Is DH is being weird about the neighbours

He got up in the night to look out of the window at them?

Ok, that's just not normal. That's edging into obsession territory.

I think you need to have a chat about it and say you're worried about his fixation on them and concerned whether this high level of interest in their comings and going has the potential to turn into obsession or stalking further down the road.

This may be his way of coping but he needs to reign it in a bit Op. The NDN aren't going to want him popping in or trying to get too involved, tell him to give them some privacy.

“He is the sort of person who will talk to you for five minutes and he’s your best friend kind of guy. A bit like a Labrador.” 😆

He’s nosey 🤷🏼‍♀️🙈 nothing more to it lol. The only thing I would say to him is the neighbours will likely end up knowing he’s a curtain twitcher…. we have one. They move around their house, pulling blinds down as we move around our property (they have the type of blinds, that when they pull one down it doesn’t always pop back).

They appear outside the same time as us, more times than could be a coincidence, they’ll inspect their car which they park on the road not the driveway- whilst chatting to DH kind of thing. If you want to know something, you ask him and he will embellish and tell you what he knows. Everybody knows he’s a nosey gossip, we also know he tells whoppers- which is the dangerous part.

He just sounds nosey to me

I think it’s fairly obvious why he is doing this, given your struggles to conceive. Poor guy is having a hard time mentally and I guess is latching onto this couple as a result. Give him a break.

I see the posters saying that he is being insensitive to you and your struggles for TTC (I'm sorry that it's taking a while as a side. I understand how stressful it is).
But I wonder if this is him exhibiting that he is struggling with TTC as well, and perhaps he is inwardly jealous of them? And is over compensating with being "okay" with it all to himself?
Sounds like you both need a good cuppa and a chat!

I'd interpret that as neighbour being prepared to help out with DD if necessary.

Why did you even mention TTC if you’re so sure jealousy hasnt
played a part in this?

Is fucking odd, it would drive me crazy

My partner jumps up and runs to the window 90% of the time when someone walks past. It drives me insane, he calls it neighbourhood watch. He’s 21 years older than me so maybe it’s a generational thing.

I dont think its weird. I get excited about random peoples stuff like this

🤣🤣🤣

Are you jealous that they’re having a baby?

Perhaps deep down you are which is why this is irritating you so much.

Nosey neighbours irritate me if they are being judgemental but it sounds like he’s genuinely excited for them, which is lovely.

A new baby is so exciting and I would probably be similar to your DH.

I think you need to try and separate your pain with not being able to conceive yet, with the excitement he feels for his neighbours and a new baby.
Gently, this isn’t about you.

If I was the neighbour, husband or wife I'd feel somewhat pissed off if I knew I was being watched like this. Would not see a good side to this at all.

This made me chuckle, so very familiar!

Maybe your husband needs a hobby. He sounds bored shitless.

If I make a concerted, Pollyanna-ish effort to be that interested and enthusiastic about something, I'm trying to fake it til I make it tbh. Usually because my actual feelings are less sunshiney, for personal reasons but I'm distinctly aware that I can't show that to the outside world. Babies tend to make me panic about whether we'll ever have one. But that's no ones fault and I'll be damned if people know it.

Not saying that this is the answer and you both sound incredibly nice and happy for your neighbours, but it sounds to me like he doth protest too much. I'd just ask him outright if he's finding the idea of a new baby so near but yet so far to be a bit much given your present situation, even though he obviously wishes them well- you're just amazed at his enthusiasm.

My husband is a meerkat as well
I find it baffling.

Have you told him that you’re uncomfortable talking about it so much? If you have, he really needs to respect it, even if it’s the elephant in the room. He sounds like he would benefit from some counselling, someone unbiased to talk to as it seems like he’s struggling with his feelings over TTC…perhaps he’s worried about his sperm (if that’s not been looked into) and was hoping conceiving a baby would happen straight away. I’d be all set to blame him/saying he fancied her if it seemed like the case, but it sounds like he’s talking to both neighbours/watching both and not just the mum. I think people on here need to think about what their opinion on this would be if it was a woman TTC.

i genuinely think he is getting too invested, but it comes from a place of jealousy and wishing that he was in that situation with you. It’s okay for him to want children badly.

It's a tad insensitive to op, given he and his spouse are struggling to conceive.