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To be angry with DDs school, she hasn't even started yet

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Downandout21 · 06/09/2024 16:05

Supposed to have a visit today from DDs teacher who is starting reception Monday.

I took an afternoon off unpaid to ensure I can give full attention. Appointment was 2.45. At 3 I called the school to ensure they had the correct address. The receptionist stated she would call me back when she finds out what going on.

It's not 16.00, no teacher and no phone call I've tried the school again but now just going to answer phone.

DD has expected the visit all day.

AIBU to be fuming

OP posts:
SamRatulangi · 06/09/2024 16:40

Fuming is a bit strong, any number of things could have happened. Hopefully the teacher arrived eventually

BirthdayRainbow · 06/09/2024 16:39

We had a home visit when my son was starting secondary but not primary.

RaraRachael · 06/09/2024 16:37

thursdaymurderclub · 06/09/2024 16:24

blimey it must be a fancy school... are you sure that the appointment was at the house and not at the school?

i've never had a visit from any teachers to my home, always been up to me to get to the school

Never heard of this either. It definitely isn't a thing around here. As a teacher I'd never have found time to go round 15 children's homes.

Overthebow · 06/09/2024 16:30

Yea that’s not a good start. If the teacher couldn’t make it for whatever reason they should have contacted you.

tigerbear · 06/09/2024 16:27

@thursdaymurderclub all children at my DD’s state CofE school had a home visit before starting reception.

Needmorelego · 06/09/2024 16:27

@thursdaymurderclub home visits are quite normal in state primary schools for Reception starters.

thursdaymurderclub · 06/09/2024 16:24

blimey it must be a fancy school... are you sure that the appointment was at the house and not at the school?

i've never had a visit from any teachers to my home, always been up to me to get to the school

Needmorelego · 06/09/2024 16:22

Unfortunately having to go to lots of children's homes they might have simply ran out of time.
Traffic jams and having trouble finding someone's house. One of the other meetings over running (not necessarily the teachers fault).
At 2.45 you would have been one of the last appointments of the day.
It's not brilliant that they didn't contact you but there may be dozens of reasons that they never made it to you.
Don't let this spoil your daughter's starting school moment.

modgepodge · 06/09/2024 16:19

It’s a shame for your daughter and very frustrating for you. I’m sure there was a good reason, it wasn’t just that the teacher couldn’t be bothered. They should have called you to tell you they were running late/not coming, but I suspect understaffing in schools meant this wasn’t possible.

Cantfindthewordsddstruggling · 06/09/2024 16:15

Downandout21 · 06/09/2024 16:09

And this is supposed to be one of the best schools in the area

There might have been a very good reason. I’d have an open mind and go in with a positive mindset for Monday. Don’t let this glitch spoil what is a special time for you and dd.
Allow yourself to be pissed off today and then move on.

Original poster
Downandout21 · 06/09/2024 16:09

And this is supposed to be one of the best schools in the area

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Cantfindthewordsddstruggling · 06/09/2024 16:08

Very poor form and certainly doesn’t leave a good first impression

Barrenfieldoffucks · 06/09/2024 16:07

Yup, rude from any appointment.

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