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pregnant sister drinking redbull

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handsoap · 08/09/2024 16:10

i've had 2 children myself, and did no drink any energy drinks due to the fear of what could happen. my sister is 36 weeks pregnant, drinks a 355ml of redbull a day and has multiple coffees a day.

i have told her multiple times that she shouldn't be having so much caffeine as it goes straight through to her placenta and she doesn't listen to me or anyone, she hides it from her boyfriend. i think she forgets it's her own child she has put at risk here, no one else's. she also occasionally vapes.

am i being an *hole for calling her out?

OP posts:
Dotto · 08/09/2024 16:22

A couple of caffeinated drinks a day (inc Redbull) is within guidelines, but more than that is also her choice. Presumably she'd know by now if her baby was growth restricted and she's not really at risk of preterm birth as she's now 36 weeks, however stillbirth remains a concern. Her informed choice, though.

UpUpUpU · 08/09/2024 16:22

Assuming she is an adult, mind your own business.

My sister smoked through all of her pregnancies. she knew she shouldn't but did anyway. Her life, her baby, her decision.

HaudYerWheeshtYaWeeBellend · 08/09/2024 16:20

YABU, you don’t get to tell another woman what she puts into her body.

Ohfuckrucksack · 08/09/2024 16:18

YABU You got to make decisions for yourself. She gets to make decisions for herself.

lollyPaloozah · 08/09/2024 16:18

Yeah it’s not great but she’s obviously aware she shouldn’t be doing it and choosing to anyway so I’m not sure what you can do about it that will have any impact.

my two SIL both smoked cigarettes, weed and drank energy drinks (but wouldn’t eat smoked salmon or drink alcohol etc because it might harm the baby 🤷‍♀️) through all of their pregnancys. They 100% knew the risks, hid their behaviour from midwives but simply didn't care enough to actually stop. They had rationalised it to themselves and no one could say anything that would make them stop. Luckily for them their babies were unaffected, but it meant they then felt free to do the same with their subsequent pregnancies.

KreedKafer · 08/09/2024 16:17

Mum2jenny · 08/09/2024 16:15

You cannot be your sister’s keeper.

She has free choice. All you can do is advise her that it’s not recommended. And support her if there are any issues with the baby once born.

There won’t be any issues with the baby. It’s caffeine, not heroin.

OP, your sister’s choices are none of your business and lecturing her isn’t going to achieve anything.

Mum2jenny · 08/09/2024 16:15

You cannot be your sister’s keeper.

She has free choice. All you can do is advise her that it’s not recommended. And support her if there are any issues with the baby once born.

pinkyredrose · 08/09/2024 16:14

have told her multiple times that she shouldn't be having so much caffeine as it goes straight through to her placenta

Are you sure about that?

StMarieforme · 08/09/2024 16:13

If you've raised your concerns with her I don't see what else you can do? It's not illegal, just ill advised. I have never heard of foetal caffeine syndrome so my guess is baby will probably be fine. It's better that heroin and vodka.

Dolliesdisasterousdayout · 08/09/2024 16:12

You continuously telling her isn’t going to change anything. She knows.

Devilsmommy · 08/09/2024 16:12

I'd be more worried about the taurine in it. That shit rots adult stomachs, never mind all the other crap in it that wouldn't be good for a baby aswell

MugPlate · 08/09/2024 16:12

She has to want to control her own behaviour. She's chosen to do this, and you know she doesn't listen to anyone, so you'll just have to wait and see what impact it has on her baby.