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To ask if you have medium to long length hair what you do with it to sleep

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YeahWellWhyNot · 07/09/2024 22:25

I'm clearly dim and missing a trick despite having the same hair cut for nearly 40 years. Not far below shoulder length wavy hair. Thanks to young kids, my hair in the day is nearly always in a claw grip clip to get it away from my face. At night I let it down because I obviously can't sleep with a clip, but my god my hair pisses me off. In the summer, unbearable, sticks to me. Last night, tickles me. And I wake up looking like a mess. Don't do hairbands as they leave a kink, or if left loose, fall out. I always shower in the evening, let it dry naturally. I am up and down all night with the kids, and also toss and turn A LOT so anything that requires me to sleep (spooned) gracefully like a movie star is absolutely out of the question. But I'm kind of sick of waking up looking like I haven't washed or brushed it. Also showers in the morning would be impossible. Oh and I have the technical skill with anything hair and make up as a donkey with boxing gloves 😁

Thanks I'm advance!

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Audiprettier · 16/02/2025 19:25

Fahran · 07/09/2024 22:46

Long curly hair. Nothing. I just go to bed.

I used to be the same...Didn't appreciate how lucky I was! Age puts paid to that. Night sweats etc. soon changes waking up with a lion's mane to having to sweep it up to keep cool & stop it sticking to your face! Enjoy girlies x 😏

mondaytosunday · 16/02/2025 15:16

My DD has almost waist length very thick wavy hair. She uses a satin bonnet too - Amazon I reckon will have a good selection.

TruthThatsHardAsSteel · 16/02/2025 03:44

WheresthesaladTheresthesalad · 08/09/2024 20:21

I have a lot of very thick wavy/frizzy hair which I straighten each day and always wake up with it being enormous 😂 Putting into a bun to sleep gives me ice pick migraines so after seeing vids on SM I bought myself a silk sleep 'bonnet'. Looks like a Buff type headband but is stitched closed at one end. It's brilliant, hair isn't everywhere in the morning. And not too hot either as bought the proper silk one, not the polyester cheaper version.

Oh can you give more info please. I do wear a buff over plait, doubles as an eye mask 😂

TruthThatsHardAsSteel · 16/02/2025 03:43

Blahblahblah2 · 08/09/2024 18:16

I do a French plait every night. Have done this since my teens. I have thick wavy hair.

There's my hair twin 😍

ThinWomansBrain · 16/02/2025 01:42

I don't sleep brilliantly, so sleep bonnets etc aren't comfortable and don't stay on.
Only one side of my hair is long, so buns and pony tails don't really work - so I do nothing.
It's often like a birds nest in the morning, but I just wet it and it goes back into curls.

steff13 · 16/02/2025 01:28

I put mine in a silk bonnet.

Dotto · 16/02/2025 01:21

Dribble on it

Audiprettier · 16/02/2025 01:19

YeahWellWhyNot · 07/09/2024 22:25

I'm clearly dim and missing a trick despite having the same hair cut for nearly 40 years. Not far below shoulder length wavy hair. Thanks to young kids, my hair in the day is nearly always in a claw grip clip to get it away from my face. At night I let it down because I obviously can't sleep with a clip, but my god my hair pisses me off. In the summer, unbearable, sticks to me. Last night, tickles me. And I wake up looking like a mess. Don't do hairbands as they leave a kink, or if left loose, fall out. I always shower in the evening, let it dry naturally. I am up and down all night with the kids, and also toss and turn A LOT so anything that requires me to sleep (spooned) gracefully like a movie star is absolutely out of the question. But I'm kind of sick of waking up looking like I haven't washed or brushed it. Also showers in the morning would be impossible. Oh and I have the technical skill with anything hair and make up as a donkey with boxing gloves 😁

Thanks I'm advance!

This is me too!
A scrunchy is much gentler than a hair-band although if you have thick hair the weight doesn't hold as well in a scrunchy. I twist it up in a loose bun at night (& clip fringe & sides) as it drives me nuts when it sticks to my face/neck overnight. Have you tried two twisted loose buns (not the edible kind😇) ie: one on each side of a middle parting so you're not squashing it & should catch all the wispy bits? In the morning I tip my head over and gently 'ruffle' my scalp hair, so it's not stuck to my head, then spray lightly to soften/dampen down (a very -maybe even a hair fragrance - fine mist) any rogue strands!
Someone on TV swore by stroking tin foil down the hair to eliminate frizz, yet to try that! 🤷🏼‍♀️
We're never happy... I'd love to have straight neat hair instead of crazy curly hair, but it's vice versa for girls with straight hair (sigh!) 🤷‍♀️

As for makeup...
defined eyebrows (tinted or microblading) really frame a face, bring out the eyes.

And use the same lipstick for both cheeks (3 dabs & blend well on cheeks each side) AND lips to give a healthy glow!
Try at home on a weekend to give time to adjust as desired...better less than more at first until you get used to it! I'm hoping you have a lippie around at home! x
Hope something helps 🤞

WheresthesaladTheresthesalad · 08/09/2024 20:21

I have a lot of very thick wavy/frizzy hair which I straighten each day and always wake up with it being enormous 😂 Putting into a bun to sleep gives me ice pick migraines so after seeing vids on SM I bought myself a silk sleep 'bonnet'. Looks like a Buff type headband but is stitched closed at one end. It's brilliant, hair isn't everywhere in the morning. And not too hot either as bought the proper silk one, not the polyester cheaper version.

Blahblahblah2 · 08/09/2024 18:16

I do a French plait every night. Have done this since my teens. I have thick wavy hair.

Imalongtimepostingmum · 08/09/2024 18:11

I whack it up in a bun with a plastic spiral bobble thing. But I always wash it in the morning so it doesn't really matter if it's a mess.

Theordinary · 08/09/2024 18:06

I have a silk bonnet which works nicely. I feel like a victorian lady when I wear it.

DillDanding · 08/09/2024 18:03

I have long, curly hair. I put it in a bun on the top of my head in a silk scrunchie so it looks good in the morning.

Thistooshallpass24 · 08/09/2024 18:01

You can buy the heartless curler thing for £1.99 in home bargains

To ask if you have medium to long length hair what you do with it to sleep
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YeahWellWhyNot · 08/09/2024 17:51

Thanks everyone! I tried a scrunchie bun last night but it was a velvet sort as that's all I could find. Clearly did it wrong because I woke up with a a very bushy mop that went all over the shop. I have my eye on a silk one at boots so I may whip round there tomorrow and get one. Otherwise I remember I do actually have a silk bonnet with long ties if I can ever work out how the ties work 😡 but I may end up looking very "little house on the prairie" how fetching for DH 🤣

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cinammonfishsticks · 08/09/2024 14:44

Truly this is one of the best things I've discovered in recent years

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Use it every night and takes about 5 seconds to put in once you get the hang of it. I wake up with a blow dry every day!

Cherrysoup · 08/09/2024 10:29

It gets scrunched up into a bun. It would be wrecked no matter what I do overnight, so pointless trying to ‘save’ it. It’s incredibly curly.

Gazelda · 08/09/2024 10:20

Silk scrunchie on top of my head and a silk pillowcase.

OldTinHat · 08/09/2024 09:56

I have almost waist length wavy hair. I twirl it up and shove it in a very attractive silk bonnet thing which falls over my eyes and doubles up as a sleep mask

Member984815 · 08/09/2024 09:54

Loose plait , I can't stand the feel of it sticking to my neck

WonderingWanda · 08/09/2024 09:53

I have thick hair the same length and it takes ages to straighten so I don't do it. I got a Revlon blow dry brush and if it has kinks or looks a bit dishevelled a quick blast seems to smooth it all out and you can give it a bit of shape if you have layers. I also have a fringe so can just give that a quick wash in the sink if I don't want to do all my hair.

Blackberriesandcobwebs · 08/09/2024 09:49

High ponytail, job done.

Kelly51 · 08/09/2024 09:46

Not sure why you're worried about a kink from a hairband when it's clipped up all day. I put it in a high loose bun.

toomanyjobsforonewoman · 08/09/2024 09:07

I wear a silk bonnet on my bum length hair and leave the hair loose inside it. So much more comfy than a bun

SaltAndPepperGyoza · 08/09/2024 08:50

Like some other posters, I wear a silk bonnet over my waist length curly hair and it has been life changing for me. My hair used to be a frizzy nightmare and now I get regular compliments on how lovely it is.
I can't sleep without it now. If I ever try my hair irritates the hell out of me.