I’m honestly not sure how my life has got to this point but I’m married just over a year and honestly feel we would be better calling it quits.
We have two young children (toddlers), never go on dates, never have sex and I feel we rarely have proper time together. My husband plays golf, goes running, gym, 5 a side football and anything else he can find to fill his time. He’s not a big drinker, which I have no problem with, but this means he never wants to go out. The cinema every few months is the extent of it. He also isn’t interested in going on weekends away or holidays, we had countless arguments earlier in the year because I wanted to go on a family holiday over Easter. He’s a teacher so we can only go at certain times; he would prefer to just stay home and chill (play golf!), which I understand too but I don’t think it’s crazy for someone to want to go on holidays. Money isn’t an issue so this is not the reason.
When we’re getting on, things are ok but I feel like I’m resenting him so much lately. I feel like I’m giving up so much, no social life, nothing to look forward to. We had a night away planned for next weekend (my best friends partners birthday, it’s about 2 hours away so plan was to stay the night). Last night he realised there’s a golf competition he wants to play in so he’ll be gone all day Saturday and then play his usual Sunday morning golf the next day. Basically I’ll be alone all weekend with two toddlers. My mam helps me out a lot but her health isn’t great, it also annoys her so much that he takes so much time for himself so I tend to make light of it to her.
Sorry I feel like this is such a long post but is it dramatic of me to think I should end our relationship over this? I’m not even 40 yet, and in a relationship that just seems pointless. He’s a nice person, I really love him, he loves me but he’s just more interested in doing his own thing.