To be angry with DDs school, she hasn't even started yet

Get used to crap communication from schools then assuming you can drop everything for them, without them extending curtesy to you.

You only have to read a few school threads on here to see the contempt that parents are viewed with by some teachers.

Such a shame because a combined approached of schools working with parents and parents backing up teachers is so much better for everyone.

Luckily our local schools chose to visit children at nursery so they could get a few done at once.

It's not intrusive, it's entirely voluntary and is so the teacher can meet the child in their own relaxed environment.

We weren't offered it with DC1 because of covid. With DC2 we didn't think it was necessary as she was quite confident about starting but she really wanted to have her teacher see her home. In the end we cancelled on the day because DH had to go to hospital.

Nobody is forcing their way into your home.

Frankly this is no excuse. The appointment was 2.45 not 4 oclock.

That's really poor of them. I'd be cross having to take a half day and disappointed for my DD, she would be the same having looked forward to it.

Goodness I hope the teacher hasn’t been in an accident or had a medical emergency.

Make up a simple excuse for your DC and redirect your energy & theirs to having a nice evening/bedtime. Regardless of the cause, let it go. Don’t let this poison your attitude towards your DC starting school or their excitement.

Expecting a Teacher to come at 7pm is out of order and ‘after bedtime’

What was the point? Its to see the child in their home

For all you know the teacher has broken down, been involved in a collision, become ill, or had a personal emergency. There are any number of reasons that they might not have been able to contact you. I’m sure, whatever has happened, it was not done to personally upset or inconvenience you.

To take it personally or be furious seems like a massive overreaction.

My first thought was that the visit before yours
revealed an immediate safeguarding risk- which would have likely mean the teacher doing the visits, the school administrator and the safeguarding lead would all be tied up for the rest of the day. You can see how amidst all that, someone remembering to call the next appointment might get overlooked, or everyone thought someone else had done it.

or they might just be shit.

no way of knowing really, so I’d “let it go”, if you can.

Only in some areas!! My DNs had them in Sheffield; my DS1 of a similar age did not (Liverpool).

@CutthroatDruTheViolent it doesn’t excuse it but it serves no purpose not to approach Monday with a positive outlook. It’s a special day. Starting her dc’s school journey off from a place of hurt or anger does not do either of them any favours,

@bridgetreilly

dhes allowed to be fuming, she's taken 1/2 day unpaid to facilitate this. Probably had her DD asking every 5 minutes when the teachers coming & the school hasn't even had the decency to let her know the teacher isn't coming. I'd be fuming too, if I was at home anyway, I'd be annoyed, but not fuming. I think losing pay tips over into fuming!!

Tell them you tried to faciliate this once but can’t afford to take any more time off so any visits have to align with your working hours & give them times you can make it. My sister did this so one of the teachers did their visit at 7pm after bedtime.

Wow that's really bad
I'd be so annoyed too

I don't live in the UK, and the idea of a teacher making a home visit is very strange to me! It does feel very intrusive. And it seems incredibly inefficient. Wouldn't it make more sense for families to go to the school to meet the teacher?

But, given that it is apparently a thing, and you had an appointment OP, I would also be annoyed not to be informed of any changes in plans/traffic holdups etc.

And she will forget all about it the next day... The child will not remain traumatised by Mum being angry for 5 minutes.

My ds had a home visit on weds. Certainly not a fancy school! It's normal now

No excuse for not phoning.

Any repeat I suggest making a formal complaint. Getting time off is easier for some people than others, also for certain professions/jobs.

@Cantfindthewordsddstruggling

what 'very good reason' could there be for not calling to say they're sorry but they can't make it today??

I would be irritated but fuming is a complete overreaction. Calm down.

We had a home visit today, didn't have one for my eldest even though same school. Just depends on school policy. I didn't find it a problem or that they were judgy lol

Sometimes stuff can go wrong. Teacher steps into a situation with a parent who is really upset about their kid's SEND and is suddenly pulling out hankies. Teacher steps into a house and realises she needs to call social services right now, today. Teacher has a car accident on the way over. Teacher steps into a house and realises parent needs immediate medical help.

It shouldn't be a common occurrence but if someone kicks into emergency mode remembering to call and cancel all other appointments might be missed, and if the receptionist couldn't get hold of teacher then there was no update to give you.

Deep breath, start Monday with a fresh start.

I had the opposite. School teacher turned up at my house, but they hadn't said they were coming, so I was at work and DD was at nursery.

No there are at least 10 threads about this for various reasons.

Indication of things to come - run away and change school.

DS is almost 19 years old

we had a visit from the teacher before he started reception