaviour. Why else would you attempt to show off your child if not for validation and acceptance? Please, please stop all contact with your family, including siblings, and seek counselling for abuse and ptsd. A good counsellor will help you to disentangle from your family and build your self worth. Focus on your children and yourself.

I'm so angry and hurt on your behalf - you sound like a good person who does not need this hatred in her life. Your family is you and your children first, the others are not needed. Do you feel that you need affirmation that cutting off the others is the way to go? If so, you have it in spades on this thread. Enjoy your life and I wish you happiness and healing.

Go NC, after a while you'll see more clearly how vile your mum and grand parents are.
And remember you have absolutely no responsibility for their behaviour, you have done nothing to cause this and there is nothing wrong with you

Cut all contact, block all numbers and don’t get in contact with them ever again. This will not get better and won’t end well , it’s better to be out of it.
wish your brother well, send a congrats card and a small gift when the time comes - just don’t mention your mum or grandparents again. What horrible people.

I’m stealing ‘cock juggling thundercunts’. It’s magnificent !!

They have normalised their toxic, abusive behaviour of you OP. They can all go to hell. Surround yourself with your DC and lovely friends and have nothing to do with the lot of them ever again. Free yourself and live your best life from now on. Huge hugs

What an utter bitch, sorry OP.

Are you adopted ?

Just to add, I bet when your children are older, they will thank you for not allowing them to be a part of such a toxic environment.

Sending love, OP.

I am NC, I would just say, my brother and sister (who I tried to stay in touch with) became flying monkeys.

Cut them all off, but do explain to your brother why and then leve it to him to contact you, if he wishes.

I so understand the odd accusations. I was accused of doing precisely what everyone else did and I didnt. (ie Get a job, go to uni, live independently) Nobody came to my wedding, refused to meet my daughter. All while masquerading as a "naice" middle class family. You would NEVER know to look at them.

My father beat me frequently (only me) and my mother broke my nose. My brother is 50 and has never left home or had a job. He is revered.

Just go NC and never look back.

Wow! That's really odd to make those comments when they're already GP/GGP. They sound thoroughly nasty and no one could blame you from distancing yourself from them.

Extremely disturbing subsequent posts (I wish I hadn't read)

Your original AIBU is so underwhelming and insignificant compared to rest of your posts about this horrific family.

Yes you should absolutely go NC, and get a shit load of therapy for yourself.

Echo this 1000% you deserve so much better

They are horrible people, OP.

Drop them they are all losers playing a game with you. Cut them off. You sound lovely, it’s not you it’s them

Heartbreaking thread. OP, you are so brave. I'd definitely lose ties with them. Make it clear to your brother why you are doing this. You sound like you'd be better off.

Fucking hell, I'd leave the country to get away from this lot.

Cut yourself loose, it will be very liberating.

I'm the mum of girls op and this had made me cry. You deserve so much better that this.

This is horrible to read op. Of course you should go NC immediately….don’t subject your children to this toxicity.

I have a similar family although my sister was the scapegoat during our childhood. Now she’s NC and our other sister (previous golden child) died so it’s just me (truth-teller and scapegoat combined) and my brother (golden child). The really crap thing and the thing that really hurts is that we never seem to have anyone in our corner. The narcissist controls everyone.

Have you looked at the Stately Homes thread in relationships. And I would recommend Dr Ramani’s videos on YouTube. They’ve been saving me from insanity for a long time and there is a very supportive community.

This whole thread is off the rails nuts. Sorry.

Don't worry op, you'll have the last laugh when the baby is born and your brother's partner realises that your DM is too overbearing and then cuts contact with her 😉😉🤣

Your Mum will end up with nobody as she's clearly toxic. Grey rock her and one day other people will see exactly the sort of person she is too.

Cut them out of your life and enjoy the peace.

Awful for you. I’m sorry you’ve endured all this for so long.

Cut them all off. Life is too fucking short to put up with that crap. I’m sorry your family is so toxic, I hope you can maintain a relationship with your brother for the sake of your kids and his.