pregnant sister drinking redbull

Of course you're not being unreasonable.

OP, you need to learn a very valuable lesson in life. That is, that you cannot control anybody else.

It matters not what you think, whether you like or dislike what she does, and whether you feel you are right or right, or in fact whether you have facts right or wrong.

It's all inconsequential because women have (or should have) autonomy over our own bodies and lives, regardless what others think of it. Regardless if others feel we are making the wrong choices, regardless if they impact someone else, to some degree.

Your body is yours. Your pregnancies were yours. Your children are yours. Your choices are yours. Her body, pregnancy, children and choices are hers, there's not a thing you can do about it, so back off.

People who try to force their ideals on others are tedious, tend to not be very nice people, and have controlling tendencies. Not nice characters. Look a bit closer to home, first.

don’t really care about other people’s pregnancies

Weird statement from someone who claims to be an NCU nurse

So basically, you’re just posting here hoping that everyone will join you in slagging her off, then. Nice.

Your family relationships sound dysfunctional and you should probably take a step back and be less enmeshed in the details of your sister’s pregnancy.

If you wanted silence, you shouldn’t have started a thread.

If you've got such a solid opinion and literally everyone else is wrong why have you bothered doing a post.
Obviously literally everyone who doesn't agree with you hounding your sister about her life is clearly wrong, and you're right.

Let her do what she wants, you've told her the risks, she knows the risks - leave her be, jeez.

You've said your piece, I'd leave it alone now.

Ultimately, it's her body and her choice. Attempting to police a pregnant woman's body is a slippery slope.

There's no way you're a nurse.

Also my suster gave birth 3 months ago and her baby is sooooooo small the dr told her she should wake her up every 1 and a 1/2 hour to feed her or she could literally die also shes 3 months now and stilll sooooooo tiny

No offense but shes the b hole tbh my sister did the same 5-7 little cups of coffee everyday and a pack of cigarettes what is this!! How are they gonna be parents if they cant even control themselves. But i talk from experience leave her be if shes hiding it feom her bf shes not rlly mature enough so if you pressure her shes just gonna hide it from you too

Excellent assessment

@handsoap
The thing is, the more you tell your sister not to do something, especially given the job you do, the more she is going to do the exact opposite. I rather suspect that every time you lecture her, she goes home and has a Red Bull, just to spite you. You need to accept that she is her own person and you are yours. Keep your opinions to yourself and you may find that she actually reduces her intake because it's not on her mind so much. She's going to have all and sundry giving their opinion on what she should and shouldn't be doing during her pregnancy, be her sister, not another judgemental voice, she knows your opinion. Only offer it if she asks, unless you don't want a relationship with your new niece or nephew.

Actually if you were my sister, I’d tell you to fuck off. You’ve said your stuff, but it’s my baby and I’ll do what the fuck I want.

Can you tell I’m sick of ppl telling me what to do?

However I’m fortunate not to be in the OPs scenario!

Pls OP do what you want, and ignore your sibling. Yes, she may be right in her information but it’s your choice to agree or disagree with them.

The bottom line is:
You have already repeated told her.
She has ignored you.

There's nothing left you can do unless you are planning on kidnapping her and locking her in a room until she's had the baby, like a drug/cult intervention type thing. You need to let this go unless you want to permanently damage your relationship with her although it sounds as if you despise her so it might already be too damaged.

I once got told off for drinking coffee when I was pregnant.
I carved it more when I was pregnant.
My auntie used to eat it from the jar when she was pregnant.
My baby was born healthy 19 years on still healthy.

Energy drinks killed my brother at the age of 27 - those things are lethal! The foetus would definitely be affected, shocking that people can treat their unborn children like this

why mention it here then?

You don’t sound like you like your sister very much. Probably in everyone’s best interests to take a step back.

"Bodily autonomy loons" believe that a woman has freedom of choice and isn't just an incubator.

I might not personally agree with the choices other women make but I will defend to the hilt their right to make them and I'll keep my opinions about their choices to myself too because I'm not a judgemental dick

Same with me, but I had coffee instead, sometimes the little chilled cans, especially in the first trimester with dd2 as I knew it helped me cope with the migraines and no way of taking regular medication. Was told it was ok by a specialist at the hospital. Migraines are truly miserable aren't they.

I also had medication for the migraines in the 2nd trimester with both which came with a very slight (and it really was minuscule) risk of increase in heart defects, could not be taken in the third trimester as risk was too high. My mother told me off for it and I had to remind her that I am a living person who was unable to eat or even get out of bed for several days a week due to the migraines and I was making the right choice for me and my baby. So unless a pregnant woman is drinking to excess or snorting coke I am not quick to judge.

can we have some silence in here now? I think you can hide threads and switch off notifications if they are bothering you

You didn't get the desired effect of loads of people coming on and berating your sister, so now you want silence?

Why ask the question in the first place if you didn't want the answers?

The ‘body autonomy loons’ are literally pointing out the law. It’s up to the woman to decide whether she wants to throw in a vodka with a red bull, she wouldn’t be committing a criminal offence.