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Early prison release for DV perpetrators *trigger warning DV*

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Usercyzabc · 07/09/2024 23:00

I’m sure this has been discussed at length but what am I missing with not understanding Starmers thinking in releasing violence men under his SDS40 scheme?

Not sure what my AIBU is, but happy for suggestions.

I won’t link, but I read in the Daily Fail today, that next week this is to go ahead.

I don’t understand.

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MissUnlocked · 08/09/2024 01:42

I left my violent ex. Took dc to a hostel for a year, best thing I ever did as well!

GoldOnyx · 08/09/2024 01:40

Usercyzabc · 08/09/2024 01:38

You are but it happens, people don’t take this matter seriously.

I don’t understand what ‘You are but it happens’ means. What does it mean?

GoldOnyx · 08/09/2024 01:40

Usercyzabc · 08/09/2024 01:37

You’ve not, I specifically asked about your understanding of the impact of DV on the victims/ survivors, all you talk about is the perpetrators. Thats ok, as I said count yourself lucky.

You didn’t ask that at all.

You asked this: Explain your understanding beyond just your sympathy for the perpetrators.

And I answered.

Usercyzabc · 08/09/2024 01:38

GoldOnyx · 08/09/2024 01:33

EDIT: My response below to 01:17 post from @Usercyzabc.

I’m not trivialising this.

From my very first post on this thread, I think I show a good understanding of the scheme and the reason why it has been chosen over other options.

I’ve recapped my first post on the thread below:

If you’ve read any articles about this scheme, it will have been made clear that the government has decided to go ahead with it because the prisons have been in a state of crisis for months as they are so low on space. That is clearly a very unsustainable situation and this has been judged to be the most suitable short term solution before a better long term can be found. This solution is far from being perfect, and as part of it, many violent prisoners will be released, including domestic abusers.

Edited

You are but it happens, people don’t take this matter seriously.

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Usercyzabc · 08/09/2024 01:37

GoldOnyx · 08/09/2024 01:31

I’ve answered your question now, should you wish to respond.

You’ve not, I specifically asked about your understanding of the impact of DV on the victims/ survivors, all you talk about is the perpetrators. Thats ok, as I said count yourself lucky.

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GoldOnyx · 08/09/2024 01:33

EDIT: My response below to 01:17 post from @Usercyzabc.

I’m not trivialising this.

From my very first post on this thread, I think I show a good understanding of the scheme and the reason why it has been chosen over other options.

I’ve recapped my first post on the thread below:

If you’ve read any articles about this scheme, it will have been made clear that the government has decided to go ahead with it because the prisons have been in a state of crisis for months as they are so low on space. That is clearly a very unsustainable situation and this has been judged to be the most suitable short term solution before a better long term can be found. This solution is far from being perfect, and as part of it, many violent prisoners will be released, including domestic abusers.

MissUnlocked · 08/09/2024 01:33

@Usercyzabc

You mean you have no answer

Because you are reacting to daily Mail rubbish ....

GoldOnyx · 08/09/2024 01:31

Usercyzabc · 08/09/2024 01:18

So you wont answer the question just deflect. Sounds about right.

I’ve answered your question now, should you wish to respond.

GoldOnyx · 08/09/2024 01:29

I’ll give you an answer. I have shown no sympathy for the perpetrators whatsoever.

Please see an extract from my posts below, which I think is relevant to your question. None of them show any sympathy for the perpetrators.

I find it so upsetting and worrying that former prisoners will be homeless. This not only makes them vulnerable but also makes everyone else around them vulnerable and also increases the chances they’ll get sent back to prison. It achieves nothing other than to keep the horrible cycle going.

I then clarified my above post with this:

I’m not talking in my post about ex-prisoners who were sentenced to prison for domestic abuse though. Sorry - I realise I didn’t make it clear. I’m talking about people who went to prison for things like shoplifting or drug dealing, which whilst they are serious crimes, are not in my opinion as serious as domestic abuse. Unfortunately there’s a very high risk that former prisoners become homeless once they leave prison. When they are released from prison, they just leave - that’s it. They have nowhere to go. It is very sad.

I then said this:

Presumably there are worse offenders that the government wants to keep in prison, so this is the plan they’ve come up with. I agree they should be kept in prison. It’s very very worrying.

And then I said this:

The government obviously could not release prisoners serving whole life sentences or murder sentences, so they had to release other categories of prisoners. That will include some prisoners who are serving sentences for acts of domestic abuse. Which is of course unacceptable. So we need to protest against that, which is our democratic right, and bloody well hope the government hears us.

Usercyzabc · 08/09/2024 01:25

MissUnlocked · 08/09/2024 01:22

@Efacsen yep! But that's why I was asking for an answer... which the two ( sock puppet) posters can't answer....

Because you’re not to be taken seriously I’m afraid.

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MissUnlocked · 08/09/2024 01:22

@Efacsen yep! But that's why I was asking for an answer... which the two ( sock puppet) posters can't answer....

Efacsen · 08/09/2024 01:20

MissUnlocked · 08/09/2024 00:49

Also if they are released at 40% early or at 100% completion does anyone actually believe they will be a different person?

Don't think that anyone serves 100% of their sentence - it's usually 50%

So the reduction under this scheme is from 50% to 40%

And the main cause of the current over-crowding is longer sentences over the last 30 years

IDK Arguably longer sentences are not as effective as hoped in reducing crime??

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MissUnlocked · 08/09/2024 01:19

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Usercyzabc · 08/09/2024 01:18

GoldOnyx · 08/09/2024 01:17

Wow. Where have I shown sympathy for the perpetrators?

So you wont answer the question just deflect. Sounds about right.

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MissUnlocked · 08/09/2024 01:18

@GoldOnyx I thought that too....sockpuppetting

Usercyzabc · 08/09/2024 01:17

GoldOnyx · 08/09/2024 01:15

@Usercyzabc and @User6874356 I’m starting to think you’re the same person 😂😂😂 you’ve got a very similar writing style and you keep mistakenly tagging each other.

What is wrong with you that you are trivialising something that has far reaching consequences, there a prime example of your gross lack of understanding. Appalling really.

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GoldOnyx · 08/09/2024 01:17

Usercyzabc · 08/09/2024 01:16

Explain your understanding beyond just your sympathy for the perpetrators.

Wow. Where have I shown sympathy for the perpetrators?

MissUnlocked · 08/09/2024 01:16

@GoldOnyx you haven't tried to shut down debate at all

You've tried to explain but to no avail, hat off to you but it's twee mumsnet where nobody listens to anything but the Daily Mail

Usercyzabc · 08/09/2024 01:16

GoldOnyx · 08/09/2024 01:14

What makes you think I don’t understand the impact of domestic violence?

Explain your understanding beyond just your sympathy for the perpetrators.

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GoldOnyx · 08/09/2024 01:15

@Usercyzabc and @User6874356 I’m starting to think you’re the same person 😂😂😂 you’ve got a very similar writing style and you keep mistakenly tagging each other.

GoldOnyx · 08/09/2024 01:14

Usercyzabc · 08/09/2024 01:13

Thank you @User6874356 i agree, the tone is a shaming tactic. My post are unclear, click baity etc. I don’t really care, its just a deflection from the real issue, what I do care about is this posters enormous lack of understanding around DV, and that there is far more sympathy for the homeless violent men (they put themselves in this situation) than the women they most likely have driven to a DV shelter with their young children . This posters total lack of understanding is part of the problem obviously, which in itself needs addressing as a wider issue.

You can come at me all you like @GoldOnyx but it’s clear you are an advocate for this programme bar the slightly bizarre post about emailing an MP who I am fairly certain is more than aware of what’s happening.

What makes you think I don’t understand the impact of domestic violence?

MissUnlocked · 08/09/2024 01:14

Hmm that's not 'my logic' it was a question

You don't seem very capable of thinking things through though. Just shouting about it all

Usercyzabc · 08/09/2024 01:13

GoldOnyx · 08/09/2024 00:58

Please let me know how I tried to shame the OP and shut down debate. I don’t think I’ve done either of those things.

Please let me know what other options they have, as I’d be keen to know. My understanding is that this is the best option for now, as it is the most low cost and immediate option, but it of course comes with serious risks.

Thank you @User6874356 i agree, the tone is a shaming tactic. My post are unclear, click baity etc. I don’t really care, its just a deflection from the real issue, what I do care about is this posters enormous lack of understanding around DV, and that there is far more sympathy for the homeless violent men (they put themselves in this situation) than the women they most likely have driven to a DV shelter with their young children . This posters total lack of understanding is part of the problem obviously, which in itself needs addressing as a wider issue.

You can come at me all you like @GoldOnyx but it’s clear you are an advocate for this programme bar the slightly bizarre post about emailing an MP who I am fairly certain is more than aware of what’s happening.

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GoldOnyx · 08/09/2024 01:13

@Usercyzabc and @User6874356 keen to hear your thoughts on my posts above.

GoldOnyx · 08/09/2024 01:11

User6874356 · 08/09/2024 01:00

Look above. Your posts are still there.

Your understanding is that the best option is to release domestic abusers early? As it’s the lowest cost? Are you joking?

I’ve asked you how I’ve tried to shut down debate and shame the OP as I don’t think I’ve done either of those things. If you’re going to say I’ve done those things, please give me evidence.

Your understanding is that the best option is to release domestic abusers early? As it’s the lowest cost? Are you joking?

You’ve quoted bits of my original post. Not my original post in full. I’ve copied my original post here, which reads: ‘My understanding is that this is the best option for now, as it is the most low cost and immediate option, but it of course comes with serious risks.’

I’d like to hear what your suggestions are for what should be done. Do you agree? Do you think they should do something else instead? Should they build more prisons? I think they should, but it won’t happen quick enough to solve the current capacity crisis.

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