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Am I a cf for asking a farmer this question?

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Whye · 07/09/2024 15:18

We want to buy a house which is off a rarely used but fast winding country lane - only wide enough for one car. The speed limit is 30 but we have seen cars zooming along. I would not feel safe walking my dog on these country roads. There are some woods nearby but I would probably have to load dogs up each time for the 2 min drive.

There are fields all around. Would I be cheeky to ask the farmer who owns the fields opposite us if I could potentially walk my dogs on the perimeter of his fields, obviously I will pick up messes and be respectful.

We would be 5 mins from a decent sized market town so there are plenty of options just not convenient. Am I being cheeky?

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Scrowy · 07/09/2024 16:25

Another thought is if it belongs to a dairy farm it very well might not have stock in it and is used to intensively grow grass as a crop for a no grazing system in which case it would be a definite no due to the risk of the crop becoming contaminated.

We unfortunately have to remind people regularly that their right to use a footpath through our fields does not extend to a right for the dog to run about in the whole field as they pass through. People have become so ignorant of the countryside code - its so sad when you see wildlife being disturbed and livestock being stressed even if they aren't physically hurt.

Why do people think its OK?

Whye · 07/09/2024 16:24

lazzapazza · 07/09/2024 16:15

Save your breath. The farmer is not going to say yes. The risk of you or your dog being injured on his land is not worth the hassle.

Either find a different house or buy it and accept you will have an excruciatingly long 4 minute round trip to walk your dogs.

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It’s not the length of time that annoys me it’s the hassle. It feels so much freer walking straight out the door with my wellies, fanny pack and sweet boys.

It would be such a pain having to load up my dogs, find my glasses, open the gates etc

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DreamW3aver · 07/09/2024 16:23

rockingbird · 07/09/2024 15:28

I suspect you'll be told to keep off, rightly so. If it's a working farm you run the risk of potentially losing a dog under a tractor and the farmer won't be pleased.

I dont know where the OP lives but farm fields aren't all anywhere near the farm yard and, at least where I live never have tractors in them as a lot are for livestock

I'm sure the OP isn't stupid enough to walk her dogs in those places but if it s a deal breaker I'd say even if the farmer says yes when the field is empty that won't be a year round solution

As the moment I can see ploughed and empty fields around me but next week the unploughed ones might be full of sheep and before line the ploughed ones will have crops growing and no path to walk round

80sfanny · 07/09/2024 16:22

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tolerable · 07/09/2024 16:22

No cheek/no chance. you could knock say hi,potential new neighbours...then judge from there?

rumblegrumble · 07/09/2024 16:21

People in the countryside expect to find dog walkers (and cyclists, or even occasional horses or tractors) along narrow 60mph lanes. In the nicest possible way, I think if you don't know this you may not be best suited to the location - you need to always be very aware when driving that you might turn a corner and find yourself facing an obstacle; while you may be judging others for bombing down the road, they may well be less of a threat than you if you don't realise this, even if you're tootling along at 30. And wandering idly along listening to a podcast while your dog ambles on an extended lead won't really work, you'll have to train him. But many people happily walk their dogs along roads like this, and most have taught their dogs to press themselves into the hedge to let cars pass. I just say "in", and in they go.

krustykittens · 07/09/2024 16:20

DappledThings · 07/09/2024 16:15

It always baffles me when this kind of threads come up why people think it is "rude" or "entitled" just to ask a question.

"Would you consider reducing the height of your tree?"
"Would you mind if the electrician came round for an hour to the holiday cottage I am letting to you this week?"
"Would you mind if I walked my dogs carefully through your field?"

None of these are cheeky to ask. Rude to demand or to do without asking but the act of asking itself is not rude or entitled.

Yes, I agree. As a landowner, I would much rather people came and talked to me and you can have a conversation about why it might be a problem. Then you get to know your neighbours, and they feel more approachable, on both sides.

Whye · 07/09/2024 16:20

Obviously I’ve caused some offence by the replies. I’m a nice and considerate albeit ignorant neighbour. I’ve never lived in a setting with fields so am clueless on etiquette. The last thing I would want to do is piss off the people I will live close to.

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focacciamuffin · 07/09/2024 16:20

There is nothing wrong with asking the question. I know somebody who asked the same question and the answer was yes as long as there was no livestock in the fields. Currently there is, so they can’t.

chaosmaker · 07/09/2024 16:19

@Whye don't buy the house.

DappledThings · 07/09/2024 16:18

Imagine if someone you never met was thinking about moving to your street and using your drive once a day just for 5 mins during the school run? You’d laugh at the audacity.
If he was thinking about just doing it then yes, outrageous. If he was thinking about asking no problem and not in the least audacious.

LongtailedTitmouse · 07/09/2024 16:17

Whye · 07/09/2024 15:52

Dogs would be on a flexi lead, one is going deaf so his recall is hit and miss. He sticks close to me but you never know. He’s quite happy walking that way and I get peace of mind

So not at the edge of the field then, but actually a strip several metres wide?

DappledThings · 07/09/2024 16:15

It always baffles me when this kind of threads come up why people think it is "rude" or "entitled" just to ask a question.

"Would you consider reducing the height of your tree?"
"Would you mind if the electrician came round for an hour to the holiday cottage I am letting to you this week?"
"Would you mind if I walked my dogs carefully through your field?"

None of these are cheeky to ask. Rude to demand or to do without asking but the act of asking itself is not rude or entitled.

lazzapazza · 07/09/2024 16:15

Save your breath. The farmer is not going to say yes. The risk of you or your dog being injured on his land is not worth the hassle.

Either find a different house or buy it and accept you will have an excruciatingly long 4 minute round trip to walk your dogs.

YYURYYUCICYYUR4ME · 07/09/2024 16:15

Farmers here are really not keen on dogs in the fields, as they are private property and they have issues with poachers etc., bikes, so don't won't anyone on them who shouldn't be there. There are also issues with what is sprayed on the field, something to think about in regards to the health of the dog.

Goldusty · 07/09/2024 16:13

being that you haven’t yet moved into your new house you might want to ask yourself two questions….
is this the right place for a cf townie?
do I want to embarrass myself by asking the farmer a cf question?

RedRobyn2021 · 07/09/2024 16:13

rockingbird · 07/09/2024 15:28

I suspect you'll be told to keep off, rightly so. If it's a working farm you run the risk of potentially losing a dog under a tractor and the farmer won't be pleased.

🤣

Where do you live? Definitely isn't in the countryside and if it is you don't have a dog

What nonsense

pootlepootle · 07/09/2024 16:11

Meadowfinch · 07/09/2024 16:08

To be honest OP, the best thing you can do is buy yourself a dayglo pink hi-vis, and your dogs reflective pale blue coats, and walk them along the road, like the rest of us do.

I run on similar roads and just make sure I am very visible. People will slow down.

Also check an ordinance survey map as Pp suggested. There may already be a footpath.

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This is the best solution. It's what everyone else does. I hear of more sheep mauled by dogs than dogs mauled by cars.

Bristolnewcomer · 07/09/2024 16:10

Second the advice to check an OS map or app for footpaths, there maybe some v nearby.

I wouldn’t ask for access to walk the dogs on the fields if not though, most farmers would see it much the same way as you’d see it if someone asked to walk their dog round your garden or office. Fields are workplaces.

KnickerlessParsons · 07/09/2024 16:09

From experience, the lovely farm fields opposite to where you're moving could well be full of new Barrett homes in a few years' time. Does the farmer own the land he farms? Or is he a tenant farmer? Don't take anything for granted.

Proudtobeanortherner · 07/09/2024 16:08

I wouldn’t buy the house then because even if the current farmer said yes how do you know that the next one will and no field will be accessible every day. If stock are in or crops are growing you’d need to stay away. If you don’t t like where the house is don't buy it.

Meadowfinch · 07/09/2024 16:08

To be honest OP, the best thing you can do is buy yourself a dayglo pink hi-vis, and your dogs reflective pale blue coats, and walk them along the road, like the rest of us do.

I run on similar roads and just make sure I am very visible. People will slow down.

Also check an ordinance survey map as Pp suggested. There may already be a footpath.

ReadWithScepticism · 07/09/2024 16:07

Oh, yes, forgot to mention: If pasture, then ... cows. Bloody bastard scary cows. Used to be fine with them til one broke my finger the bastard.

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Moveoverdarlin · 07/09/2024 16:07

I live on a narrow country lane like this and yes, despite two cars not being able to pass, some people do bomb along. However I still walk my dog, most people when seeing me, slow right down. I also stand as far in to the hedge as possible, so they can pass. People that use the lane regularly, will get used to seeing you.

There is no way on EARTH I would ask the local farmers if I could walk my dog on their land. He’d say no. Whilst there may not be livestock there now, it’s not to say there won’t be next month. It’s his land, don’t ask. Imagine if someone you never met was thinking about moving to your street and using your drive once a day just for 5 mins during the school run? You’d laugh at the audacity.

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